im actually so weak

[star]

He left repeating what I said to him.

That's sweet of you. What do you mean by this part though? As in, he repeated "I don't have it"? And to himself?

 

[Zuleikha]

You are too nice OP people especially somalis will take advantage of that so toughen up please.


I hate when random people strike up conversation with me. I just walk way.

 

[Don]

@star that guy you wrote abt reminds me of me. I hold a conversation with Somali females that I ran into. They cool peoples runtii and they never hostile towards me.

Jus today I ran into a xaliimo at the grocery store and we happened to be waiting for an order and the lady was away. I didn't talk to her for maybe a 1 min before I striked up a conversation with her. She had a shopping with a baby that's perhaps 7 months and a 1.5 year old but I was hoping she was a newly divorced one. She was honest and said she was married and husband is a truck driver. She was kind of cute. I think she got married young. Oh well!

You're a good man every xalimo I start a Convo with runs when I tell them I'm a single father

 

[madamelioness]

I think being kind, gentle and patient are your strengths, however don't go beyond your limits.

When you overburden yourself or let others take advantage of you waxaad dambi ka gashay your own nafs. We will also be questioned about that. You might not hurt others but you are hurting yourself and hindering your own growth.

Question your actions and ask yourself why you do it, if it's just to please others or you fear people will think you're rude if you say 'no' then you're intentions are not for the Sake of Allah swt.

Correct your intentions, set your own healthy limits and understand you can't please everyone. Your reward is with Allah swt and not people.

 

[McLovin]

Its not neccessarily a bad thing but you are high in trait agreeableness. Its one of the big 5 personality traits. Jordan Peterson has made a series about if if you wanna learn more.

 

[daacad]

I wouldn't call been kind a weakness but been too kind could be.
I am surprised you didn't run away when the random(weird) guy proposed.
to give money to a homeless person is act of goodness but if you don't want to give just look down and walk away is not like they are forcing you to give them anything

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

You sound like an evil wicked person so what if a man proposed to you some of these chicks are gassed wallahi would you rather he asked you for heads

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

I don't think you did anything wrong in this scenario. I think it's on him for ambushing you with marriage like that.... is that even normal?

Ambush? Black Somali ma tahay yaro miise gaal?

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

That's sweet of you. What do you mean by this part though? As in, he repeated "I don't have it"? And to himself?

He was disgruntled, like as "F u"

 

[Tramo]

does this mean if I propose to u in the DMs u won't say no

 

[agnes]

You are so sweet, don't change. The best way to say no is to keep walking while you say it.

 

[The Cushitic One]

A somali man pretty much proposed to me today lool and I actually stood and listened to him speak for about 20mins

I've always had a hard time saying no to people.. best I can get to is "I'm sorry" or something similar. I also hate to hurt anyone... I'm way too weak.

Boy told me he was new here and wanted to find a woman to marry. Said he thought I was pretty and didn't want the opportunity to leave him. He was actually a nice guy but I wasn't interested.. Any normal person would leave but my head went on to thinking "he's Somali, be nice to him. Maybe muslim guys have a hard time getting married. You know Somali guys who've told you about thier experiences and rejection. Maybe he's a sweet guy simply trying to find a wife and hasn't been able to yet. Poor guy"

To make everything worse a homeless man asked me for money today. I had to actually mentally prepare myself to say no (no joke) but when he came to me, I pulled out whatever coins I had in my purse because I felt bad if I didn't. I gave a homeless man a whole $20 bill the other day because I couldn't say no (plus I only had 20s on me)

I'm an embarrassment wallahi. How do I toughen up

Am I even somali

I used to be the same as you walal, however you have to learn to say no, what I do is, think about something that really pisses me off and that helps.

I won't lie good people will always be good, but there's far more bad ppl in the world including Somali ppl.

Homeless ppl, I too used to give them so much money, don't give them eye contact, if you must offer to buy them food instead, when they say no, I walk away, I'm not paying someone to buy drugs with my money.

Becareful of Somali guys, the majority in the west will pretend to be nice, don't fall for it, never trust anyone let them earn your trust.

Always listen to your hooya's advice, their wise wallahi.

 

[star]

You sound like an evil wicked person so what if a man proposed to you some of these chicks are gassed wallahi would you rather he asked you for heads

Literally what

 

[Sarah136]

I am the same with homeless people.i try to help as much as I can and if I can't I will go home thinking of them and sometimes lose sleep over it.

 

[anonymous34]

I can't say no to homeless people either. I feel too bad. I give them all my loose change