If your a Somali parent who lives in the west, stop forcing your children under the age of 11 to wear the hijab!

[Dibleyy]

I feel like Somalia is probably one of the harshest parents when it comes to this! Other ethnic Muslim households usually don’t mind if the child doesn’t wear hijab at the age of 8 or 9 and lets them decide.

Why do Somali parents force their kids? Why do they think it’s normal to put a 4 year old in a hijab, I know a religious sister who has a 4 year old daughter who absolutely hates putting it on and constantly takes it off, her mother just picks it up and puts it back on! Do they not know it’s haram to take away another human beings autonomy on this no matter the age?!

Let me explain why this is extremely cruel especially living in the west

I grew up in an area with not a lot of Somalis who went to school with me during primary. I was the only hijabi, the only Muslim and the only black girl and one of the 2 only black people at the school. It was EXTREMELY isolating and I was not able to properly socialize as a result, do you not think it will hinder their growth later on? My caadan female teachers HATED me, the kids were repelled by me and I could never seem to catch a fucking break. Everything I did was wrong, looking back there were alot of issues that were not serious where they would call my parents and punish me while the caadan kids who did the same were coddled and cooed to and treated with empathy. Having to grow up and live your first 8 years of school from 4-12 being isolated and displaced from my peers does mess you up a bit.

Why punish your child because you selfishly decided to move to another part of your world and live with other gaalos for monetary ambitions?

Now if they’re over the age of 11, and reaching puberty I understand wanting to put on the pressure for them to wear it but it’s still a choice!

At least if your going to make them wear the hijab, pay up the $1000 a month and take them to Islamic school so they can live an actual normal ducking life otherwise shut up.

 

[Dibleyy]

Most of the issues with Somalia stem root from this! They’re not properly taught religious scripture or the deen, just the image and the veiling which has no purpose except to satisfy society’s image, the intention isn’t even for the deen itself.

 

[canab]

It's tough but also if you start from young it'll make it easier for them to wear it when they're older.

 

[Hamzza]

Keep your bullshit to yourself. No need to project your misery onto other Somalis. We will teach our kids(living around non-Muslims) the fundamentals of the Deen from a young age so that they can familiarize themselves with Islamic modesty.

 

[Dibleyy]

It's tough but also if you start from young it'll make it easier for them to wear it when they're older.

I started young and didn’t make things easier, it made it harder. I always wondered what it would be like because I had never experienced it.

Some kids that age will choose to do so to mimick their loved ones but if they decide to throw it off and run and play, what’s the issue? Their at least should be room to breath

 

[duchessofsomalia]

I feel like Somalia is probably one of the harshest parents when it comes to this! Other ethnic Muslim households usually don’t mind if the child doesn’t wear hijab at the age of 8 or 9 and lets them decide.

Why do Somali parents force their kids? Why do they think it’s normal to put a 4 year old in a hijab, I know a religious sister who has a 4 year old daughter who absolutely hates putting it on and constantly takes it off, her mother just picks it up and puts it back on! Do they not know it’s haram to take away another human beings autonomy on this no matter the age?!

Let me explain why this is extremely cruel especially living in the west

I grew up in an area with not a lot of Somalis who went to school with me during primary. I was the only hijabi, the only Muslim and the only black girl and one of the 2 only black people at the school. It was EXTREMELY isolating and I was not able to properly socialize as a result, do you not think it will hinder their growth later on? My caadan female teachers HATED me, the kids were repelled by me and I could never seem to catch a fucking break. Everything I did was wrong, looking back there were alot of issues that were not serious where they would call my parents and punish me while the caadan kids who did the same were coddled and cooed to and treated with empathy. Having to grow up and live your first 8 years of school from 4-12 being isolated and displaced from my peers does mess you up a bit.

Now if they’re over the age of 11, and reaching puberty I understand wanting to put on the pressure for them to wear it but it’s still a choice!

At least if your going to make them wear the hijab, pay up the $1000 a month and take them to Islamic school so they can live an actual normal ducking life otherwise shut up.

True. They should have choice. Hijab shouldn't be forced when all children want to do is socialise and fit in.

 

[Dibleyy]

Keep your bullshit to yourself. No need to project your miseries onto other Somalis. We will teach our kids(living around non-Muslims) the fundamentals of the Deen from a young age so that they can familiarize themselves with Islamic modesty.

Wtf do you know about wearing the hijab? I never said not to teach your kids the deen, I said don’t force them to wear it before it’s islamically required! Key words here are force and hijab

Learn to read next time

 

[canab]

I started young and didn’t make things easier, it made it harder. I always wondered what it would be like because I had never experienced it.

Some kids that age will choose to do so to mimick their loved ones but if they decide to throw it off and run and play, what’s the issue? Their at least should be room to breath

I started wearing it young and it was a lot easier. It's always going to be easier than somebody who is just starting to wear it as a teenager. Also I went to a diverse school so that's what probably made it easier but yeah I agree

 

[Hamzza]

Wtf do you know about wearing the hijab? I never said not to teach your kids the deen, I said don’t force them to wear it before it’s islamically required!

Learn to read next time

Hijab is part and parcel of the Deen and kids shouldn't be disobeying the order of their parents. Your filthy message is rejected periodt.

 

[iskufilann]

Tbh, from a young age, children are more likely to listen and if you start making them wear the hijab whilst they are young, then it will become easier for them to wear it throughout their life ygm. You are also fulfilling your rights as a parent. If they want to take it off, when they are older, then that's their choice. You cannot control them at that age.

 

[Dibleyy]

Hijab is part and parcel of the Deen and kids shouldn't be disobeying the order of their parents. Your filthy message is rejected periodt.

Take it up with Allah SWT then! If you think your right lol

If you bothered to educate yourself on the deen you’d understand forcing someone is completely haram and respect is given to the parent but the child also has rights.

 

[iskufilann]

Hijab is part and parcel of the Deen and kids shouldn't be disobeying the order of their parents. Your filthy message is rejected periodt.

You do realise children don't have to wear the hijab?

 

[Dibleyy]

Tbh, from a young age, children are more likely to listen and if you start making them wear the hijab whilst they are young, then it will become easier for them to wear it throughout their life ygm. You are also fulfilling your rights as a parent. If they want to take it off, when they are older, then that's their choice. You cannot control them at that age.

Listen if a 5 year old wants to take off the hijab to run around and play, why shouldn’t they be able to? Yeah you can try to put it on them, but if they’re insistent and keep throwing it off stop forcing them

 

[iskufilann]

Listen if a 5 year old wants to take off the hijab to run around and play, why shouldn’t they be able to? Yeah you can try to put it on them, but if they’re insistent and keep throwing it off stop forcing them!

Sis, if they want to take it off then of course they can because they're only 5 lmao. Personally speaking, if I was a parent, I wouldn't force the hijab on my daughter till they are a bit older tbh.
If I make them start wearing it at aged 5, they'll probably feel left out and then take it off for good once they are older

 

[duchessofsomalia]

Sis, if they want to take it off then of course they can because they're only 5 lmao. Personally speaking, if I was a parent, I wouldn't force the hijab on my daughter till they are a bit older tbh.
If I make them start wearing it at aged 5, they'll probably feel left out and then take it off for good once they are older

They don't really feel isolation at 5 years old. They're babies. There's nothing in their brain established yet. However when they get to 7 and up is different because they can actualize choices and what they need.

 

[iskufilann]

They don't really feel isolation at 5 years old. They're babies. There's nothing in their brain established yet. However when they get to 7 and up is different because they can actualized choices and what they need.

Some 5 year olds are smart for their age and can realise a lot of things. They will start to question you about the hijab and why they are the only ones wearing it lmao

 

[duchessofsomalia]

Some 5 year olds are smart for their age and can realise a lot of things. They will start to question you about the hijab and why they are the only ones wearing it lmao

Exceptions can exist but generally 5 year olds are solely dependent on a caregiver. However I understand your point.

 

[SonOfMaverick]

I see mostly little Somali girls wear it while Arab and Turkish girls are allowed more freedom without being sIut shamed. The way Zoo-malis sexualize kids is crazy.

 

[Based]

Another plat thread about these rinsed topics. Raise your kids how you like people.

 

[Hamzza]

Take it up with Allah SWT then! If you think your right lol

If you bothered to educate yourself on the deen you’d understand forcing someone is completely haram and respect is given to the parent but the child also has rights.

I don't what Islam you follow