If you weren't interested in sex, you had no desire for it, would you still want to get married.

Would you want to get married?

  • Yes for other reasons

    Votes: 37 62.7%

  • No

    Votes: 20 33.9%

  • Undecided

    Votes: 2 3.4%
  • Total voters
    59
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Taij4an

AllStarSaciid said:
You keep on speaking of not getting what “you want” in relationships or your sexual encounters, what is it ideally u would like for a relationship to be, apart from the sex?
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I personally have no interest in a relationship anyway.
What I a interested in, is if other people value a relationship on sex, or other things, like family, status, love, companionship etc etc
since I have no desire to be in a relationship with a women, I wonder if other ppl desire to be with a women only for sex or for other things
Also I never said I don't get what I want in a relationship, I am specifically saying, anything to do with sex to me, is just a lie, and overrated, in anyway u do it, it will eventually not be what u want, if u seek to fill all ur desires, uw ill obviously have to do haram, because who wants to have sex with one women for the rest of their life, and if u do that not only do u do haram, but u lose out on the dunya, there are so many negatives to it, and u also lose ur iman and the akhirah, sex becomes a race for more pleasure but each time u get less pleasure, it ruins ur life.
Now if u wanna fill ur sexual desire through marriage, not only will u get bored of ur wife eventually, and still be attracted to other women, but u will still have to make effort to keep urself chaste, marriage doesnt automatically make u only desire ur wife, u will still have desires for other women, not only that, but it comes with thousands of other nuisances and responsibilities along with that, just for sex, and at the end of the day, after u filled ur desire, u wont even care about sex anymore, there is way more important stuff in life than sex
so basically what I am saying, is that no matter what way u look at it, I don't care about sex, nor will it bring me anything, why should I care about it,
 
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AllStarSaciid

Taij4an said:
I personally have no interest in a relationship anyway.
What I a interested in, is if other people value a relationship on sex, or other things, like family, status, love, companionship etc etc
since I have no desire to be in a relationship with a women, I wonder if other ppl desire to be with a women only for sex or for other things
Also I never said I don't get what I want in a relationship, I am specifically saying, anything to do with sex to me, is just a lie, and overrated, in anyway u do it, it will eventually not be what u want, if u seek to fill all ur desires, uw ill obviously have to do haram, because who wants to have sex with one women for the rest of their life, and if u do that not only do u do haram, but u lose out on the dunya, there are so many negatives to it, and u also lose ur iman and the akhirah, sex becomes a race for more pleasure but each time u get less pleasure, it ruins ur life.
Now if u wanna fill ur sexual desire through marriage, not only will u get bored of ur wife eventually, and still be attracted to other women, but u will still have to make effort to keep urself chaste, marriage doesnt automatically make u only desire ur wife, u will still have desires for other women, not only that, but it comes with thousands of other nuisances and responsibilities along with that, just for sex, and at the end of the day, after u filled ur desire, u wont even care about sex anymore, there is way more important stuff in life than sex
so basically what I am saying, is that no matter what way u look at it, I don't care about sex, nor will it bring me anything, why should I care about it,
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Look I understand that men can have sex with no emotional investment unlike women but your excuse of not “caring” for sex is pathetic to say the least. You sound like the incels that off themselves.

I know your type, rationalizing your lack of intimacy with things like this
not only that, but it comes with thousands of other nuisances and responsibilities along with that
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dont go and tell your hooyo u don’t desire marriage and intimacy, the disgust that floods her face will evaporate the little testosterone left in your system.
 
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Taij4an

AllStarSaciid said:
but your excuse of not “caring” for sex is pathetic to say the least. You sound like the incels that off themselves.

I know your type, rationalizing your lack of intimacy with things like this
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Nah, there is always a baseline level everyone would usually have for desire for sex, but it is very low compared to what it currently is in the hyper sexualised society, I am not rationalising anything, u can't really use logic to control ur inner desires anyway, ppl dont have a logical reason for wanting sex, I am just telling u the way I view sex, which is why I explained it logically, the way I view it is that it isn't important to me at all.
Ofc the reason I don't desire sex is more of my lifestyle that I choose to live. I am not an incel, im pretty sure incels can't get women, I chose to stay away from women, obviously cos of deen reasons, so I am used to being celibate and not wanting to have sex with women, marriage as a thing doesn't interest me at all, even though I may have to do it anyway.
We are delving too deep into the topic, the main purpose of the discussion is to see how much you guys value sex in marriage,would u still get married if you didn't desire sex
 
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AllStarSaciid

Taij4an said:
Nah, there is always a baseline level everyone would usually have for desire for sex, but it is very low compared to what it currently is in the hyper sexualised society, I am not rationalising anything, u can't really use logic to control ur inner desires anyway, ppl dont have a logical reason for wanting sex, I am just telling u the way I view sex, which is why I explained it logically, the way I view it is that it isn't important to me at all.
Ofc the reason I don't desire sex is more of my lifestyle that I choose to live. I am not an incel, im pretty sure incels can't get women, I chose to stay away from women, obviously cos of deen reasons, so I am used to being celibate and not wanting to have sex with women, marriage as a thing doesn't interest me at all, even though I may have to do it anyway.
We are delving too deep into the topic, the main purpose of the discussion is to see how much you guys value sex in marriage,would u still get married if you didn't desire sex
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Whatever
 
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Kane

Taij4an said:
Umm
I can have sex with a women and please her and not care about sex myself, i mean thats kinda what i think ur supposed to do anyway
Sex is key for alot of ppl relationships, but its not the core part, i think steve harvey sed if u have it then it will only be 5% of importance to ur relationship but if u dont have it it will be 90% issue in ur relationship.
Ppl overvalue sex too much in this day and age.

A womens pleasure has got nothing to do with my desire for sex Kane, I can please a women and not care about it myself, I
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GuanYu said:
LOL Bro, I'd Suggest you Write a Book on it and publish it under a pen name :pachah1:

I tried to explain it to him whilst keeping it PG on these forums
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Taij4an said:
Do you feel love for women in your heart that you are with?
I want to know what kind of person u are
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Kane said:
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Well alot of women are in relationships and don't have sex and they have no problem with.

So you agree with me that sex is overrated, especially for men

I don't take advice from steve harvey either but his statement holds truth to it
 
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