So seeing some of
@Manafesto threads I thought Id make one this is all from my perspective
- Nowadays the way haram relationships and zina is normalized it's crazy if you want someone you should take the right steps no hugs or physical contact and always meet them in a public place like a cafe/coffe shop if you have similiar views and marriage expectations you should get your parents involved and get the nikkah done
- Although physical attraction is important it shouldn't be the main reason you go for someone cause good looks fade deen, personality and character is what matters cause that persons mindset is gonna raise your kids not their looks
- The money you earn you spend on your wife spoil her and take care of the bills if she's working let her spend her money as she wishes when she was in her parents house they where responsible over her now that shes your wife you are and she didnt leave her parents house to split bills
- You should know how to cook and clean cause when you're married living under the same roof its not your wifes role or job to look and take care of the house on her own cause you live there aswell which means its a shared responsibility between you two to look after each other
-when you have kids its gonna send them a message about how to treat their spouse and behave as a husband and they will see love in many ways you gonna be raising emotionally secure kids who gonna view you and your wifey as a source of comfort
Last thing id like to say is its important to have a job but the same effort and time you spend on your wife you should spend the same effort on your wife and kids because they deserve it
Your wife deserves to feel loved and appreciated dont underestimate your importance and value to your family you are your wifes teammate and your childrens hero dont throw that away for hobbies,work or because you're tired be the man they need you to be
