If a girl gets pregnant before marriage

[Mercury]

Im curious why in Somali culture does the girl get blamed for it

Some justify it by saying she should have kept her legs together

Shouldnt the Guy kept his pants on?

Theyre both in the wrong but how come the woman gets the blame and get shamed for it

Theres even a Somali saying that goes like this ”ragu ceeb maleh”
Meaning Men have no shame

This kinda things are just soo stupid and shouldnt have no place in Somali society

 

[Snake]

thats just how life is

 

[Steamdevolopment]

Im curious why in Somali culture does the girl get blamed for it

Some justify it by saying she should have kept her legs together

Shouldnt the Guy kept his pants on?

Theyre both in the wrong but how come the woman gets the blame and get shamed for it

Theres even a Somali saying that goes like this ”ragu ceeb maleh”
Meaning Men have no shame

This kinda things are just soo stupid and shouldnt have no place in Somali society

You know damn well why

Firstly, a patriarchal society grants privileges to men and this is just but one of them.

Secondly, a woman's sexuality is guarded while men's sexuality is monitored. Thus as long as the male behaviors within normative standards he faces little social sanctions while the woman has no room to behavior without breaking normative standards due to the said dynamic.

Thirdly, for the poor families this would decrease the commodity value of not only the woman but even the commodity value of the women in the family and thus deprive of them of providers of better means. It is therefore in the vested interest of the group to sanction such a behavior from a woman.

 

[Subeer]

Im curious why in Somali culture does the girl get blamed for it

Some justify it by saying she should have kept her legs together

Shouldnt the Guy kept his pants on?

Theyre both in the wrong but how come the woman gets the blame and get shamed for it

Theres even a Somali saying that goes like this ”ragu ceeb maleh”
Meaning Men have no shame

This kinda things are just soo stupid and shouldnt have no place in Somali society

Question is @Mercury what are YOU doing to bring down the patriarcy in somalia
If it bothers you that much? I mean except ing about it on SSpot

 

[Mercury]

Question is @Mercury what are YOU doing to bring down the patriarcy in somalia
If it bothers you that much? I mean except ing about it on SSpot

Talking about the issues we have and admitting there is a problem is the first step

I wouldnt mind working for a NGO back home or even UNICEF cause im pretty sure gender equality is something they work with

 

[Lostbox]

Thirdly, for the poor families this would decrease the commodity value of not only the woman but even the commodity value of the women in the family and thus deprive of them of providers of better means. It is therefore in the vested interest of the group to sanction such a behavior from a woman.

What a great point. Never thought of it that way.

 

[yaanyuur]

You know damn well why

Firstly, a patriarchal society grants privileges to men and this is just but one of them.

Secondly, a woman's sexuality is guarded while men's sexuality is monitored. Thus as long as the male behaviors within normative standards he faces little social sanctions while the woman has no room to behavior without breaking normative standards due to the said dynamic.

Thirdly, for the poor families this would decrease the commodity value of not only the woman but even the commodity value of the women in the family and thus deprive of them of providers of better means. It is therefore in the vested interest of the group to sanction such a behavior from a woman.

Beautiful

 

[nine]

Because the man doesn't have a baby growing in his calool

You know damn well why

Firstly, a patriarchal society grants privileges to men and this is just but one of them.

Secondly, a woman's sexuality is guarded while men's sexuality is monitored. Thus as long as the male behaviors within normative standards he faces little social sanctions while the woman has no room to behavior without breaking normative standards due to the said dynamic.

Thirdly, for the poor families this would decrease the commodity value of not only the woman but even the commodity value of the women in the family and thus deprive of them of providers of better means. It is therefore in the vested interest of the group to sanction such a behavior from a woman.

Oh look! Another crazy Steamdevelopment 387297297 word paragraph

 

[Gooney112]

You know damn well why

Firstly, a patriarchal society grants privileges to men and this is just but one of them.

Secondly, a woman's sexuality is guarded while men's sexuality is monitored. Thus as long as the male behaviors within normative standards he faces little social sanctions while the woman has no room to behavior without breaking normative standards due to the said dynamic.

Thirdly, for the poor families this would decrease the commodity value of not only the woman but even the commodity value of the women in the family and thus deprive of them of providers of better means. It is therefore in the vested interest of the group to sanction such a behavior from a woman.

Professor steam in the house. Clap your hands mofos.
Seriously great post and all valid points.

 

[El qashin]

Done out here

 

[Kudhufo Kadhaqaq]

It's always the girl's fault sxb.

Just deal with it.

 

[Subeer]

I wouldnt mind working for a NGO back home or even UNICEF cause im pretty sure gender equality is something they work with

You're "pretty sure", and you "wouldn't mind" , but somehow you're still home in safe, comfortable, egalitarian sweden while somali women back home are suffering?
Tell me @Mercury do you really care about somali womens rights, or are you just another troll?

 

[Mercury]

You're "pretty sure", and you "wouldn't mind" , but somehow you're still home in safe, comfortable, egalitarian sweden while somali women back home are being opressed?
Tell me @Mercury do you really care about somali womens rights, or are you just another troll?

Im a troll cause I care about equality

 

[Zach]

Im curious why in Somali culture does the girl get blamed for it

Some justify it by saying she should have kept her legs together

Shouldnt the Guy kept his pants on?

Theyre both in the wrong but how come the woman gets the blame and get shamed for it

Theres even a Somali saying that goes like this ”ragu ceeb maleh”
Meaning Men have no shame

This kinda things are just soo stupid and shouldnt have no place in Somali society

Isn’t that in every culture? Tell me one, where the boy is shamed.

 

[Subeer]

Im a troll cause I care about equality

You're not just a troll, but a hypocrite too.
Srs if you really cared about somali women back home, you wouldn't be making threads on a forum filled with people whos IQ doesn't exceed 68.
But actually out there doing something which is going to be benefitting somali women.

 

[Twwin]

i agree, our culture is so backwards

 

[Zach]

Talking about the issues we have and admitting there is a problem is the first step

I wouldnt mind working for a NGO back home or even UNICEF cause im pretty sure gender equality is something they work with

You wouldn’t mind? Like they’d hire just a random person? You have to be passionate about a cause to work at a NGO or UNICEF and you need a degree too. So please don’t waste your time trying. People back home need more immediate things than equality. Equality doesn’t fill their stomachs, or make them less thirsty, or grow their fields, or stop their kids and animals from dying.

 

[Zach]

i agree, our culture is so backwards

In a way are all cultures backwards regarding that point.
Mostly because a guy can just leave and nobody notices anything different but when a girl gets pregnant there is no hiding...

 

[Cumar]

Im curious why in Somali culture does the girl get blamed for it

Some justify it by saying she should have kept her legs together

Shouldnt the Guy kept his pants on?

Theyre both in the wrong but how come the woman gets the blame and get shamed for it

Theres even a Somali saying that goes like this ”ragu ceeb maleh”
Meaning Men have no shame

This kinda things are just soo stupid and shouldnt have no place in Somali society

You're delusional man and you clearly don't live in the real world. People like you are gonna mislead girls into thinking their actions will be seen just as a man would.

People are cruel and unforgiving if a girl makes a mistake thats it for her reputation its done. Not saying it is right but to ignore reality is naive.

 

[Sheikh]

You're delusional man and you clearly don't live in the real world. People like you are gonna mislead girls into thinking their actions will be seen just as a man would.

People are cruel and unforgiving if a girl makes a mistake thats it for her reputation its done. Not saying it is right but to ignore reality is naive.

Well said fam.