I need help getting over a grudge.

[Slickback]

what deep discussion? He is literally crying over some girls who had crushes on him in high-school that would tease him.

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mean

 

[Desert Flower]

Yeah, you’re right. But those working in these makeup stores are 9/10 white women, and these women don’t know how to fucking match us for real.

They usually wear darker foundation shade than their actual color to hide their melanin deficiency, so when you ask them to match you they give you a darker foundation shade on purpose.

Last time I matched was a few months back. I ended up buying a mac foundation that was 3 shades darker. I use this foundation as a bronzer now. Like how can they make such a big mismatch?


Who do you pay to do it for u?

Nah, I was being sarcastic about that.

But you are right, my experience has been with madoow women, who would purposely match me with shades way darker than my skin tone.

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Ultimately, it really depends on who you end up with. My experience is that brown girls (i.e. South Asian's) are good at matching me with something close to my skin tone.

 

[SumMo]

Nah, I was being sarcastic about that.

But you are right, my experience has been with madoow women, who would purposely match me with shades way darker than my skin tone.

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Ultimately, it really depends on who you end up with. My experience is that brown girls (i.e. South Asian's) are good at matching me with something close to my skin tone.

Very informative, thx abaayo.

I know sis, the evil eye is real. Always keep saying «Allahuma barik» under your breath when dealing with these gaals.

 

[MariaMaria]

Yeah, you’re right. But those working in these makeup stores are 9/10 white women, and these women don’t know how to fucking match us for real.

They usually wear darker foundation shade than their actual color to hide their melanin deficiency, so when you ask them to match you they give you a darker foundation shade on purpose.

Last time I matched was a few months back. I ended up buying a mac foundation that was 3 shades darker. I use this foundation as a bronzer now. Like how can they make such a big mismatch?


Who do you pay to do it for u?

I have 3 different foundations and 2 different concealers and I have to use and mix a tiny bit of everything to get me colour correct.

Went to a makeup counter recently and some bengali chick tried to sell me the colour warm beige talking about "after a few hours the ashy look will fade" it ain't just the white chicks failing us

 

[SumMo]

I have 3 different foundations and 2 different concealers and I have to use and mix a tiny bit of everything to get me colour correct.

Went to a makeup counter recently and some bengali chick tried to sell me the colour warm beige talking about "after a few hours the ashy look will fade" it ain't just the white chicks failing us

Wallahi none of these ajinbis can be trusted loooool!!!

 

[PhaedrusHunt]

Hada ma waxaay rabta mid Trey Songz u shida...bet the neighbours know my name...

Bax iblis yahow

 

[Desert Flower]

Very informative, thx abaayo.

I know sis, the evil eye is real. Always keep saying «Allahuma barik» under your breath when dealing with these gaals.

Abaayo, it is, may Allah protect us from it, ameen.

I stay reading ayatuul kursi, and my adkhar as well.

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[SumMo]

Abaayo, it is, may Allah protect us from it, ameen.

I stay reading ayatuul kursi, and my adkhar as well.

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Same sis!!

Always stay on that deen and protect yourself from the evils of this earth, while being humble about your blessings!

 

[Desert Flower]

I have 3 different foundations and 2 different concealers and I have to use and mix a tiny bit of everything to get me colour correct.

Went to a makeup counter recently and some bengali chick tried to sell me the colour warm beige talking about "after a few hours the ashy look will fade" it ain't just the white chicks failing us

Why do they like the ashy look horta?

But I share your sentiments with the mixing thing. Its time consuming, and also alot of money you have to spend buying all of these products.

 

[Desert Flower]

Same sis!!

Always stay on that deen and protect yourself from the evils of this earth, while being humble about your blessings!

I agree abaayo.

 

[Daleelah]

I wonder where Idil's gone lately?...I miss her..

Idil's out there mashAllah memorizing Imaam Bukhari's, book of manners..aniguna meeshan ayaan ku saaqiday..

 

[SumMo]

I wonder where Idil's gone lately?...I miss her..

Idil's out there mashAllah memorizing Imaam Bukhari's, book of manners..aniguna meeshan ayaan ku saaqiday..

She was on here a some hours ago. Sida uu jeclahay @Idil-Beydaan

 

[MariaMaria]

Why do they like the ashy look horta?

But I share your sentiments with the mixing thing. Its time consuming, and also alot of money you have to spend buying all of these products.

I noticed they use a lot of powdered foundation on the tube you always see caadan woman putting on make up and they are just putting dust on their faces and red lipstick.

Is it me or after a while of using a foundation you like it suddenly just doesn't do its thing and it looks bad on your skin , like you've become immune to it

 

[Daleelah]

She was on here a some hours ago. Sida uu jeclahay @Idil-Beydaan

Haa she was liking a few posts and then she ran..laakiin me and you need Quran akhris...sidani si maaha abaayo macaan..wax ba ina haya..


Let's call Abaay Abaay

 

[Daleelah]

Sorry Abaay Abaay..I had to get that last one in there before I logged out..

 

[SumMo]

Haa she was liking a few posts and then she ran..laakiin me and you need Quran akhris...sidani si maaha abaayo macaan..wax ba ina haya..


Let's call Abaay Abaay

I listen to quraan everyday. Believe it or not, I’m actually not that bad of a girl. alx

I listen to somali music, nasheeds and quraan. Thats usually how my playlist goes. I will cut off the somali music before Ramadan approaches.
:siilaanyosmile:
So I will be one step behind sister Idil soon insha’Allah. Pray for me and my progress!

 

[Hmmmm]

OP ended up getting make-up advice

 

[MariaMaria]

I need help getting over a grudge that I've developed towards Somali women.

Before I continue, I want to say that "grudge" is too strong of a word. My feelings are more of a mild dislike due to previous interactions, but "grudge" is easier to type and I'm using it for lack of a better word.

So where does this all stem from...

I have never met a Somali girl who hasn't been a dick to me up until I was 19. I'm not exaggerating.

During secondary school, I wasn't picked on much but 90% of the insults I did get were from Somali girls. Most of the time it was light teasing, but sometimes it was pretty insulting. For example, on non-uniform day I would spend some time picking out my clothes for the day only to walk into morning registration and get roasted by the same handful of Somali girls. I know this is petty and I would always say something back to them, but sometimes it did get to me. I was just a young teenager.
But towards year 10 and 11, I stopped talking with these girls and responding to their insults. Eventually they left me alone.

Fast forward to College, there was one occasion which really cemented this mentality into me. There was a Somali girl who shared some of my classes and friends. Eventually we become friends. (First actual female Somali friend)
One day I left college with her, we were walking down the high street together and out of nowhere she links arms with me. I immediately pulled away and asked her what she was doing (I had a massive crush on this Polish girl from class who was near us). She said it was a joke etc. Later that night I got a message from her full of abuse. Saying I'm ugly and that she's going to find my mum and tell her I'm sleeping with the Polish girl. I tried to apologise the next day but she started to ignore me for a while and I stopped bothering with her.


From then on, I became SUPER disinterested in Somali girls. Towards the end of uni and up until now, I've had 3 really good Somali girls come into my life. Each one I stupidly turned away from.

I met one, a year ago, at a Syrian charity event I was dragged to. We talked for like 40 minutes and swapped numbers. I ended up picking this other girl (who I was seeing at the time and who turned out to be a complete ) over her. Even though the Somali girl was better in every single way. Smarter, funnier, more attractive etc.

A few months back, I was introduced to one by a friend. We went out once and had a lot of fun. That night I lied to her saying that I was super busy with work and can't see her again for a while. Eventually we stopped talking.



Reading through this, I realise it's complete BS. But I can't help it. I find it hard looking at Somali girls from a relationship standpoint. Although my preference is not with Somalis and my parents don't mind where the woman I end marrying is from. A part of me still wants to start a family with a Somali woman someday.

What do I do?

If nice somali girls are approaching you then try and go out with one of them. That 'grudge' you have, is holding you back.

Don't be afraid of rejection.

 

[Karim]

If a girl is mean to you just sing Don't Judge me by Chris Brown
"So please babe
So please don't judge me
And I won't judge you
'Cause it could get ugly
Before it gets beautiful"