I might be getting an arranged marriage
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Clearly your self interest is more important. I'm not attacking btw, but you don't have much of a leg to stand on if women too worry about their future. Having food and a good future for ones children is more important than sex, hence I really can't take men seriously when they have issues with women caring about their quality of life which money certainly impacts, when a man will most definitely leave or bring another woman into the mix if there is a threat to their sex life whether it be bad health or age.
Most girls will get to know a man who is at university and doing a course that will most definitely get them a stable job in the future. Its doable if you're ambitious and are actually doing a sensible degree and have done internships to secure a good graduate job at 22-23. You can get to know a girl around that age, get to know each other and both save up so by the time you're 24-25 you have a good amount to get married. Then maybe a year or two you can start having kids ect.
Women marry broke men everyday based on 'love' and 'potential'. A man not doing well can go for them. But the problem is that men are obsessed with women who don't want them. God help them. The average Farax, even if he works in a warehouse has no problem marrying, so I don't understand why many worry about so called 'gold diggers' or women who simply want a very stable man. Each to their own.
I'd say get the bag sis but these arab raised fellas are 9 times outta 10 misogynistic and violent. You might get the bag but also get a black eye in the process. All jokes aside if this aint a joke do not I repeat go through with this if you value your freedom and sanity.
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The point about salaries isn't necessarily true. Especially in pre-Farmaajo snafu UAE and the rest of the Khaleej states. A Somali is considered "Arab" to these countries (by virtue of the league membership) and if you speak both English and Arabic fluently you're eligible for a pretty handsome salary compared to most Europeans, Asians and Africans. Only like Brits, Americans and Locals would be above you for the most part. And a lot of reer Khaleej are pretty financially well off enough to not even necessarily care about western passports. If you have tens of thousands to over a hundred grand in your bank account they'll let you travel anywhere regardless of your passport. My aabo to this day gets borderline begged by countries like the UK and Canada to settle down and go for a path to citizenship, lol.
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But fair advice, if he's not well-off he could have the intention of being with Qeelbax for citizenship.
Sxb ngl you've been fed some romanticised bs like the male version of the notebook. You want a women to basically be subservient to you during your humble (broke) beginnings and give up her time supporting your dreams. How is she 100 percent sure you won't be a dameer and drop her when you make it? Nobody with a sense of self esteem would make such a commitment.
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Abdisamad
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You just want to scare the xalimos from getting married - they'll grow old while looking for a guy with money.
He doesn't need to scare us. We see it everywhere. Also, there is a difference between a man with serious money and a relatively stable man you don't have to make huge sacrifices for. Most women would be happy with the latter and as a man, you should try to aim for that.
A woman's very survival depends on finding a man who can provide properly. Like Angelina said, it's biologically ingrained in us to protect our offspring and we do that by finding the most suitable male to carry children for.
In fact, men should be concerned about marrying women who don't calculate the risks of who they are marrying. That's the same woman who will train your daughters to settle for less.
Funnily enough, once they become fathers themselves one of the first questions they'd ask after deen and character about a potential son-in-law is if he has a stable job that can provide for wife and kids. Men want comfortable lives for their daughters and grandchildren, but will vilify the daughters of other for wanting stability for themselves. That is why you can't take men outside of your family seriously when it comes to advise.
Abdisamad
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Yes if you live in a poor country, but here in Scandinavia where I live you can have a comfortable life even as an student - so money is not a big issue and once you finish your study and if you are very ambitious its not hard to get a well paid job.. But my previous message was more addressing why some women are very focused on getting with a wealthy man.. I think I understand now, the more money the man has the more secure will the women feel in his company..
Lool.. I wasn't advocating for girls/women to settle with bum ass losers.
Walaale, it's not 'money', it's ambition that women are seeking. For example, if for some reason this world reverts to the stone-ages, a woman needs a man that will go outside and fish, hunt etc, to feed the family, not a man that will sit there, pick a few berries and say 'Allah will provide'.
You're right, in some countries, there is way less fear of financial insecurity. But this world is unpredictable. Right now Russia and NATO countries may clash soon, so all this financial security may be at risk, Allah forbid.
Don't forget that women are physically far weaker than men and cannot survive alone in a cut-throat world with no law and order. We need to attach ourselves to strong men to live, whether it's our brothers, husbands or other male relatives. That's just how it is. It is wise to always think ahead and plan for ALL circumstances.
From your posts on this forum, you have always been an upstanding gentleman who is ambitious and well-mannered so I know you aren't intending for ladies to settle for bums.
Abdisamad
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Yes I understand and I agree.. Of course you can't sit around and expect things to happen magically.
Prepare yourself to live like a Saudi lady, and possibly in Saudia ArabiaSERIOUS, NO TROLLING!
My mom recently found this Arab-Somali man for me. He’s only seen a picture of me but he fancies me. Apparently it was my grandpa who caused this as he apparently knows his father.
I of course said no but turns out he’s from a wealthy family. In Saudi Arabia. Not like extremely wealthy but his fathers income is 7 figures.
I absolutely have zero interest in this man. But I have interest in his pockets.
Wallahi I thought my mom was exaggerating because why would somali saudi person go for a somali person when I live in the west?
This sounds sketchy to me… Like there’s a catch. Is he an adulterer or something? Does he need a proud Darod gyal like me to retain somali traditions? My mom said something about them spending a considerable amount of time back home when they were younger. Maybe he’s retained his somalinino and wants a somali wife. But I’m very western, so that can’t be it.
reer
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gabadga wants and needs a man who can afford her current economic status lifestyle or a higher lifestyle. a man being able to provide waa daruuri wax laga gudbi karo maaha. wiilka can be excellent but if he doesnt have income gabadhayda ma siinayo.
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