I just discovered WHY Femininity in men is increasing in our todays world.

[Angelina]

I don't understand women sometimes, they say they hate men who control them and are domineering but are at the same time attracted to men who have those exact characteristics. Baffles me to no end walaahi.

Like what do you want? Men with masculine dominant traits or masculine men with a touch of feminine gentleness? But can a man truly be masculine if he has a feminine side as well? Women are really the greatest test in dunya for men, just as the prophet PBUH predicted.

Why is men's masculinity, especially Somali men on sspot based on dominanting women. Your manliness is comprised of trying to dominate or abuse women.

Its never about working, training your bodies and minds...... Its simply women.

Having compassion, kindness and respect is still very much masculine.

 

[Basra]

Yes issaq and Madow

Madow aah? Have a lovely day huuno

 

[Basra]

Why is men's masculinity, especially Somali men on sspot based on dominanting women. Your manliness is comprised of trying to dominate or abuse women.

Its never about working, training your bodies and minds...... Its simply women.

Having compassion, kindness and respect is still very much masculine.

Angie women are dominated always. So your argument is zero.

 

[greyhound stone]

Madow aah? Have a lovely day huuno

Was joking just look like onemy hair is curly though. I'm the only one in my family who could pass for non somali if it wasn't for my hair I have big nose, big lips, tall. I could easily pass for a non somali sometimes I feel so ashamed I think of claiming other real story is both my parent are issaq , habar jeclo to be specific

 

[Angelina]

Angie women are dominated always. So your argument is zero.

Prophet Muhammad said, "Best among you is one who is best to his wife, and I am best among you in my dealings with my wives."

Men are meant to be caring and compassionate. Protectors and maintainers. Not domineering.

Alhamdulilah for Islam!

 

[Basra]

Prophet Muhammad said, "Best among you is one who is best to his wife, and I am best among you in my dealings with my wives."

Men are meant to be caring and compassionate. Protectors and maintainers. Not domineering.

Alhamdulilah for Islam!

in the bedroom do u want your man to be dominant or passive?

 

[Caaro]

Good response, I’m just glad you didn’t attack me lol. But it’s true, we eat food that’s not meant for male body. Really for any body. Full of carbs and sugar. Somali people as pastoralist nomads got their food from milk and hilib. This is why they could walk long distance and survive in rough conditions. You see old pictures, and the men and women all looked so strong and healthy! This whole laxoox, sabaayad and pasta etc it’s result of urbanization and colonization.

The second issue is yes, Somali guys are coddled compare to the women both in the west and back home. I mean my cousin who went to Hargeisa too was telling me that guys over there spend most of their day at cafes or outside just chilling. A lot of the hard work or labour is passed on to Bantus or other foreigners or to the women. Even in the US, it’s embarrassing because in every Somali populated city there’s at least 2 Starbucks were Somali guys 40+ took over, meanwhile you’ll never see that among other minorities.

The world bank was fascinated by this phenomenon that they did 77 page study on it, imagine? Where I live, for example you’ll see an Indian, a trained doctor in India but now a tax driver to make ends meet. Meanwhile you have(I know few personally) Somali men that don’t have any formal training and yet feel too good to do many of the jobs they qualify for. Some say F this and go back home...expecting their wife and/or older kids to fund their lifestyle. So yeah, the reason it appears like the majority never lifted a finger is because they haven’t.

Edit: btw Chinese govt is very smart, every country should be battling the feminization of their men.

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[Basra]

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Shout out to hustlers.

 

[Caaro]

Shout out to hustlers.

for real. It’s really easy when you’re young to make a life for yourself. Just stay out of gangs and chase a bag.

Especially if you’re lucky enough to be living with your parents you don’t have to pay rent or pay for groceries. You can save up so much so quick even at a minimum wage job (although it’s not that hard to get a slightly better paying job).

When my uncle was living by himself all he had was an air fryer which he would constantly cook white rice and chicken with and occasionally add frozen vegetables like peas and carrots. That was more than enough nutrients to keep his body healthy and it was affordable.

if you live below your means and set goals for yourself you can really make it up quick.

 

[KingSomali999]

It’s increasing because men aren’t allowed to be men anymore. They try to shame you by using weird terms like “toxic masculinity”. Another thing is lack of leadership. Only a men can teach a boy how to become a men, with the rise of divorce and court systems favoring women, you end up with women trying to teach boys to be men which is impossible

 

[Basra]

It’s increasing because men aren’t allowed to be men anymore. They try to shame you by using weird terms like “toxic masculinity”. Another thing is lack of leadership. Only a men can teach a boy how to become a men, with the rise of divorce and court systems favoring women, you end up with women trying to teach boys to be men which is impossible

are u in holland?

 

[KingSomali999]

are u in holland?

nope, usa

 

[Basra]

nope, usa

where in usa?

 

[KingSomali999]

where in usa?

minneapolis

 

[Basra]

minneapolis

liar loooooooooooooooooooool

 

[Amirah]

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They do hustle...I’m not saying they sit idle all of them. But the issue rises when they inevitably bounce or when divorce happens. Everything then switches 360. I know plenty of Somali dads who were hard workers and provided but when they hit middle age just left and remarried in Somalia. I know ones who got divorced, and once the ex wife relocates with the kids to a different city never bother to visit ever. I know ones who are divorced living in the same city as their kids and yet only see them on eid.

Why do you think you rarely see older hooyos and abos still together. If you look at late 40s- 50+ demographics I can easily say roughly 80% of women are left single by then. Meanwhile their husbands are overwhelmingly chilling with 20yr olds in Somalia. The concept of sticking by their wife and kids til death do them apart is completely missing. They don’t even wait around for their kids to get married. Usually once the eldest child hits late teens - early 20s, regardless if the youngest is only 5....expect Somali dad to disappear at moments notice. Now millennials and gen z are young still so we don’t know what will change in 15-20 yrs, but the reality today is what I stated above.

 

[Netflix]

@KingSomali999 It’s because of apps like tinder giving western women an unprecedented amount of choice in men. This is dangerous because women aren’t naturally monogamous. Before women were limited by geographical location now the competition for women is much more. I predict much lower rates of marriage in the future.

 

[KingSomali999]

They do hustle...I’m not saying they sit idle all of them. But the issue rises when they inevitably bounce or when divorce happens. Everything then switches 360. I know plenty of Somali guys who were hard workers and provided but when they hit middle age just left and remarried in Somalia. I know ones who got divorced, and once the ex wife relocates with the kids to a different city never bother to visit ever. I know ones who are divorced living in the same city as their kids and yet only see them on eid.

Why do you think you rarely see older hooyos and abos still together. If you look at 50+ demographics I can easily say roughly 80% of women are left single by then. Meanwhile their husbands are overwhelmingly chilling with a 20yr olds in Somalia. The concept of sticking by their wife and kids til death do them apart is completely missing. They don’t even wait around for their kids to get married. Usually once the eldest child hits late teens - early 20s, regardless if the youngest is only 5....expect Somali dad to disappear at moments notice. Now millennials and gen z are young still so we don’t know what will change in 15-20 yrs, but the reality today is what I stated above.

Your experiences don’t speak for the masses. You clearly have a agenda since you always try to paint somalis men as some deadbeat heartless people, i’m sorry that was your experience but that doesn’t speak for all of us

 

[KingSomali999]

@KingSomali999 It’s because of apps like tinder giving western women an unprecedented amount of choice in men. This is dangerous because women aren’t naturally monogamous. Before women were limited by geographical location now the competition for women is much more. I predict much lower rates of marriage in the future.

This is also true, now a days 10 percent of the men are getting all the women

 

[greyhound stone]

@KingSomali999 It’s because of apps like tinder giving western women an unprecedented amount of choice in men. This is dangerous because women aren’t naturally monogamous. Before women were limited by geographical location now the competition for women is much more. I predict much lower rates of marriage in the future.

@KingSomali999 It’s because of apps like tinder giving western women an unprecedented amount of choice in men. This is dangerous because women aren’t naturally monogamous. Before women were limited by geographical location now the competition for women is much more. I predict much lower rates of marriage in the future.

Its more to do with time marrige isn't needed in the 21st century. Couples can do everything they could do in marriage without being married. Its also very common single parent it isn't a taboo no more it common as hell. The top 10% of men also have access to all the women in the land so most will never marry and settle down as they have too much to lose. Unless your looking to build a strong family unit and balanced healthy households with a trusted woman. Marriage has no benefit this is not looking from a Islamic perspective but rather a objective world view of todays world