A wedding is a celebration. I want a huge one
I dont want a wedding but majority of all Somali women do
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How much are you putting down for it?
$0. That's not my job
So you believe in gender roles? How much you looking for mehr if you don’t mind me asking?
For the last time I'm a guy.
YouTube has changed these Xalimos. They watch these massive Somali wedding on the website and they start dreaming of it. Waste of time and money for guys.
Personally I want a small fancy gathering rather than a wedding and then a long honeymoon travelling abroad to countries I probably can’t usually go to without a man like camping in Uzbekistan or in a small island in the Philippines for a while
Most women I know don’t want a wedding either, it’s a waste of money and actually can damage the future of the relationship because a lot of the ladies at the wedding usually have miserable marriages or have no man so they’ll usually end up giving the poor girl evil eye intentionally or unintentionally.
Most women I know don’t want a wedding either, it’s a waste of money and actually can damage the future of the relationship because a lot of the ladies at the wedding usually have miserable marriages or have no man so they’ll usually end up giving the poor girl evil eye intentionally or unintentionally.
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There’s nothing wrong with entertaining guests. Even the events the prophets family went to they entertained their guests by having fun and dancing. Y’all boring noggas need to seperate the deen from your dull personality. Worst thing a muslim can do kulaha
I don't think they were dancing
Most of the time it is haram or just stupid anyway
During eid. There’s a hadith on Aisha ra being allowed to dance. They would also watch them.
Give me the hadith
I’m tired, here you go
Prophet muhammed saw had to put Abu Bakr ra in his place. Let the girlies have a little fun.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, came to my house when two girls were beside me singing songs of Bu’ath. The Prophet laid down and turned his face to the other side. Then, Abu Bakr came in and spoke to me harshly, saying, “Musical instruments of Satan near the Prophet?” The Prophet turned his face toward him and he said, “Leave them alone.” When Abu Bakr became inattentive, I signaled to the girls and they left. It was the day of Eid and the Abyssinians were playing with shields and spears. Either I asked the Prophet or he asked me whether I would like to watch and I said yes. Then the Prophet made me stand behind him while my cheek was touching his cheek and the Prophet was saying, “Carry on, O tribe of Arfidah.” I became tired and the Prophet asked me, “Are you satisfied?” I said yes, so I left.
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 949, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 892
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Ghazali said, “All of these traditions are reported in the two authentic books, Al-Bukhari and Muslim, and they demonstrate that singing and playing is not unlawful. From them we may deduce the following lessons. First, it is permissible to play as the Abyssinians were in the habit of dancing and playing. Second, it is permissible to do this in the mosque. Third, the Prophet’s saying to Arfidah was a command and a request that they should play, so how then can playing be considered unlawful? Fourth, the Prophet prevented Abu Bakr and Umar from interrupting and scolding the players and singers, and he told Abu Bakr that this festival was a joyous occasion and that singing was a means on enjoyment. Fifth, on both occasions he stayed for a long time with Aisha, letting her watch the show of the Abyssinians and listening with her to the girls singing. This proves that it is better to be good-humored in pleasing women and children with games than to disapprove of such amusements out of a sense of harsh piety and asceticism. Sixth, the Prophet encouraged Aisha by asking her if she would like to watch. Seventh, singing and playing with the drum is permissible.”
Source: Iḥyā’ Ulūm al-Dīn 2/278
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ دَخَلَ عَلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَعِنْدِي جَارِيَتَانِ تُغَنِّيَانِ بِغِنَاءِ بُعَاثَ فَاضْطَجَعَ عَلَى الْفِرَاشِ وَحَوَّلَ وَجْهَهُ وَدَخَلَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَانْتَهَرَنِي وَقَالَ مِزْمَارَةُ الشَّيْطَانِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَأَقْبَلَ عَلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام فَقَالَ دَعْهُمَا فَلَمَّا غَفَلَ غَمَزْتُهُمَا فَخَرَجَتَا وَكَانَ يَوْمَ عِيدٍ يَلْعَبُ السُّودَانُ بِالدَّرَقِ وَالْحِرَابِ فَإِمَّا سَأَلْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَإِمَّا قَالَ تَشْتَهِينَ تَنْظُرِينَ فَقُلْتُ نَعَمْ فَأَقَامَنِي وَرَاءَهُ خَدِّي عَلَى خَدِّهِ وَهُوَ يَقُولُ دُونَكُمْ يَا بَنِي أَرْفِدَةَ حَتَّى إِذَا مَلِلْتُ قَالَ حَسْبُكِ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ فَاذْهَبِي
949 صحيح البخاري كتاب العيدين باب الحراب والدرق يوم العيد
892 صحيح مسلم كتاب صلاة العيدين باب الرخصة في اللعب الذي لا معصية فيه في أيام العيد
949 صحيح البخاري كتاب العيدين باب الحراب والدرق يوم العيد
892 صحيح مسلم كتاب صلاة العيدين باب الرخصة في اللعب الذي لا معصية فيه في أيام العيد
وقال أبو حامد الغزالي فهذه الأحاديث كلها في الصحيحين وهو نص صريح في أن الغناء واللعب ليس بحرام وفيها دلالة على أنواع من الرخص الأول اللعب ولا يخفى عادة الحبشة في الرقص واللعب والثاني فعل ذلك في المسجد والثالث قوله صلى الله عليه وسلم دونكم يا بني أرفدة وهذا أمر باللعب والتماس له فكيف يقدر كونه حراما والرابع منعه لأبي بكر وعمر رضي الله عنهما عن الإنكار والتغيير وتعليله بأنه يوم عيد أي هو وقت سرور وهذا من أسباب السرور والخامس وقوفه طويلا في مشاهدة ذلك وسماعه لموافقة عائشة رضي الله عنها وفيه دليل على أن حسن الخلق في تطييب قلوب النساء والصبيان بمشاهدة اللعب أحسن من خشونة الزهد والتقشف في الامتناع والمنع منه والسادس قوله صلى الله عليه وسلم ابتداء لعائشة أتشتهين أن تنظري ولم يكن ذلك عن اضطرار إلى مساعدة الأهل خوفا من غضب أو وحشة فإن الإلتماس إذا سبق ربما كان الرد سبب وحشة وهو محذور فيقدم محذور على محذور فأما ابتداء السؤال فلا حاجة فيه والسابع الرخصة في الغناء والضرب بالدف
2/278 إحياء علوم الدين كتاب آداب السماع والوجد وهو الكتاب الثامن من ربع العادات
1. The hadith had no mention of dancing in the hadith this was added after by a scholar to prove a point,I’m tired, here you go
Prophet muhammed saw had to put Abu Bakr ra in his place. Let the girlies have a little fun.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, came to my house when two girls were beside me singing songs of Bu’ath. The Prophet laid down and turned his face to the other side. Then, Abu Bakr came in and spoke to me harshly, saying, “Musical instruments of Satan near the Prophet?” The Prophet turned his face toward him and he said, “Leave them alone.” When Abu Bakr became inattentive, I signaled to the girls and they left. It was the day of Eid and the Abyssinians were playing with shields and spears. Either I asked the Prophet or he asked me whether I would like to watch and I said yes. Then the Prophet made me stand behind him while my cheek was touching his cheek and the Prophet was saying, “Carry on, O tribe of Arfidah.” I became tired and the Prophet asked me, “Are you satisfied?” I said yes, so I left.
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 949, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 892
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Ghazali said, “All of these traditions are reported in the two authentic books, Al-Bukhari and Muslim, and they demonstrate that singing and playing is not unlawful. From them we may deduce the following lessons. First, it is permissible to play as the Abyssinians were in the habit of dancing and playing. Second, it is permissible to do this in the mosque. Third, the Prophet’s saying to Arfidah was a command and a request that they should play, so how then can playing be considered unlawful? Fourth, the Prophet prevented Abu Bakr and Umar from interrupting and scolding the players and singers, and he told Abu Bakr that this festival was a joyous occasion and that singing was a means on enjoyment. Fifth, on both occasions he stayed for a long time with Aisha, letting her watch the show of the Abyssinians and listening with her to the girls singing. This proves that it is better to be good-humored in pleasing women and children with games than to disapprove of such amusements out of a sense of harsh piety and asceticism. Sixth, the Prophet encouraged Aisha by asking her if she would like to watch. Seventh, singing and playing with the drum is permissible.”
Source: Iḥyā’ Ulūm al-Dīn 2/278
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ دَخَلَ عَلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَعِنْدِي جَارِيَتَانِ تُغَنِّيَانِ بِغِنَاءِ بُعَاثَ فَاضْطَجَعَ عَلَى الْفِرَاشِ وَحَوَّلَ وَجْهَهُ وَدَخَلَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَانْتَهَرَنِي وَقَالَ مِزْمَارَةُ الشَّيْطَانِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَأَقْبَلَ عَلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام فَقَالَ دَعْهُمَا فَلَمَّا غَفَلَ غَمَزْتُهُمَا فَخَرَجَتَا وَكَانَ يَوْمَ عِيدٍ يَلْعَبُ السُّودَانُ بِالدَّرَقِ وَالْحِرَابِ فَإِمَّا سَأَلْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَإِمَّا قَالَ تَشْتَهِينَ تَنْظُرِينَ فَقُلْتُ نَعَمْ فَأَقَامَنِي وَرَاءَهُ خَدِّي عَلَى خَدِّهِ وَهُوَ يَقُولُ دُونَكُمْ يَا بَنِي أَرْفِدَةَ حَتَّى إِذَا مَلِلْتُ قَالَ حَسْبُكِ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ فَاذْهَبِي
949 صحيح البخاري كتاب العيدين باب الحراب والدرق يوم العيد
892 صحيح مسلم كتاب صلاة العيدين باب الرخصة في اللعب الذي لا معصية فيه في أيام العيد
وقال أبو حامد الغزالي فهذه الأحاديث كلها في الصحيحين وهو نص صريح في أن الغناء واللعب ليس بحرام وفيها دلالة على أنواع من الرخص الأول اللعب ولا يخفى عادة الحبشة في الرقص واللعب والثاني فعل ذلك في المسجد والثالث قوله صلى الله عليه وسلم دونكم يا بني أرفدة وهذا أمر باللعب والتماس له فكيف يقدر كونه حراما والرابع منعه لأبي بكر وعمر رضي الله عنهما عن الإنكار والتغيير وتعليله بأنه يوم عيد أي هو وقت سرور وهذا من أسباب السرور والخامس وقوفه طويلا في مشاهدة ذلك وسماعه لموافقة عائشة رضي الله عنها وفيه دليل على أن حسن الخلق في تطييب قلوب النساء والصبيان بمشاهدة اللعب أحسن من خشونة الزهد والتقشف في الامتناع والمنع منه والسادس قوله صلى الله عليه وسلم ابتداء لعائشة أتشتهين أن تنظري ولم يكن ذلك عن اضطرار إلى مساعدة الأهل خوفا من غضب أو وحشة فإن الإلتماس إذا سبق ربما كان الرد سبب وحشة وهو محذور فيقدم محذور على محذور فأما ابتداء السؤال فلا حاجة فيه والسابع الرخصة في الغناء والضرب بالدف
2/278 إحياء علوم الدين كتاب آداب السماع والوجد وهو الكتاب الثامن من ربع العادات
Dancing isn't actually haram, but the dances we do nowadays is not good, for a number of reasons, and anyone can see this
1.Dances in front of men
2.Dances that are showing awrah in front of both men and women
3.Dancing with music
4.Dancing in sexualising ways are not allowed for both men and women
5.Dancing imitating the way non-Muslims dance(which are usually sexualised or something like that aswell)
Anyway if we were to all follow these rules most of you guys would say that this dancing iss too boring, which is my point that most of the entertaining parts of the dancing is haram or disliked.
Also Aaishah RA never danced, the hadith is talking about the 2 slave girls not Aaishah RA, so not only does it not mention dancing but it is not even talking about Aaishah RA since she was the one who narrated the hadith
I remember my wedding. I didn’t want one, or one that was very very large. I still remember going to my husband at the time and asking him how I didn’t want to have a big one. He agreed but he said it’s not even our choices, it’s our mothers and the aunties. Weddings are more so for them to show off.
It was a large nikkah on top of the wedding ceremony and I had such extreme anxiety and was super shy.
I wouldn’t wish that in anyone who’s shy like me, and it wasn’t even enjoyable for me, as no one cared for my feelings and how I felt.
They forced me to take awkward pictures in front of 100 or so people and even made me dance to which I refused and they all got angry.
I begged them that I’m too shy and they made a big deal about how selfish I was. They made me dance anyways and I remember just standing there swaying to the side, instead of full on dancing, and they all laughed at how awkward I was being.
As I said, wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
This is the problem with unislamic culture they force u to do stuff and don't care about ur feelings, its about u making everyone else happy, weddings are not for the children most of the time they are for the families to show off
I love weddings.
I just want to wear the fancy gown, eat and dance with my girls. We can rent a groom for all I care..
I just want to wear the fancy gown, eat and dance with my girls. We can rent a groom for all I care..
Hotchick12
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I want a small wedding in abroad preferably in Maldives, I don’t want no gatecrashers only family and friends
Didn't no one say anything when you clearly looked unhappy?
