How to "shukaansi" a lady

[Finesse]

So, you want to get to know someone for halal purposes?

First thing you have to understand is that women need to be mentally stimulated, feel safe and provided for.
A good looking man will be passed up for an average looking man who knows how to do this.

Here are some basic tips that can also easily apply for women who are getting to know men.

DON'T

LIE.

Women are very emotionally astute and will remember everything you have told them.
Honesty is very attractive, try it.


BRAG

Are you rich, highly educated or whatever else? Don't mention it, she will notice it or find out anyway. Braggarts are inherently untrustworthy.
Or you will attract the wrong type of woman.

RUSH MARRIAGE

This especially happens with "wadaad" types who like to get married/nikaax within a short amount time.
You will look desperate, shady or horny. None of which are appealing.



DO

Show her a sample of what marriage with you would be like

Are you funny, show it
Are you generous, show it
Are you protective, show it
Are you shy, show it.

Don't hide your true personality.

respect her time

If she tells you she cannot speak at a certain time/hour, don't pressure her to fit into your timetable.


ASK QUESTIONS!!

Ask her about her wants, desires, dreams.
Ask her what she considers a good marriage so you are on the same page in terms of your future
Remember the details, write them down if you want so you can surprise her with the knowledge later on.


FOCUS ON HER

When you are getting to know her and in her presence, don't stare at the sides of her head or at your phone, in fact, put your phone on silent.
If you cannot focus on her during the short time you are in her presence she will think you have ADHD or are a shifty player.



CONSULT A MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR WHEN YOU AGREE TO MARRY

So that you can start your relationship on a solid foundation, you need to figure out your communication AND conflict resolution styles so that you don't get divorced after your first major disagreement.

 

[Finesse]

Ever wonder why a woman was no longer interested in you after she first expressed interest?
You probably failed these basic concepts of courtship.

Ever wonder why your wife seems uninterested or sullen? She probably harbours resentment, you are either neglecting her emotionally or not helping her physically.



Value women, value their time and their desires and express this.

It's all very simple but it requires discipline and consistency and it HAS to continue after marriage.

It doesn't cost much but it's worth a lot.

 

[nomand]

How about how to keep a man. A good hard working man is a rare commodity.

In my experience, don't make a big fuss when dealing with women if you put them in a pedestal then she has you by the balls. Treat them nice but don't act like your whole world revolves around her.

Having said that.

@Finesse stick to relationships topics they are your forte and leave politics for the fadhi ku dirir folks like me.

 

[Finesse]

How about how to keep a man. A good hard working man is a rare commodity.

In my experience, don't make a big fuss when dealing with women if you put them in a pedestal then she has you by the balls. Treat them nice but don't act like your whole world revolves around her.

Having said that.

@Finesse stick to relationships topics they are your forte and leave politics for the fadhi ku dirir folks like me.

If you treat a woman well whilst maintaining boundaries for instance;

1. Let her know your mother comes first
2. Don't let her insult you or treat you badly.

She will treat you like a king and treat you very well but it takes a good, strong man to find a good, strong woman.

 

[Basra]

I don't need all that. I need a pure black gorilla farah, preferably habar gidir...with black lips.


ps to have fun not have babies with.

 

[Libaaxseendheer]

Nonesense . I'll list 8 cardinals of laandheere shukansi
1 Be well dressed, 2.smell good, 3.have a career, 4.tell her the nikax will be in less than a year of dating, 5.Reject her physical advanses/pics if she sends anything revealing. Females love wadaad niggas. You may even go to her father and ask for her hand, with a high success rate
7.Never take a woman's advise on shukaansi
8. Promise her you will do planned parenting(birth control)

 

[diaby]

 

[Finesse]

Nonesense . I'll list 8 cardinals of laandheere shukansi
1 Be well dressed, 2.smell good, 3.have a career, 4.tell her the nikax will be in less than a year of dating, 5.Reject her physical advanses/pics if she sends anything revealing. Females love wadaad niggas. You may even go to her father and ask for her hand, with a high success rate
7.Never take a woman's advise on shukaansi
8. Promise her you will do planned parenting(birth control)[/QUOTE]

 

[Libaaxseendheer]

 

[saredochani10]

Nonesense . I'll list 8 cardinals of laandheere shukansi
1 Be well dressed, 2.smell good, 3.have a career, 4.tell her the nikax will be in less than a year of dating, 5.Reject her physical advanses/pics if she sends anything revealing. Females love wadaad niggas. You may even go to her father and ask for her hand, with a high success rate
7.Never take a woman's advise on shukaansi
8. Promise her you will do planned parenting(birth control)

Number 1 , 2 ,3 are the minimum requirements as a presentable and functioning human being.

 

[Finesse]

Number 1 , 2 ,3 are the minimum requirements as a presentable and functioning human being.

It's very sad that even the most basic requirements are missing in many men.
Yet somehow these same men expect to marry the best women.

 

[Finesse]

The truth is that only women know what women usually want just like how men know what men truly want.

If you want a basic relationship, be basic and listen to other men.
If you want a spectacular relationship, speak to women about how to treat a woman.

 

[Jiron]

Great tips, I will definitely keep all of them in mind

 

[Finesse]

Great tips, I will definitely keep all of them in mind

You are so genuine and sweet, I don't think you need help honestly but thanks for the feedback.

 

[land owner]

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

I don't need all that. I need a pure black gorilla farah, preferably habar gidir...with black lips.


ps to have fun not have babies with.

Basra you've been thirsty lately. Bismillah.

@Lex Luther help eedo out.

 

[AussieHustler]

@Finesse

Great thread and very insightful. However, don’t Somali women require a chemistry, or is it on first come first serve basis as long as the bloke passes these points? I’m confused.

 

[GoldmanSachs]

So, you want to get to know someone for halal purposes?

First thing you have to understand is that women need to be mentally stimulated, feel safe and provided for.
A good looking man will be passed up for an average looking man who knows how to do this.

Here are some basic tips that can also easily apply for women who are getting to know men.

DON'T

LIE.

Women are very emotionally astute and will remember everything you have told them.
Honesty is very attractive, try it.


BRAG

Are you rich, highly educated or whatever else? Don't mention it, she will notice it or find out anyway. Braggarts are inherently untrustworthy.
Or you will attract the wrong type of woman.

RUSH MARRIAGE

This especially happens with "wadaad" types who like to get married/nikaax within a short amount time.
You will look desperate, shady or horny. None of which are appealing.



DO

Show her a sample of what marriage with you would be like

Are you funny, show it
Are you generous, show it
Are you protective, show it
Are you shy, show it.

Don't hide your true personality.

respect her time

If she tells you she cannot speak at a certain time/hour, don't pressure her to fit into your timetable.


ASK QUESTIONS!!

Ask her about her wants, desires, dreams.
Ask her what she considers a good marriage so you are on the same page in terms of your future
Remember the details, write them down if you want so you can surprise her with the knowledge later on.


FOCUS ON HER

When you are getting to know her and in her presence, don't stare at the sides of her head or at your phone, in fact, put your phone on silent.
If you cannot focus on her during the short time you are in her presence she will think you have ADHD or are a shifty player.



CONSULT A MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR WHEN YOU AGREE TO MARRY

So that you can start your relationship on a solid foundation, you need to figure out your communication AND conflict resolution styles so that you don't get divorced after your first major disagreement.

Terrible advice.

 

[VantaBlack]

I don't need all that. I need a pure black gorilla farah, preferably habar gidir...with black lips.


ps to have fun not have babies with.

 

[nomand]

If you treat a woman well whilst maintaining boundaries for instance;

1. Let her know your mother comes first
2. Don't let her insult you or treat you badly.

She will treat you like a king and treat you very well but it takes a good, strong man to find a good, strong woman.

You don't need to let her know your mother comes first. Why create an issue that is not there.

A good woman would never interfere with the relationship you have with your own family in fact a good wife would encourage you to be more kind and nice to your family.

@Finesse I am afriad you don't know anything about relationships either.

Maybe go back to fadhi ku dirir.