How to be confident?
- Thread starter MAL1K
- Start date
I'll be real, the first time I dated someone it confirmed for me something I always suspected from a much younger age; being with someone will not fill any hole in you whatsoever. If you were depressed before you had a girlfriend or wife, you'll be depressed after. Just with a little more happiness and spice on top, namely her presence. Honestly, people should ideally work on themselves before even dating like Mozart basically advises. Don't bring baggage and expect the person to help you be or feel better. At worst just be upfront about your issues and see if they can work with them and go from there.
BobSmoke
Flying over your heads
It's not as easy as "just be yourself" when you don't really know yourself.
Take some time and do some brutally honest introspection. Figure out qualities that people f*ck with you for and what they dislike about you. Ask your close friends and family.
Figure out your insecurities and decide for yourself, are you gonna work on that or let it fester like a cancer?
Long story short, the long road is to get to know yourself.
The short road is a couple of beers
Take some time and do some brutally honest introspection. Figure out qualities that people f*ck with you for and what they dislike about you. Ask your close friends and family.
Figure out your insecurities and decide for yourself, are you gonna work on that or let it fester like a cancer?
Long story short, the long road is to get to know yourself.
The short road is a couple of beers
fix your posture, stand straight with shoulders down.
lift weights/exercise
interact with anyone, learn to small talk
"You know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage. Just, literally, 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it."-Benjamin mee
lift weights/exercise
interact with anyone, learn to small talk
"You know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage. Just, literally, 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it."-Benjamin mee
Dont masturbate
Get a public facing job, e.g part-time sales work. It wouldn't fix your social retardation but it'll make you confortable interacting with strangers. And do what Mozart said, join a boxing/mma/muay thai gym.
99% of people and their dogs have mad insecurities and are unsure of themselves. I remind myself of that fact which boosts my already high confidence. Going to the gym or all that other stuff won't boost your confidence. You should be doing that stuff for your health. Confidence is all in your head. You can bench 250 and still be an insecure person. Anyone that is new to you will have thoughts swirling in their head if they are being boring, if they look attractive or not, if they seem weird, etc. So keep that in mind and go conquer the world. Just be comfortable.
Talk to strangers and watch them look at the floor as they respond. Say a dirty sex joke (outside of work) and watch them squirm. If anyone disses you diss them back harder where it hurts ( af galooc lips, fat calool, wearing a weave). If anyone cuts you off on the road, you honk that madafoka for 5 long seconds. If someone holds the door for you, say thank you very much I appreciate it and look them in the eye. Assert your dominance.
Talk to strangers and watch them look at the floor as they respond. Say a dirty sex joke (outside of work) and watch them squirm. If anyone disses you diss them back harder where it hurts ( af galooc lips, fat calool, wearing a weave). If anyone cuts you off on the road, you honk that madafoka for 5 long seconds. If someone holds the door for you, say thank you very much I appreciate it and look them in the eye. Assert your dominance.
take more W's
