How do you handle the disease of Gossiping??

[Basra]

Walaahi this disease plagues me like black plague. I cant control myself. Unless i stay away from women in general or human interaction, i dont think i can rid myself of this disease. I am the type of dhoiil who when prompted with a few little gossip tidbits, i go all in. Worst than the one who brought me the gossip, as my power of gossip is lethal as i see things in a psychological, analytical way. Should i just join the nunnery? I feel like i had a dirty role playing sex scene with my husband after gossiping. Its like sobering up after the high of gossip. This is really my sin. What should i do?

 

[Lamiis]

Use that energy in something more productive. Anytime you see yourself gossiping about someone immediately stop and say shut up naya it’s none of your business. Also gossip and being a female kinda go hand in hand

 

[Basra]

Use that energy in something more productive. Anytime you see yourself gossiping about someone immediately stop and say shut up naya it’s none of your business. Also being a female and gossip kinda go hand in hand

I cant stop. Its like terrible. I regret it while deep in the act gossiping. This is because i have been binge-ing Youtube khutbaahs, so i guess my imaan is fighting with the Shaytaan

 

[Lamiis]

I cant stop. Its like terrible. I regret it while deep in the act gossiping. This is because i have been binge-ing Youtube khutbaahs, so i guess my imaan is fighting with the Shaytaan

Lol think about it this way, would you want your good deeds to go to someone you don’t like

 

[Basra]

Lol think about it this way, would want your good deeds to go to someone you don’t like

exactly! that is why i need to quarantine myself from humans in general

 

[Lamiis]

exactly! that is why i need to quarantine myself from humans in general

Don’t sit with people you usually gossip with or when they start gossiping about someone either try to change the subject or leave.

 

[Basra]

Don’t sit with people you usually gossip with or when they start gossiping about someone either try to change the subject or leave.

LOOL


Good advice. I usually say i will pray for him or her to show the person who started the gossip i am not into the gossip. But knowing how the devil works, the person drops a big gossip fish trap, and i am like......I am going to pray for.......aaah say what? Say Walaahi.....omg......i had a suspicion the person is this and that, u just confirmed it and then before u know it, 2 hours gossip about 18 subject. The initial gossip last 3 minutes and i moved to different people, and then one person will walk beside us and we will start gossiping about the person, its never ending.

 

[Lamiis]

LOOL


Good advice. I usually say i will pray for him or her to show the person who started the gossip i am not into the gossip. But knowing how the devil works, the person drops a big gossip fish trap, and i am like......I am going to pray for.......aaah say what? Say Walaahi.....omg......i had a suspicion the person is this and that, u just confirmed it and then before u know it, 2 hours gossip about 18 subject. The initial gossip last 3 minutes and i moved to different people, and then one person will walk beside us and we will start gossiping about the person, its never ending.

 

[Jake from State Farm]

......... @Basra do you run one of those Somali confession social media pages on Snapchat

 

[Basra]

......... @Basra do you run one of those Somali confession social media pages on Snapchat

Jerome

No. Why would u ask?

 

[Invader]

Gossip is a burden to soceity

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Jerome

No. Why would u ask?

You said you like gossip and those pages have some drama filled confessions.

My mom sends them to the family group chat and nags me and my bro about treating women with respect and etc

 

[Basra]

You said you like gossip and those pages have some drama filled confessions.

My mom sends them to the family group chat and nags me and my bro about treating women with respect and etc

Jerome


First of all, confess to me. R u marehaan? And also are u the little man with curly hair and dapper blue suit with small feet u posted here in the forums?

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Jerome


First of all, confess to me. R u marehaan? And also are u the little man with curly hair and dapper blue suit with small feet u posted here in the forums?

Nope and maybe

 

[Basra]

Nope and maybe

r u in UK?

 

[Invader]

r u in UK?

Jerome


First of all, confess to me. R u marehaan? And also are u the little man with curly hair and dapper blue suit with small feet u posted here in the forums?

 

[Jake from State Farm]

r u in UK?

Currently in New Mexico actually

 

[Basra]

Currently in New Mexico actually

OK. And i am in Utrecht, Holland

 

[Lostbox]

I don't gossip but all the mess that people are causing themselves is too entraining to not to hear about.

 

[Blade1]

"Why do not the believing men and women, whenever such [a rumour] is heard, think the best of one another and say, “This is an obvious falsehood”? . . . When you take it up with your tongues, uttering with your mouths something of which you have no knowledge, you deem it a light matter. Whereas in the sight of God it is an awful thing!" (Qur'an 24: 12-15).

The prophet muhammad s.a.w said it's better to tell them to stop gossiping or if you can't then just leave.
What I do sometimes is try to change topic.

Gossiping is hard to stop