How do you guys deal with arguments/conflict with friends/family?

I'm wondering how other people deal with having arguments and people making you angry to the point where u can't stand being around them and disputes, especially with people who are good people and you would usually get along with, when they betray your trust and of the like
How long does it take you to forgive them?
Do you just hate them for a while then your anger subsides?
Do you reconcile the situation or just pretend it never happened?
Are you used to it and just don't see it as a big problem?
Do you hate getting in arguments and being on a emotional rollercoaster or do you just not care?
Does having disagreements and the person annoying you make you like the person less?
 
yeah i get tired of being angry and then pretend it never happened.
ok, lets say your mum shouts at you for no reason or she makes you angry, do you feel bad for being angry because shes your mum? or do u just accept it and wait to ur not angry
 
I'm wondering how other people deal with having arguments and people making you angry to the point where u can't stand being around them and disputes, especially with people who are good people and you would usually get along with, when they betray your trust and of the like
How long does it take you to forgive them?
Do you just hate them for a while then your anger subsides?
Do you reconcile the situation or just pretend it never happened?
Are you used to it and just don't see it as a big problem?
Do you hate getting in arguments and being on a emotional rollercoaster or do you just not care?
Does having disagreements and the person annoying you make you like the person less?
People can only push your buttons if you let them. I don’t let people’s behavior get to me anymore. I see it as a reflection of them and their level of maturity iyo fahmad. I’m not a fan of arguing so I try to have as normal a conversation as I can. My method is to process the situation, get myself level-head by trying to see all sides and then say what my side is peacefully. My end goal is to not hold onto grudges and work hard to let it go. Holding on to negative stuff can be unhealthy. The best thing to do is forgive them for the sake of Allah.

That doesn’t mean I put up with being treated badly because that’s an injustice against my own self. Trying to will yourself to forget is hard as you’re only human and will remember it time to time when any issue arises again. I look at the type of relationship we have and if it’s worth resolving. Waalid iyo siblings, yes for sure. Relatives are next then friends or coworkers. I always leave people in a good way if further contact isn’t beneficial for me.

I am okay with agreeing to disagree as some people hate to admit their fault or are completely oblivious to it. Then, after time some people realize their fault and ask for forgiveness.

There should be more conflict resolution being taught to us as little kids. The seerah is a good place to start.
 
I'm wondering how other people deal with having arguments and people making you angry to the point where u can't stand being around them and disputes, especially with people who are good people and you would usually get along with, when they betray your trust and of the like
How long does it take you to forgive them?
Do you just hate them for a while then your anger subsides?
Do you reconcile the situation or just pretend it never happened?
Are you used to it and just don't see it as a big problem?
Do you hate getting in arguments and being on a emotional rollercoaster or do you just not care?
Does having disagreements and the person annoying you make you like the person less?
With my family, its like we could have the most arguments but its not like we are going to hate each other, love lasts. With friends, I can give a second chance (obviously depends on the severity, arguing about pineapple on pizza isn't going to make me hate my friends) but after the second chance, no more. So many people are too forgiving and I used to be like that and now I regret it, so I developed trust issues and I now only give 2 CHANCES.
 
I'm wondering how other people deal with having arguments and people making you angry to the point where u can't stand being around them and disputes, especially with people who are good people and you would usually get along with, when they betray your trust and of the like
How long does it take you to forgive them?
Do you just hate them for a while then your anger subsides?
Do you reconcile the situation or just pretend it never happened?
Are you used to it and just don't see it as a big problem?
Do you hate getting in arguments and being on a emotional rollercoaster or do you just not care?
Does having disagreements and the person annoying you make you like the person less?
First thing first is differentiating between what i can control and what i can’t. The argument most likely stems from somewhere so I decide based on that. With family I don’t communicate until they’ve calmed down. We either reconcile or pretend it didn’t happen (if they’re not up for talking about it). With friends I try to understand their side, unfortunately I am not the best at communicating with friends about conflicts. I am very forgiving which is both bad and good. Sometimes emotions do get ahold of me though. Kk
 

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