How do you deal with family members in Somalia

[Abdisamad]

Who are always asking for more and more money? How bad is the situation in Somalia, can't people support themselves or? Is sending money good or bad for their own development?

 

[xLibaxsenderx]

It's a matter of a demoralized population. They are mentally crippled, with the crab in a barrel mentality over represented. It's an atrocious case of royaltism, over-dependence and a negative net output in the form of discouragement of any startup.

 

[Abdisamad]

It's a matter of a demoralized population. They are mentally crippled, with the crab in a barrel mentality over represented. It's an atrocious case of royaltism, over-dependence and a negative net output in the form of discouragement of any startup.

This is so sad wallahi

 

[Febbie]

When people from back home call (which very rarely happens) I always ask two things before I send money:

1. What are you spending the money on/purpose need
2. What are you doing with your life to make small incremental changes to improve your situation

I did have an cousin once who said he needed money to pay for car repair so he could work as a delivery driver. I found out he actually sold his car months earlier and needed extra cash to fund his relentless khat consumption. I blocked his number and never gave him a penny after.

Its your money. You decide if they're worthy recipients.

 

[Aurelian]

TBH the stiuation in just in Somalia but around the world is horrible, and somalia being the poorest with limit gov controll is on the worst ship now.

Do you know that there is the biggest drought since 40 years happening right now?

Livestock are dying, en mass, ppl mostly financially broke don't know how to get water. Some are buying L of water with 3 $ can you imagine? not even in developed world the water is that high, thanks to their governments.

If ppl back home ask you, please, just send what you could get, even 100 $ per month is good. Will not effect you and it is a life changing for them.

 

[zackattack]

Arm length distance

 

[Hodan from HR]

Have you ever been back home? The situation is hopeless walahi. It sucks that some of them become manipulative and demanding but they are products of their environments. Personally, I dont mind sending my relatives money. I just avoid sending lacag on a monthly basis because I dont want to enable dependance mindset.

Giving to others especially family is beneficial for us too. Studies show those who engage in charity have higher satisfaction in life, improved mental health and are generally happier

 

[Dalalos_ibn_Adali]

50 dollars a month is 600 dollars annually, its good way to get started, and only send when they ask you, and if 2-3 ask you say ohh sorry I already sent to hebel.

You gonna see the guy who does something with it that benefits him in the long run and the chronical loser who is finessing you, cut off the loser eventually and give me to the productive one.

This is how our parents did it, eventually the productive ones will aid you in trade, business etc and become the one sending you your dividends profits.

But first start off slow and tolka kala baro do not paint them with the same brush

 

[Abu Hesi]

Start small, I send one family member $200 and 6 months later he ask for money cuz his rent is not enough, gave him $100 and home boi said this ain't enough.

 

[Malik_N_Tea]

I ignore them, they never ask how you are, it’s always straight to business asking for money

 

[Periplus]

I don’t send money, my parents are adamant that any relative talks to them instead of their children.

Furthermore, none of my relatives have ever asked me for cash.

 

[Malik_N_Tea]

I don’t send money, my parents are adamant that any relative talks to them instead of their children.

Furthermore, none of my relatives have ever asked me for cash.

When mom takes money for me I know most of the time it’s going to somebody in Africa, ever have this issue too?

 

[Periplus]

When mom takes money for me I know most of the time it’s going to somebody in Africa, ever have this issue too?

My mum only asks for money during Ramadan when she’s collecting zakat and sadaqah.

 

[KobeBryant]

When people from back home call (which very rarely happens) I always ask two things before I send money:

1. What are you spending the money on/purpose need
2. What are you doing with your life to make small incremental changes to improve your situation

I did have an cousin once who said he needed money to pay for car repair so he could work as a delivery driver. I found out he actually sold his car months earlier and needed extra cash to fund his relentless khat consumption. I blocked his number and never gave him a penny after.

Its your money. You decide if they're worthy recipients.

Selling a car to fund a drug addiction is the most Crackhead shit I ever heard.

 

[Lostbox]

They never ask me. I'm happy to help but most of my family back home are far my willing to ask my wealthier relatives. Who are more then willing to provide

They'll never understand how insulted I felt for years

 

[TekNiKo]

Who are always asking for more and more money? How bad is the situation in Somalia, can't people support themselves or? Is sending money good or bad for their own development?

Wallahi I have to deal with this alot with my Reer Abti, I had to change all my socials and number just to avoid them. But when im in Somalia I throw them some change. Its frigging annoying when your back home too, they see you as rich just because your from Canada. They dont know the trenches we really live in.

 

[Basra]

It's a matter of a demoralized population. They are mentally crippled, with the crab in a barrel mentality over represented. It's an atrocious case of royaltism, over-dependence and a negative net output in the form of discouragement of any startup.

Bruh......u said a lot

 

[Hotchick12]

Thank god my dads family is wealthy, I’m actually the gaajo relative, gave me 300 dollars when I was in djibouti, but my mum family, they finessed a house my mum built, they ain’t getting a penny except my ayeyo, I’m sorry but back home people are ruthless

 

[convincation]

It depends on who they are. My family on both sides know my dad is a relatively financially well off man and since they can never reach him (he only gives anything to direct family) me or my brother are always the middle men. If they’re good people who genuinely need it then I’ll put the word in, like how last year my cousin needed money to buy a bajaaj so he can work. He works and makes a living off that bajaaj for over 5 years now and feeds his kids with it, meanwhile I have another cousin who asked for money to buy a bajaaj and the whole family chipped in, only for hlm to use half of it on khat and the other half on mehr for a women who left him 2 months after the nlkaah

 

[Taij4an]

Have you ever been back home? The situation is hopeless walahi. It sucks that some of them become manipulative and demanding but they are products of their environments. Personally, I dont mind sending my relatives money. I just avoid sending lacag on a monthly basis because I dont want to enable dependance mindset.

Giving to others especially family is beneficial for us too. Studies show those who engage in charity have higher satisfaction in life, improved mental health and are generally happier

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Allah said: Spend in charity, O son of Adam, and I will spend on you.”
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رضى الله عنه أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ قَالَ اللَّهُ أَنْفِقْ يَا ابْنَ آدَمَ أُنْفِقْ عَلَيْك ‏
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 5352,
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim