How do I make my mom come to terms with me not marrying

Wervelwind

Wervelwind

I'm turning 32 next month and my hooyo is exponentially becoming more involved with me marrying and wanting to introduce me to girls.

I've already told her I don't want to marry but is there an easier/better way to break it to her? I've got 3 brothers near my age but these saqajaans aren't marrying anytime soon to take the heat off me
 
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Wervelwind said:
I'm turning 32 next month and my hooyo is exponentially becoming more involved with me marrying and wanting to introduce me to girls.

I've already told her I don't want to marry but is there an easier/better way to break it to her? I've got 3 brothers near my age but these saqajaans aren't marrying anytime soon to take the heat off me
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Why don’t you want to get married bro ?
What puts you off from it ?
 
Wervelwind

Wervelwind

I like being alone and being able to do whatever I want whenever. Being around someone all the time sounds annoying. Especially if I have to check everything I do with her. Having kids sounds like a lot of work as well

Especially if she turns out the nagging type who won't stop talking. Long story short I don't think marriage is for everyone and I think I'm that type. To me marriage feels like it's for people who love being sharing things/experiences and being around people

To add to this, where I work I work alone in a room and am by myself all day. I'd assume most people would hate that and would rather work in an office with more people around them. I don't really mind this and prefer working like this compared to sharing the room with a colleague or trying to talk to a lot of people during lunch break. That makes me think I'm the type of person marriage wouldn't work for. In a marriage it's a given you spend a lot of time with your spouse, right?
 
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Yaraye

Yaraye

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Just tell her exactly what you just elaborated. make it as you'll be depressed if you get married
Wervelwind said:
I like being alone and being able to do whatever I want whenever. Being around someone all the time sounds annoying. Especially if I have to check everything I do with her. Having kids sounds like a lot of work as well

Especially if she turns out the nagging type who won't stop talking. Long story short I don't think marriage is for everyone and I think I'm that type. To me marriage feels like it's for people who love being sharing things/experiences and being around people

To add to this, where I work I work alone in a room and am by myself all day. I'd assume most people would hate that and would rather work in an office with more people around them. I don't really mind this and prefer working like this compared to sharing the room with a colleague or trying to talk to a lot of people during lunch break. That makes me think I'm the type of person marriage wouldn't work for. In a marriage it's a given you spend a lot of time with your spouse, right?
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Midas951

You have to create a situation in which being single is preferred.

What I propose:
1. Casually mention you're talking a girl but don't elaborate (do this for a couple of weeks)
2. After a while, ask your mom if ethnicity matters in a partner. At first, just ask questions but gradually become a little argumentative/defensive when you bring this up.
3. Ask your mom if it's ok to marry the people of the book. Same method as above
4. Tell your mom that you're seeing a jewish girl. She'll blow a fuse but let the impact linger.
5. After things settle, tell your mom you broke up with her
6. ????
7. No more questions
 
Wervelwind

Wervelwind

Yaraye said:
Just tell her exactly what you just elaborated. make it as you'll be depressed if you get married
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My mom already knows my personality but she's adamant that I'll turn to like being around my hypothetical wife if I get married

Granted she doesn't know all of what I wrote in that bigass post but I want to spare her from that. As a parent, I realise it's not nice to hear your child say they want to be alone in life
 
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Angelina

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I have to ask, but are you asexual? As a Muslim you can only have intimacy though marriage. Also, are you the loner type as well? When gaals say they don’t want to marry, they mean they don’t want to commit, but they’ll still be with women. So it isn’t much of a big sacrifice as unfortunately some women are willing to give despite not being committed to.
 
Wervelwind

Wervelwind

Angelina said:
I have to ask, but are you asexual? As a Muslim you can only have intimacy though marriage. Also, are you the loner type as well? When gaals say they don’t want to marry, they mean they don’t want to commit, but they’ll still be with women. So it isn’t much of a big sacrifice as unfortunately some women are willing to give despite not being committed to.
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I'm not asexual. Yeah, I'm a loner and straight for you cheeky ones.
However, I get the feeling that my mom is questioning my sexuality/sexual drive because I don't wanna marry. She asks me about it in a roundabout way (stuff like 'you need a woman because of urges')
 
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