It's healthy to cry.
How did you guys deal with emotions as kids?
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Yes, to be in touch with your emotions is a sign of emotional maturity.
Me too. I was shy and felt like I had to be perfect around my family because they would always say I was a good person and I had to keep up that image. I didn't really know how to say no or be myself. Which is probably why I was like the polar opposite and terrible to people at school, maybe it was a way for me to break free from all the time I was suppressing myself.
I do make alot of jokes ( sometimes good jokes but sometimes bad ones ) to cover any emotion i have. I build a wall that no one will propably ever crack, no one will ever know how i'm really feeling.
Jus like Maria and the other dude, i too don't like to be burden on others, i also don't take their shit. I hate being a liability, being openly emotional with others leaves you vulnerable, needy and easily taken as burden. In my entire existent, i have always wanted to be independent and Enough to fulfill myself. I hardly seek any external help when i'm down but instead keep it to myself untill i goes away. I have mastered the art of avoiding my own emotions and i feel like someway along the line i will stop having any of them.
Jus like Maria and the other dude, i too don't like to be burden on others, i also don't take their shit. I hate being a liability, being openly emotional with others leaves you vulnerable, needy and easily taken as burden. In my entire existent, i have always wanted to be independent and Enough to fulfill myself. I hardly seek any external help when i'm down but instead keep it to myself untill i goes away. I have mastered the art of avoiding my own emotions and i feel like someway along the line i will stop having any of them.
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Subeer
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stop listening to other peoples problems, some people actually feel better when they vomit all of their problems and emotions all over a you , and in return you feel more tired, exhausted, and depressed. They've literally sucked energy from your energy field.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4654789/
Thats why when women start talking to me about their problems i leave immediately!
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I used to be depressed and suicidal. Had a dark point during uni. I worked it out in the end, and gained a better perspective on life.
Emotions are like a river. If you try to contain it for too long, it'll overflow in any and every direction. If you accept it as is, it'll flow in the right way, and leave that way.
Some things that will help:
1. Accept your emotions.
2. Use music to cope with a feeling. Sad music can make one's sadness go away. Angry music and take the tension away.
3. Learn to truly love yourself. A lot of people don't do this. Once you have self respect, you'll be around people who you genuinely enjoy.
4. Embrace Stoicism and Epicurean philosophical ideals:
Stoicism:
Our fate is in the hands of God. We cannot change our fate, but we can change how we feel and embrace that which we have control over. Ex. If someone is pissing you off, you might get angry, but is this the most sensible reaction at all times? No. You must ask yourself: can I stop him from annoying me? If so, act on that. If not, abandon that man, as he is worthless to you.
Epicureanism:
Embrace that pleasure is the greatest good, but not through an over consumption of pleasure, but through the avoidance of pain. Certain goods are illusory. Power can never be truly gain. Wealth can never be fully gained. Fame is fleeting. Only concern yourself with the tangible.
5. Accept that the only emotional state you can know for sure is your own. Do not guess the feelings of others. Do not believe your actions do anything for others. Only do things for others when you genuinely want to.
6. Never be overly attached to someone you barely know. Make them earn your attachment. As they do not know you, and you do not know them, being too overly nice or rude will do nothing for you. Also, this can help avoid a lot of headaches with people.
7. Live for yourself first, and settle your problems. You may believe this is selfish, but it's actually more selfless in the long run. Allow me to explain:
-As you continue to help others before you help yourself, you'll become more and more burdened by your mounting problems. You won't be able to handle them all.
-If you handle your problems first, or at least prioritize them, you can then be in a state of calm and with more than enough time to assist others.
-You cannot take care of others, if you do not take care of yourself.
I hope my advice genuinely helps y'all.
Emotions are like a river. If you try to contain it for too long, it'll overflow in any and every direction. If you accept it as is, it'll flow in the right way, and leave that way.
Some things that will help:
1. Accept your emotions.
2. Use music to cope with a feeling. Sad music can make one's sadness go away. Angry music and take the tension away.
3. Learn to truly love yourself. A lot of people don't do this. Once you have self respect, you'll be around people who you genuinely enjoy.
4. Embrace Stoicism and Epicurean philosophical ideals:
Stoicism:
Our fate is in the hands of God. We cannot change our fate, but we can change how we feel and embrace that which we have control over. Ex. If someone is pissing you off, you might get angry, but is this the most sensible reaction at all times? No. You must ask yourself: can I stop him from annoying me? If so, act on that. If not, abandon that man, as he is worthless to you.
Epicureanism:
Embrace that pleasure is the greatest good, but not through an over consumption of pleasure, but through the avoidance of pain. Certain goods are illusory. Power can never be truly gain. Wealth can never be fully gained. Fame is fleeting. Only concern yourself with the tangible.
5. Accept that the only emotional state you can know for sure is your own. Do not guess the feelings of others. Do not believe your actions do anything for others. Only do things for others when you genuinely want to.
6. Never be overly attached to someone you barely know. Make them earn your attachment. As they do not know you, and you do not know them, being too overly nice or rude will do nothing for you. Also, this can help avoid a lot of headaches with people.
7. Live for yourself first, and settle your problems. You may believe this is selfish, but it's actually more selfless in the long run. Allow me to explain:
-As you continue to help others before you help yourself, you'll become more and more burdened by your mounting problems. You won't be able to handle them all.
-If you handle your problems first, or at least prioritize them, you can then be in a state of calm and with more than enough time to assist others.
-You cannot take care of others, if you do not take care of yourself.
I hope my advice genuinely helps y'all.
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I don't know why but idm listening and giving advice, it feels like I am helping and it actually helps me because I get to see how people are (healthy) dealing with their issues and I am able to find solutions to my own problems.
I also makes you realise life isn't perfect and that's better than thinking everyone is fine except you.
I don't get emotional for some reason I don't have empathy for others to.
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