How come somalis don't have "Chinese confinement" after the mother give birth?

[Yaraye]

In asian culture, when the mother gives brith, she goes into confinement. Confinement starts after birth and lasts until the baby is 1-1.5 months old. During confinement the mother focuses only on her physical, emotional, and mental health. The only thing she does with the baby is play and bond with it. The work/ taking care of the baby is done by the other members of the family (including the father of the child) or the facility staff if the mother decides to do "confinement" at a confinement facility. I was watching the video below yesterday. Many asian ethnicities have this. I was wondering why the somali community doesn't have a similar.

 

[Yaraye]

After birth, the child is always the focus and not the mother. I personally encourage women to try the Chinese confinement after they give brith (except the not showering part). I suggest that y'all shower in hot water and keep the temp around the house warm.

 

[xiin-finiin.]

They do have something similar. It's called 40-bax. Didn't see it in the west, but back home i think the sister or some female that knows the wife comes to the family to help with cooking, cleaning, etc for 40 days. The wife just focuses on the baby.

 

[Yaraye]

They do have something similar. It's called 40-bax. Didn't see it in the west, but back home i think the sister or some female that knows the wife comes to the family to help with cooking, cleaning, etc for 40 days. The wife just focuses on the baby.

The whole point of my thread was for the mother to focus on herself . what's the point if she's focused on the baby?

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

The culture is that even caring for the baby, except breastfeeding, is assumed by family members. Mothers are fed well, and placed on a high protein diet incl. fresh 'beer, kilyo, beed' etc. It is a recovery, and recuperation period for the mother.

 

[xiin-finiin.]

The whole point of my thread was for the mother to focus on herself . what's the point if she's focused on the baby?

oh, i didnt see that bit. 40-bax is the closest you're gonna get i think

 

[Yaraye]

The culture is that even caring for the baby, except breastfeeding, is assumed by family members. Mothers are fed well, and placed on a high protein diet incl. fresh 'beer, kilyo, beed' etc. It is a recovery, and recuperation period for the mother.

never seen it. If it did exist, then it's history. It doesn't happen in the west nor in somalia now

 

[Yaraye]

oh, i didnt see that bit. 40-bax is the closest you're gonna get i think

why can't we have it all taken care of, including the baby?

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

never seen it. If it did exist, then it's history. It doesn't happen in the west nor in somalia now

Yes, the West is a terrible habitat for families, esp. with no familial or community support base.

 

[xiin-finiin.]

why can't we have it all taken care of, including the baby?

life is very hard back home. we just don't have that luxury ig.

 

[Yaraye]

life is very hard back home. we just don't have that luxury ig.

ok. why can't it happen in the west then?

 

[Yaraye]

Yes, the West is a terrible habitat for families, esp. with no familial or community support base.

i believe i also said somalia?

 

[xiin-finiin.]

ok. why can't it happen in the west then?

old habits die hard. I think we are making progress tho. believe it or not, we used to insult the masculinity of men that helped their wives in the kitchen. Nasty nasty insults. Now, things are getting better though

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

i believe i also said somalia?

It still happens in the parts of the old country where I have got family.

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

ok. why can't it happen in the west then?

How many close relatives have you got living in your neighbourhood? Life is a struggle in the West, even for the middle class.

 

[Yaraye]

How many close relatives have you got living in your neighbourhood? Life is a struggle in the West, even for the middle class.

none anymore. Somalia is a struggle, west is a struggle, so is china, yet they still have the confinement period

 

[Yaraye]

It still happens in the parts of the old country where I have got family.

So the baby and all the chores is taken care of by the fam and husband. The mother doesn't touch anything?

 

[Dooyo]

I’ve seen the documentary of the Chinese umuul hotel, where mother and her newborn stay for a several weeks and have all their needs catered to. This is a luxury that only the well-off can afford. I think the Chinese traditionally, just had a similar concept to the Somalis of 40-bax. The mother’s female relatives and in-laws live with her for some weeks and help out.

 

[Yaraye]

I’ve seen the documentary of the Chinese umuul hotel, where mother and her newborn stay for a several weeks and have all their needs catered to. This is a luxury that only the well-off can afford. I think the Chinese traditionally, just had a similar concept to the Somalis of 40-bax. The mother’s female relatives and in-laws live with her for some weeks and help out.

I'm not even talking about the hotel, I'm primarily talking about the traditional one. During the traditional confinement, the mother doesn't life a finger unless she's bond or breastfeeding. Why don't we got that? even during the 40 bax, the mother is still expected to do some of the work

 

[Dooyo]

I'm not even talking about the hotel, I'm primarily talking about the traditional one. During the traditional confinement, the mother doesn't life a finger unless she's bond or breastfeeding. Why don't we got that?

We do. Unless the mother has shitty family/in-laws, or lives too far away from them, that’s how it traditionally is. The mother just feeds and bonds with the baby, maybe bathes it too.