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The flamboyant gay caricature we're used to on TV accounts for a fraction of gays irl. Most of them appear straight to the observer, and many make efforts to avoid the flamboyant caricature of popular culture as amate; they want a man that feels like a man.
Gay men are simultaneously subject to traditional male and female 'challenges'.
The way they talk is the most obvious sign. Even if they appear 'straight' they almost always have this gay-ish way of talking.