Hes smart but dumb

She knows what she’s doing. She should follow her heart and marry him.

Nobody settles for a drug dealer there’s no such thing. Think about it most men are civilians, why would a girl ignore them in favour of a criminal type? Because he has certain good traits that are hard to find in a guy. It’s dating up in all cases

Your question doesn’t make any sense. What I would do doesn’t matter, what does is that OP seems willing to look past his flaws. Everybody’s different
chrasima/looks will always btfo salary and xishood. It's over for us averagecells :meleshame:
 
chrasima/looks will always btfo salary and xishood. It's over for us averagecells :meleshame:
Eh. Sure you probably won’t ever get that raw unabated love and desire from a girl like a saqajaan diamond in the rough will but fret not. They’ll defo give you a chance once they’ve matured and wised up.
 
Honestly I’ve tried it a couple times because of peer pressure from roommates and being kicked out from family , quit after 3 months that’s the worse I’ve done but that’s not something I’d ever tell my future husband.

Also it’s concerning that he’s admitting this to you… kind of like he’s telling you not to be suprised if he continues later on down the line once your married.

Like if he was really an honest and decent guy like you said he wouldn’t have mentioned it in the first place, he would have just left it in the past and kept it pushing to build a future with you.

Also depending on the area I highly doubt weed was the only thing he was selling if he has a criminal record. This isn’t 2002
 
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Honestly I’ve tried it a couple times because of peer pressure and being kicked out, quit after 3 months that’s the worse I’ve done but that’s not something I’d ever tell my future husband.

Also it’s concerning that he’s admitting this to you… kind of like he’s telling you not to be suprised if he continues later on down the line once your married.

Like if he was really an honest and decent guy like you said he wouldn’t have mentioned it in the first place, he would have just left it in the past and kept it pushing to build a future with you.

Also depending on the area I highly doubt weed was the only thing he was selling if he has a criminal record. This isn’t 2002
Yep weed is now legal in many areas so if he still has a record he was most likely selling hard drugs (heroin, cocaine etc)
 
Why do you think he doesn’t deserve a second chance? I too use to sell weed (only to ajnabis tho, never to Muslims). Look at me now. I am doing pretty well alhamdulilah. Imagine if he found out about your degenerate posts? Your fanfictions filled with sexual innuendo’s? He’d run for the hills. We all have things we’re not proud of, so easy with the judgments.
Yea cause writing some racy fan fiction online is definitely equivalent to selling drugs.

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You in a couple of months
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It says a lot when even the guys on sspot are all telling you to stop being a ‘Barbara the builder’ and are telling you you’re single handedly messing up your life even though under most circumstances, they’d have a more forgiving view of a member of their gender. That should tell you the gravity of the issue at hand.

Love yourself first. You owe it to your future children. Seek therapy if need be.
 
It says a lot when even the guys on sspot are all telling you to stop being a ‘Barbara the builder’ and are telling you you’re single handedly messing up your life even though under most circumstances, they’d have a more forgiving view of a member of their gender. That should tell you the gravity of the issue at hand.

Love yourself first. You owe it to your future children. Seek therapy if need be.
I would never advice any sister intentionally to get with a deadbeat farax even if we share gender.. But some women are stubborn and would never listen to an advice especially if they're "in love" with the guy, even their family members can't help them. So the best option sometimes is to support and advice the best you can.
 

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Why do you think he doesn’t deserve a second chance? I too use to sell weed (only to ajnabis tho, never to Muslims). Look at me now. I am doing pretty well alhamdulilah. Imagine if he found out about your degenerate posts? Your fanfictions filled with sexual innuendo’s? He’d run for the hills. We all have things we’re not proud of, so easy with the judgments.
I have not said anything sexual on Somali spot, ma walatay? I'm not basra.
 

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People deserve a second chance, if the brother truly is a good man and he makes u happy, go for it :)
 

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I feel you macanto @SOULSEARCHING
You cant control who you are attracted to. You shouldn't be judgemental about others past and still choose not want to marry them. It is crucial to think about the innocent children that may be affected by your choices were he to relapse.

May your next butterflies be with a decent farah who'll be a good husband and great father to your children 😇
 
I feel you macanto @SOULSEARCHING
You cant control who you are attracted to. You shouldn't be judgemental about others past and still choose not want to marry them. It is crucial to think about the innocent children that may be affected by your choices were he to relapse.

May your next butterflies be with a decent farah who'll be a good husband and great father to your children 😇
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