Hes smart but dumb

[SOULSEARCHING]

I meet this Somali guy and he's pretty nice, He has the looks, good personality and brains. But I'm having a inner conflict with myself.

This issue is, he's addicted to weed. I can not see myself with someone who smokes weed. He also opened up to me and said he's got criminal record because he got caught selling it. That threw me off even more. I can not bring someone like that home. My dad and my family would be so disappointed.

But wallahi I get butterflies when I talk to him.

Can you change someone like this or should I move on.

 

[iskufilann]

I meet this Somali guy and he's pretty nice, He has the looks, good personality and brains. But I'm having a inner conflict with myself.

This issue is, he's addicted to weed. I can not see myself with someone who smokes weed. He also opened up to me and said he's got criminal record because he got caught selling it. That threw me off even more. I can not bring someone like that home. My dad and my family would be so disappointed.

But wallahi I get butterflies when I talk to him.

Can you change someone like this or should I move on.

Is he willing to change?
If so, then that's okay sis

 

[Abu Hesi]

You can't change him; it has to come from him. don't gamble with your life walaal.

 

[Sophisticate]

I meet this Somali guy and he's pretty nice, He has the looks, good personality and brains. But I'm having a inner conflict with myself.

This issue is, he's addicted to weed. I can not see myself with someone who smokes weed. He also opened up to me and said he's got criminal record because he got caught selling it. That threw me off even more. I can not bring someone like that home. My dad and my family would be so disappointed.

But wallahi I get butterflies when I talk to him.

Can you change someone like this or should I move on.

Men are plentiful, and butterflies will die in time. If your parents would not approve, there is no point in prettying him up to make him presentable. Ex-street pharmacists with weed addictions should be avoided. Think prospectively and imagine that's the standard you are setting for your children. Also, never accept someone on the promise they will change but on who they are (in the present).​

 

[Bowda-dheer]

I think he’s gonna be a great dad to your future babies. Your brain has already decided this let it go and give him a chance. As long as you pray and he prays he’s 5 daily prayers you should be good.

 

[Yaraye]

I meet this Somali guy and he's pretty nice, He has the looks, good personality and brains. But I'm having a inner conflict with myself.

This issue is, he's addicted to weed. I can not see myself with someone who smokes weed. He also opened up to me and said he's got criminal record because he got caught selling it. That threw me off even more. I can not bring someone like that home. My dad and my family would be so disappointed.

But wallahi I get butterflies when I talk to him.

Can you change someone like this or should I move on.

weed... criminal record..... and you still considering him as a candidate?! Girl stop being weak in the knees! run far away!!!!

 

[Gacmeey]

I meet this Somali guy and he's pretty nice, He has the looks, good personality and brains. But I'm having a inner conflict with myself.

This issue is, he's addicted to weed. I can not see myself with someone who smokes weed. He also opened up to me and said he's got criminal record because he got caught selling it. That threw me off even more. I can not bring someone like that home. My dad and my family would be so disappointed.

But wallahi I get butterflies when I talk to him.

Can you change someone like this or should I move on.

Ma’am your not bob the builder. Don’t try to fix anyone, instead find a man that will be a good father and husband and has a good character. Don’t destroy your future for a guy

 

[Odious Delirium]

I think he’s gonna be a great dad to your future babies. Your brain has already decided this let it go and give him a chance. As long as you pray and he prays he’s 5 daily prayers you should be good.

Are you ok with a woman who has done the same thing coming into your life tho?
(The only people I would see being ok with this are those that are involved in drugs or are naive)

Drugs is a red flag and could mess things up when kids come into the picture what if he gets arrested again or never gets over it.

Would you give the same advice to a guy if he basically said the same thing about a girl he was interested in?

 

[Yaraye]

Is he willing to change?
If so, then that's okay sis

nah abaayo. that's not the thought process you should have towards men there is a reason why the saying A leopard cannot change its spots has come about. Plus she's not a rehabilitation center.

 

[Yaraye]

Are you ok with a woman who has done the same thing coming into your life tho?

Drugs is a red flag and could mess things up when kids come into the picture what if he gets arrested again or never gets over it.

Would you give the same advice to a guy if he basically said the same thing about a girl he was interested in?

exactly, i was thinking the same thing. look at how disingenuous he is. Telling her to setting for a piece of a shit of a man, that he would never settle for if the roles were reversed

 

[Bowda-dheer]

weed... criminal record..... and you still considering him as a candidate?! Girl stop being weak in the knees! run far away!!!!

Stop trying to play captain save a Halimo. be glad the degenerate she’s dealing with is not an ajnabi but a brother who lost his way as a first gen in the inner city. If you stop hee from this brother she’ll end up with an ajnabi believe me when I say this. I don’t wanna hear another Xalimo crying to Dabcasar about some timojilic or jrreeer guy abusing her in the west.

 

[Odious Delirium]

exactly, i was thinking the same thing. look at how disingenuous he is. Telling her to setting for a piece of a shit of a man, that he would never settle for if the roles were reversed

This ain't the sort of thing that people should be lowering there standards for

You'll end up regretting it later. Don't try fix a man he's not a project this is the problem that faces modern women there are too many Bob the builders that will cry about it later in life when they knew how he was all along.

Same with the guys that wife women that ain't worthy and then cry when It fails

 

[iskufilann]

nah abaayo. that's not the thought process you should have towards men there is a reason why the saying A leopard cannot change its spots has come about. Plus she's not a rehabilitation center.

I just re-read it again but personally speaking if he did weed in his past and is a changed person then that's a different story.. But the criminal record caught me off guard

 

[Odious Delirium]

Stop trying to play captain save a Halimo. be glad the degenerate she’s dealing with is not an ajnabi but a brother who lost his way as a first gen in the inner city. If you stop hee from this brother she’ll end up with an ajnabi believe me when I say this. I don’t wanna hear another Xalimo crying to Dabcasar about some timojilic or jrreeer guy abusing her in the west.

 

[Abu Hesi]

This ain't the sort of thing that people should be lowering there standards for

You'll end up regretting it later. Don't try fix a man he's not a project this is the problem that faces modern women there are too many Bob the builders that will cry about it later in life when they knew how he was all along.

Same with the guys that wife women that ain't worthy and then cry when It fails

Wax kale iska daa, a pothead would not let another pothead marry his sister.

 

[Bowda-dheer]

Are you ok with a woman who has done the same thing coming into your life tho?
(The only people I would see being ok with this are those that are involved in drugs or are naive)

Drugs is a red flag and could mess things up when kids come into the picture what if he gets arrested again or never gets over it.

Would you give the same advice to a guy if he basically said the same thing about a girl he was interested in?

If I was okay with it what can you do about it? This woman is okay with falling in love with this somali brother who’s a bit lost but inshallah he will find his way. Degenerate people tend to be the most pious people once Allah guides them to the straight path they’re much better than everyone one of us here. Never judge people but pray for them. This sister has a clean heart and it’s how women are in general they have a big forgiving heart that sees the best in those that society looks down on. May Allah bless our sisters.

 

[Odious Delirium]

If I was okay with it what can you do about it? This woman is okay with falling in love with this somali brother who’s a bit lost but inshallah he will find his way. Degenerate people tend to be the most pious people once Allah guides them to the straight path they’re much better than everyone one of us here. Never judge people but pray for them. This sister has a clean heart and it’s how women are in general they have a big forgiving heart that sees the best in those that society looks down on. May Allah bless our sisters.

Isn't that the exact reason they end up crying to dabsaars in the first place about guys because they picked guys with criminal records and drug addicts. They should be picking right from the jump plus I can easily say this could turn her into a farax hater because she picked wrong at the end of the day its up to her. You know what they might just be right for each other who knows but I wouldn't let my sister make that mistake

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

You're attracted to a convicted drug dealer. Not at all unusual. Lots of women need the dopamine hit from an exciting man and don't care about their values. I said before alot of women pick wrong and then it goes downhill a few months or years later and then become certified man haters.

 

[Dualke]

Why would a well-educated man sell drugs?

 

[Bowda-dheer]

Isn't that the exact reason they end up crying to dabsaars in the first place about guys because they picked guys with criminal records and drug addicts. They should be picking right from the jump plus I can easily say this could turn her into a farax hater because she picked wrong at the end of the day it’s up to her. You know what they might just be right for each other who knows

The men ain’t shit movement is just women trying to play the western imposed white girl power tricks on Non white men. when it doesn’t go their way they cry men ain’t shit. On a note you’re right this is a perfect match may Allah bless their union if they’re the right fit.

You're attracted to a convicted drug dealer. Not at all unusual. Lots of women need the dopamine hit from an exciting man and don't care about their values. I said before alot of women pick wrong and then it goes downhill a few months or years later and then become certified man haters.

On the bright side don’t you think a nice brother got saved here if she’s going for the guy with records ? Women always court the bad boys and decent fellas at the same time.