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Does he make good income rn ? I say give him a chance you seem to like him
He told me he used to deal drugs, should I break up with him?
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I bet it's the danger that excites you, I bet you think you can change him right?
Save us the trouble, don't join the Somali men ain't shit group when things go awry or don't work out.
Save us the trouble, don't join the Somali men ain't shit group when things go awry or don't work out.
This is a tough one… people make mistakes and some people are able to bounce back.. you really need to evaluate his track records for the past few years to ensure he is not involved in any more criminal activities
10 years ago it was illegal to sell weed.. now many states it legalized and he could potentially get his record expunged. Also after 7 years he may be able to seal certain felony records. If he sold hard drug (cocaine, herion, etc that’s a lot more serious and would probakill it for me)
I also know guys who did time for selling, they are hustler and they know how to make money so that’s usually a plus .
none the less, your family may be very hesitant the second you mention a criminal record. As you can see on this forum many people already judging this guy. That’s something you will have to overcome.
pray salatual is istikahara. Take your time and really evaluate his character. How is his dean? How is he with his family? What’s his financial situation? At the end of the day a marriage is a partnership between two people. You have to ask yourself, will you be better off with him or will he drag you down? Love is great but marriage is more about teamwork. You want to build a strong team so make sure the person you are looking to marry will add value to your life not subtract from it
10 years ago it was illegal to sell weed.. now many states it legalized and he could potentially get his record expunged. Also after 7 years he may be able to seal certain felony records. If he sold hard drug (cocaine, herion, etc that’s a lot more serious and would probakill it for me)
I also know guys who did time for selling, they are hustler and they know how to make money so that’s usually a plus .
none the less, your family may be very hesitant the second you mention a criminal record. As you can see on this forum many people already judging this guy. That’s something you will have to overcome.
pray salatual is istikahara. Take your time and really evaluate his character. How is his dean? How is he with his family? What’s his financial situation? At the end of the day a marriage is a partnership between two people. You have to ask yourself, will you be better off with him or will he drag you down? Love is great but marriage is more about teamwork. You want to build a strong team so make sure the person you are looking to marry will add value to your life not subtract from it
Depends how old is he, if he is in his early 20s, then you can let slide in my opinion. If he is considerably older, run far away. Do a thorought backround check.
Check how much money he makes from his trade, if he is making good money thats good.
Tell him to tell you how severe were the charges and if he seriously only spent couple months in jail, could be more. You need to establish how long was he a criminal.
All depends on his age and how deep was he in the criminal lifestyle, also did he commit zina etc.
Check how much money he makes from his trade, if he is making good money thats good.
Tell him to tell you how severe were the charges and if he seriously only spent couple months in jail, could be more. You need to establish how long was he a criminal.
All depends on his age and how deep was he in the criminal lifestyle, also did he commit zina etc.
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Tough, we don't have enough information to go on, is he a social guy? Is he still dealing with people from his past? Or does he just go to work, go home and chill? What's his relationship with parents/siblings?
Regardless, he treats you well, and respected you enough to tell the truth, that is a admirable trait missing in most nowadays, it's up to you.
Regardless, he treats you well, and respected you enough to tell the truth, that is a admirable trait missing in most nowadays, it's up to you.
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My thoughts are ur here on the internet asking for marriage advice so ur already fucked imo
1. If you really love him spend more time with him to find out if really loves you because you should only go with someone like that if you have strong inseparable mutual love and your souls really connect.
2. Judge his heart and character first always, judge his past secondly. You said he's respectful and sweet those are the positive traits look for more, then which is why I said spend more time with him to see if you find any major character flaws that could be a upsetting you.
Always remember that most woman enjoy relationships with men who are a challenge and think they can improve them and if they do well they get more fulfillment/happiness
3. Now that he mentioned his past, think about your safety first, thank him for being honest about his past and ask him if there is any bad blood that could come back to bite threatening your security as a couple/family. if you are a good character yourself you should return the favour and tell him about your past sins.
4. The next step is look at yourself and your own past, and ask yourself are you too good or perfect for him?
5. Before you get to the families do you know people in common? if you do ask them questions as a little screening process for him and also ask them 'if we would suit each other'.
6. Introduce each other to your families. See if your parents and siblings like him and also consider the relationship between the two families if they really like each other.
I'm giving you the same exact advice I would give my daughter.
2. Judge his heart and character first always, judge his past secondly. You said he's respectful and sweet those are the positive traits look for more, then which is why I said spend more time with him to see if you find any major character flaws that could be a upsetting you.
Always remember that most woman enjoy relationships with men who are a challenge and think they can improve them and if they do well they get more fulfillment/happiness
3. Now that he mentioned his past, think about your safety first, thank him for being honest about his past and ask him if there is any bad blood that could come back to bite threatening your security as a couple/family. if you are a good character yourself you should return the favour and tell him about your past sins.
4. The next step is look at yourself and your own past, and ask yourself are you too good or perfect for him?
5. Before you get to the families do you know people in common? if you do ask them questions as a little screening process for him and also ask them 'if we would suit each other'.
6. Introduce each other to your families. See if your parents and siblings like him and also consider the relationship between the two families if they really like each other.
I'm giving you the same exact advice I would give my daughter.
