He told me he used to deal drugs, should I break up with him?

[Mac Sonkor]

He seems like he's changed but it's still very reasonable to leave him. His criminal past can affect your future, they're are plenty of people without criminal charges and you can go for them. Drug dealing is heavy stuff and one of his old opps can come after him

 

[bidenkulaha]

It’s going to be tough to find a somali guy who hasn’t got a history with crime.

We’re not that clapped. I would say nearly half of us have avoided crime.

But to OP you actually got an honest guy. I’d give him a chance. A perfect guy doesn’t exist and even if they were they’d be way above your league.

 

[Jaydaan]

Run. He may be honest but who is to say he doesn't have Ops from his past. Safety is of prime importance.

He must have the worst oops if they haven’t been able to find him in 6 years. I would do background check, he probably didn’t tell her all though

 

[Rocktheboat]

If he admitted he sold drugs to you he could be hiding more

 

[Odious Delirium]

You already know what you want to do but I would say do a through background check to see if there is anything else and if it's worth the risk.

 

[Juliet]

If the thread was about a girl admitting her past as a party girl, the replies would be veeeery different

Must be nice to be a man in our community

Oh, and run. You never know if any guy he’s fought in the past would come back to kill you as collateral. These druggies don’t play.

 

[Juliet]

Look at these xasid females. Prime example of bitter single women y’all. They don’t want you to be a happy.

We’re not that clapped. I would say nearly half of us have avoided crime.

But to OP you actually got an honest guy. I’d give him a chance. A perfect guy doesn’t exist and even if they were they’d be way above your league.

@empressjamila don’t let these men guilt you into settling for trash ex-cons

You deserve better, and you know it

 

[Angelina]

We’re not that clapped. I would say nearly half of us have avoided crime.

But to OP you actually got an honest guy. I’d give him a chance. A perfect guy doesn’t exist and even if they were they’d be way above your league.

A normal guy that doesn't have a criminal record certainly exists. Go and tell your sisters to marry ex cons walaalo.

Next time, please tell a man who gets with a girl with a past a chance because she's 'honest'. If not you're a bitter hater..

Btw, OP if things do wrong, believe me these guys will blame you for getting with a guy who went to prison. They'll say you deserve it for choosing an ex con and we already have countless of threads in which they blame divorced women for marrying those types of men and now they're encouraging you to marry those types of men.

 

[KaiMarvin]

This is why men say women don't know what they want. He was honest and came clean and now you gonna throw everything away?

We all deserve a second chance

 

[bidenkulaha]

A normal guy that doesn't have a criminal record certainly exists. Go and tell your sisters to marry ex cons walaalo.

Next time, please tell a man who gets with a girl with a past a chance because she's 'honest'. If not you're a bitter hater..

I am no hater. But you clearly have a lot of anger and resentment to men. This man is someone she liked and was planning to marry (I assume, didn’t read the OP). Why give up straight away. All I said was give him a chance. If there’s of course any further problems then sure end it.

How often do you genuinely end up liking someone. There might be a better guy out there but in all likelihood he won’t want you or you won’t like his personality. Very rare to find someone you click with.

There are many guys who wouldn’t have told her about his past. She would’ve end up marrying them. Why deprive the chance of an honest guy

 

[Waa-Aniga]

You need to come clean too with your buggages?

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

Depends. Are you perfect? If so, don't marry him.

If you had sexual relations before or had done other haram things like he has, then you can't judge him.

 

[Angelina]

I am no hater. But you clearly have a lot of anger and resentment to men. This man is someone she liked and was planning to marry (I assume, didn’t read the OP). Why give up straight away. All I said was give him a chance. If there’s of course any further problems then sure end it.

How often do you genuinely end up liking someone. There might be a better guy out there but in all likelihood he won’t want you or you won’t like his personality. Very rare to find someone you click with.

So because I disagree with the stupidity of some on this forum means I hate men? Lol. You need someone like me on this forum if not this place will be an echo chamber of insanity.

-No, it is not rare to find someone you click with. This scarcity mentality is how women end up in terrible relationships and men like you will then blame them for their divorce as she is the one that married an 'ex-con'.This is why Walis are important. Relationships are so much more than just emotional 'connections'.

- The advice i'm giving her is advise her own father would probably give her. OP is silly to take advise from men who will want the best for each other but advocate for women to get with ex-cons ect.

If you wouldn't tell a man to get with a woman who is 'honest' with her past, despite the awesome connection, why on earth would you tell a woman to get with an ex-con especially when there are tangible real life consequences such as issues with jobs ect. What type of xaasidnimo is that? So who really is bitter and resentful?

 

[Ahmed123-]

He deserves better

 

[Leila]

Cut him off , a criminal record can lead to issues with employment , housing , traveling etc .

Also if he was involved with dodgy people you can become a victim because they might come after him. Don’t put your safety at risk for a man.

 

[bidenkulaha]

So because I disagree with the stupidity of some on this forum means I hate men? Lol. You need someone like me on this forum if not this place will be an echo chamber of insanity.

-No, it is not rare to find someone you click with. This scarcity mentality is how women end up in terrible relationships and men like you will then blame them for their divorce as she is the one that married an 'ex-con'.This is why Walis are important. Relationships are so much more than just emotional 'connections'.

- The advice i'm giving her is advise her own father would probably give her. OP is silly to take advise from men who will want the best for each other but advocate for women to get with ex-cons ect.

If you wouldn't tell a man to get with a woman who is 'honest' with her past, despite the awesome connection, why on earth would you tell a woman to get with an ex-con especially when there are tangible real life consequences such as issues with jobs ect. What type of xaasidnimo is that? So who really is bitter and resentful?

You make many assumptions. Seems your argument is based on me being a hypocrite. Sorry to disappoint but I’d give the same advice to a man in this situation. Only thing I look down upon those are weak on their deen wanting to get married. No one should subject themselves to that hell. People who’ve made mistakes and have turned their life around I afford the benefit of the doubt. You are quick to give this benefit of doubt to women all the time. Why do you judge our farax’s so harshly?

Btw only person I’d give different advise to is my sister so you are right somewhat about that. But only because I’d assume she’s asking me to give an opinion on marriage rather than chance. Everyone deserves a chance. Be positive

 

[Angelina]

You make many assumptions. Seems your argument is based on me being a hypocrite. Sorry to disappoint but I’d give the same advice to a man in this situation. Only thing I look down upon those are weak on their deen wanting to get married. No one should subject themselves to that hell. People who’ve made mistakes and have turned their life around I afford the benefit of the doubt. You are quick to give this benefit of doubt to women all the time. Why do you judge our farax’s so harshly?

Btw only person I’d give different advise to is my sister so you are right somewhat about that. But only because I’d assume she’s asking me to give an opinion on marriage rather than chance. Everyone deserves a chance. Be positive

You wouldn't give your sister to an ex-con because you're smart enough to know that it can impact her life such as employment, travel, housing and past druggies maybe hurting her ect. So why would you advocate that for OP?

I'm not judging the lad. I've not said one negative thing about him. I'm purely looking at what benefits her long term. I'm giving her advice i'd give my sister or daughters whilst you admitted you aren't.

I rarely give women a pass. Lets be real half of the time weirdos are calling women a dh1llo based on a woman travelling and say the worst of such a woman whilst simultaneously encouraging a girl to marry an ex con. Hence, i'm usually in defense mode. In what world is that normal walal?

 

[Goodbye ✌]

Pray istikhara then make your decision

 

[Riya.]

Criminal record ? Girl run or you will struggle big time in the future.

 

[Last Laugh]

Lets be honest for a second. Imagine if she was your daughter and she brought this guy to you. I personally wouldn’t want my daughter marrying a reformed criminal with a record. Hell no