GOOD GIRLS FINISH LAST

[onthecloud]

No man on Earth wants his wife to bring him drama wtf We despise drama, probably the only con about Somali woman is that at least half are drama queens

Nigga what.
Men want peace, we don't want a screaming naag at home all day.
Coming home from a long day to relax not engage in some verbal duel is what a man wants

People who say men want drama always happen to be single.

 

[𝕃𝕠𝕣𝕕 𝕋𝕙𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕙]

Lol what’s with the xalimos here talking like they’re miskeen melvin the maths wiz

“Men are going for the prettier, more confident, athletic, outgoing and sexually experienced alpha women while us homebody betas rot in the basement ”

I can't believe you're actually right for the first time ever.
Bravo @Waa dhamatay you have exceeded my expectations

 

[onthecloud]

Some of these single women dont come from good families or have good reputations. Being homebody is not an excuse for everyone.

 

[Ikranay]

This is hilarious every Somali guy I grew up with that always talked about marrying submissive religious women went on to marry the exact opposite. These were all regular and in some cases religious men and most of these marriages are already collapsing. They also had the opportunity of marrying these types of women but rejected them for whatever reason.
If the roles were reversed you guys would say that women make bad decisions but when it’s the men it’s either a lie or western Somali women as a whole are bad.

 

[A Mean Guy]

This is hilarious every Somali guy I grew up with that always talked about marrying submissive religious women went on to marry the exact opposite. These were all regular and in some cases religious men and most of these marriages are already collapsing. They also had the opportunity of marrying these types of women but rejected them for whatever reason.
If the roles were reversed you guys would say that women make bad decisions but when it’s the men it’s either a lie or western Somali women as a whole are bad.

Cmon mate, let's not act like religious men all go for outgoing women. Both miskeen guys and girls expect someone to fall out of the sky and marry them instead of actually making an effort to socialise. Your personal experiences is clouding your reasoning.
How would these "Religious men" know of your existence if you don't leave your room/house?
Why don't you volunteer at a charity or even mosque or attend professional networking events. If you live in a big city i.e., MN, London, Toronto, you have a lot of opportunities to find a suitable husband/wife.
Since it's usually men that do the approaching, the bulk of the search falls on these

This is not a dig at you personally, I hope you find someone worthy of your love.
I believe that if you don't develop how to socialise with the opposite gender early in your life (teen), you would struggle hard to maintain any form of connection in your adult life.

 

[Ikranay]

Cmon mate, let's not act like religious men all go for outgoing women. Both miskeen guys and girls expect someone to fall out of the sky and marry them instead of actually making an effort to socialise. Your personal experiences is clouding your reasoning.
How would these "Religious men" know of your existence if you don't leave your room/house?
Why don't you volunteer at a charity or even mosque or attend professional networking events. If you live in a big city i.e., MN, London, Toronto, you have a lot of opportunities to find a suitable husband/wife.
This is not a dig at you personally, I hope you find someone worthy of your love.
I believe that if you don't develop how to socialise with the opposite gender early in your life (teen), you would struggle hard to maintain any form of connection in your adult life.

Thanks and by no means do I think all religious guys are like that. I’ve actually stopped expecting a religious guy tbh. My earlier point was that some Somali guys do in fact like “drama queens” and go on to marry these women. I’m naturally quiet so I’d never be the type to behave that way.

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[A Mean Guy]

Thanks and by no means do I think all religious guys are like that. I’ve actually stopped expecting a religious guy tbh. My earlier point was that some Somali guys do in fact like “drama queens” and go on to marry these women. I’m naturally quiet so I’d never be the type to behave that way.

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I see. The guys that go after those drama queens are setting themselves up for a stressful and broken marriage tbh. Nothing better than a woman that is very chill and is focussed purely on herself and family. I believe they still do not understand what it takes to make a marriage work, I wonder what they classify a non-boring woman as?

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[Ikranay]

I see. The guys that go after those drama queens are setting themselves up for a stressful and broken marriage tbh. Nothing better than a woman that is very chill and is focussed purely on herself and family. I believe they still do not understand what it takes to make a marriage work, I wonder what they classify a non-boring woman as?

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InshaAllah and you too! I have no idea what the consider boring or not lol and I’ve stopped caring. Quite frankly I think a lot people in general have fried their dopamine receptors. Life is not exciting most of the time. I’d much prefer a simple life with companionship.

 

[Abdisamad]

Men want drama nobody wants maskin lol

There are two different type of buuq, one which spices things up and makes a farax wants to knock a xalimo up with 10 kids and then the turn of type buuq of a bitter woman that says run before you lose your brain and hair

 

[Odious Delirium]

This is a huge leap from what I said . But yes guys usually prefer fun women Even if they themselves aren’t that interesting. You need to getaway from the incel language too its mentally poisoning you.

What does fun woman even mean in this context because I assure you most guys very much prefer a miskin woman as opposed to whatever a fun woman is supposed to be. We do not want buuq in our lives.

Men to be in a position to be married don't need her to even have a personality realistically speaking she can adapt to his personality if she doesn't have one and looks don't last. All guys really want is an agreeable woman.

We only have an issue with personality when it's a poisonous one otherwise it's women that care about men's personality we don't really care many just pretend to care.

 

[onthecloud]

That's cap you probably have never really tried.
Realistically many somali guys are equally soically awkward aswell. Both sides don't really interact with each other that often due to upbringing I guess the difference is that the guys don't complain about it because they get attacked and called incels and in general they just get on with it until they get results but soically awkward girls put in no effort to put themselves out there at all and if they do after a few fails they crawl back into there shells and feel sorry for themselves.

This stuff doesn't happen to soically awkward loser women this happens to women who are like that and don't have freinds.

Alot of them bring no energy when they're interested in you.

 

[Odious Delirium]

I don't know about the woes of zoomers and all that "incel" shit, but we were brought up to have a reverence and a certain respect for Somali girls. Particularly the pious hijabi ones, they have sharaf unlike gaalo.

Your formative years determine how you approach and interact with women. The approach that might've worked on a Jessica or a Samantha doesn't translate well when it comes to Somali girls who aren't particularly out-going. You're you end up acting/feeling more autistic and socially inept than you actually are and it just becomes a downward spiral. But you'll have to overcome that sense of ceeb unless you want to have mullato children who look nothing like you lol

That's my theory/been my experience anyway

We all where brought up that way hence why we don't interact with each other on certain levels.

I personally have only approached somali women and has been relatively rather recent. There is no ceeb when you have intent.
Also I wouldn't know about approaching gaalo because I'm only approaching in the first place with marriage in mind and I ain't interested in gaalo.
I have spoken to a few soically inept somali girls. It's not that there awkward you just need to get them conformable enough to not be soically awkward and more open with you aswell as making your intentions clear from the get go.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Alot of them bring no energy when they're interested in you.

Soically awkward girls don't wanna give away that they like you irl they feel it's ceeb and so won't put effort from that front. That's what I meant by them putting in no effort or giving up but online they are bold and will shoot there shot at you or let's just say they are a lot more approachable and there interest is a lot more clear

 

[onthecloud]

Soically awkward girls don't wanna give away that they like you irl they feel it's ceeb and so won't put effort from that front. That's what I meant by them putting in no effort or giving up but online they are bold and will shoot there shot at you

Hayaa and shyness girls are not the same as girls with daddy issues.

 

[Ozymandias]

That's right, you have to date to find a partner, it's that simple ffs

 

[Ikranay]

There are two different type of buuq, one which spices things up and makes a farax wants to knock a xalimo up with 10 kids and then the turn of type buuq of a bitter woman that says run before you lose your brain and hair

We’re talking about the first one lol.

 

[Nak-Muay-Femeu]

We all where brought up that way hence why we don't interact with each other on certain levels.

I personally have only approached somali women and has been relatively rather recent. There is no ceeb when you have intent.
Also I wouldn't know about approaching gaalo because I'm only approaching in the first place with marriage in mind and I ain't interested in gaalo.
I have spoken to a few soically inept somali girls. It's not that there awkward you just need to get them conformable enough to not be soically awkward and more open with you aswell as making your intentions clear from the get go.

Agreed. Had a couple dates with an absolute Somali queen of queens and once the inital awkwardness faded, the chemistry was insane wallahi. Don't think I've ever clicked with someone so much. The difference between Somali girls and gaalos is night and day, they just get you. I mean REALLY get. But it's like you said, you have to do it with the intension of it leading to something serious

I'm on cloud 9 sxb. Abdis really need to stop being pussies, grow a pair of bollocks and take the plunge, they're missing out.

 

[Shimbiris]

Agreed. Had a couple dates with an absolute Somali queen of queens and once the inital awkwardness faded, the chemistry was insane wallahi. Don't think I've ever clicked with someone so much. The difference between Somali girls and gaalos is night and day, they just get you. I mean REALLY get. But it's like you said, you have to do it with the intension of it leading to something serious

I'm on cloud 9 sxb. Abdis really need to stop being pussies, grow a pair of bollocks and take the plunge, they're missing out.

Nigga, there ain't nothing quite like flirting in the Af.

 

[Nak-Muay-Femeu]

Nigga, there ain't nothing quite like flirting in the Af.

I'm in the process of taking out mutiple pay-day loans so I can scrap this mehr money together lol

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[Adam Weishaupt]

Based on my personal experiences, especially observing my father being married to 3 wives in his lifetime, I've come to understand that women can indeed be more emotional and drawn to dramatic situations, as suggested by the Prophet's teachings. It's also been my observation that women can hold onto grievances for extended periods. My father consistently adopted a conciliatory approach, even conceding in situations where he wasn't at fault. Caught in the middle of minor disputes, he would always aim to resolve the issues amicably and maintain harmony within the household, striving to avoid any unnecessary tension or disagreements.


he Prophet (ﷺ) said:

“I was shown hell. I saw that most of its inhabitants were ungrateful women… The Prophet was asked: ‘Were they ungrateful to Allāh?’ He replied: ‘They were ungrateful to their husbands and for the favors and the good done to them. If you show benevolence to one of them and then she sees something in you not to her liking, she will say: ‘I have never seen any good in you.’”[2]