Gatekeeping Good News Until it Happens
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balanbalis
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You're probably not that close to your friends if you can't even anticipate something with them. It's one thing to share something in the far distance; however, if something nice is coming my way, and their way, we might share it if the occasion allows it, and then we encourage and celebrate each other. I am reluctant to share things with people I am not close with only. And I don't speak of dreams in the long distances (dreams should be guarded, unless it is in an appropriate context), but I talk about the minor pathways, things along the way, and might share what I want to achieve so they can get some of the hustler's aroma. There are many friends I would not share much with. Those are on the outer range in terms of how central they are to my day-to-day.
If you think the homies are not that solid, of course, you're not going to tell them things that are critical. Needless to say, true friends would allow themselves to be the catapult for you to get there selflessly because you'd do the same for them. I'm not speaking in idealism, that is how it is if you're blessed with very close friendships. Remember, 'friend' is an extremely loose term. There are "friends" I don't trust, and I would barely have them around me. So I think one should have the discernment not to throw the baby out with the bathwater, since you're losing something precious with it. I realized years ago that I am exceptionally privileged in the kind of connections I have had in my social life, where people barely had any. So I do recognize I speak from a sense of giftedness in that regard.
I'm not sharing everything all the time. Sometimes months might go by where I grind on something and don't tell until it bears fruit, and that is mostly because I grind, staying focused. Othertimes I let them in on the process so they might learn, perhaps get the benefit, or be part of it. For example, if it comes to investment. If I see something lucrative, I make the proposition for them to join, brief them, give them insight, and it is up to them to engage with it or not. They're going to do their respective thing, but they're going to get the premium information that I have if they're serious about it.
Then again, even to my close friends, there are some that I would not talk about investment because that is not their wavelength. Others, I mostly share deeper things with. I have one friend that I sit and talk to, and we literally talk about philosophy, social conditions, business, personal growth, everything. Another friend is more practical. Very pragmatic, I never talk about any deep things with him, but he is on business and hits me up when it is action time. Etc., etc. Shit, if I needed to get married, he would place 100 women infront of me and on some pop the baloon shit if I needed it, lmao. Deadass. He is that kind of guy. Other friends, we only talk in generalities. Like some of my cadaan friends from early elementary, we might never talk about business specifics. We celebrate, meet up, and just spend time and have a chat. One of them, I am with often, so I don't need to update that dude on anything, lol. Other friends, they might not be around, so whenever they are, they hit you up and you make sure to have many laughs and have a good time talking while you visit or they do. Shit you might call the squad up and go out to eat or grill or something and have a swell time because you know they live far away and might not see them for a hot minute and we enter our 30s now, so it's good to do these things now and then.
All I am saying is, man, Batman is cool, but that guy is too rigid. For years in my early 20s, I thought I had to somewhat neglect my friends to reach a new plateau. Later I learned that a part of success is to cherish the connections I had. Why? Because I noticed the guys that were around me in the professional setting often lacked the richness I had. And they were very eager to have a friend. These were successful people in the material sense. This might go into other things that relate. Just don't have this main character syndrome where you think your friends are problems to your success (unless they are, and that is another issue). All it came down to was how I manage and position my friendships. Some people need to be placed here, others there. In that way, it is more congruent.
This is specific to guys. Women are very different when it comes to this topic. They behave differently.
If you think the homies are not that solid, of course, you're not going to tell them things that are critical. Needless to say, true friends would allow themselves to be the catapult for you to get there selflessly because you'd do the same for them. I'm not speaking in idealism, that is how it is if you're blessed with very close friendships. Remember, 'friend' is an extremely loose term. There are "friends" I don't trust, and I would barely have them around me. So I think one should have the discernment not to throw the baby out with the bathwater, since you're losing something precious with it. I realized years ago that I am exceptionally privileged in the kind of connections I have had in my social life, where people barely had any. So I do recognize I speak from a sense of giftedness in that regard.
I'm not sharing everything all the time. Sometimes months might go by where I grind on something and don't tell until it bears fruit, and that is mostly because I grind, staying focused. Othertimes I let them in on the process so they might learn, perhaps get the benefit, or be part of it. For example, if it comes to investment. If I see something lucrative, I make the proposition for them to join, brief them, give them insight, and it is up to them to engage with it or not. They're going to do their respective thing, but they're going to get the premium information that I have if they're serious about it.
Then again, even to my close friends, there are some that I would not talk about investment because that is not their wavelength. Others, I mostly share deeper things with. I have one friend that I sit and talk to, and we literally talk about philosophy, social conditions, business, personal growth, everything. Another friend is more practical. Very pragmatic, I never talk about any deep things with him, but he is on business and hits me up when it is action time. Etc., etc. Shit, if I needed to get married, he would place 100 women infront of me and on some pop the baloon shit if I needed it, lmao. Deadass. He is that kind of guy. Other friends, we only talk in generalities. Like some of my cadaan friends from early elementary, we might never talk about business specifics. We celebrate, meet up, and just spend time and have a chat. One of them, I am with often, so I don't need to update that dude on anything, lol. Other friends, they might not be around, so whenever they are, they hit you up and you make sure to have many laughs and have a good time talking while you visit or they do. Shit you might call the squad up and go out to eat or grill or something and have a swell time because you know they live far away and might not see them for a hot minute and we enter our 30s now, so it's good to do these things now and then.
All I am saying is, man, Batman is cool, but that guy is too rigid. For years in my early 20s, I thought I had to somewhat neglect my friends to reach a new plateau. Later I learned that a part of success is to cherish the connections I had. Why? Because I noticed the guys that were around me in the professional setting often lacked the richness I had. And they were very eager to have a friend. These were successful people in the material sense. This might go into other things that relate. Just don't have this main character syndrome where you think your friends are problems to your success (unless they are, and that is another issue). All it came down to was how I manage and position my friendships. Some people need to be placed here, others there. In that way, it is more congruent.
This is specific to guys. Women are very different when it comes to this topic. They behave differently.
