Gaabadho soo gaala. Help me mend my broken heart

[SomaliWadaniSoldier]

 

[Taij4an]

Lecturing me on zina yesterday and quoting the bible today.

I am a multifaceted man

 

[Taij4an]

d. I also like to go out of my way and make a charitable donation on her behalf. I do this for every girl I ever crushed for in the real world

U doing too much u don't even know if these girls are good girls

 

[Taij4an]

Is there a relationship between the protective jealousy that a husband is suppose to have vis-a-vis his wife and Allah's protective jealousy over his servant's obsesses?

Every man should have gheerah over his wife.
Allahs gheerah over us is that we do not disobey him and commit kufr, he wants to protect his servants from going to hell.
His jealousy is not of Humans, Allah is free of need of us he is not harmed so u cannot call him jealous in the general sense

 

[Taij4an]

Hey, ladies. Lets keep this conversation lovely and fruitful. I'm sure @Hodan from HR intentions were pure and meant no malice

U really are too innocent, These same girls will literally break ur heart and not care about it.
U need to stop being so ncie

 

[zackattack]

Sisters I'm a brother. And I am so in love with this one qalanjo that I'm physically sick most of the time and I cry very frequently. Its really sad. I get depressed thinking about the impossibility of our being together. I say m'Allah ofc but I still cannot rid myself of the bitter pain and sorrow I feel. I love her so dearly. To have her as my wife, the beautiful mother of my children would be all that I could ever ask for out of life.

My life has become one depressed heartbreak after another. When I was a young boy I went to primary school and there was this Somali girl I really liked. One day she never came to school and I ran home asking Hooyo what happened to heblaayo and Hooyo told me her parents broke up and she returned to Djibouti with her father. I was so sad and depressed, utterly heartbroken as a 7 year old I remember fasting an entire afternoon in protest to God. Now I find myself in a similar situation again. Except this time I cannot bare the heartbreak any longer.

Man the f*ck up life is painful get use to it .

Find a new love keep it moving because once you stop moving you are dead .

In life you will have many lovers if you choose that route be halal get married but if you divorce get a new wife , your here for one thing in this life and that's prayer praying to God so don't forget that .
Yes love is great but it should not be your life goal .

 

[Mac Sonkor]

Those days are looooong gone bro lmaooo. I remember a successful brother cane and ask for my sister hand. He was a engineer and was earning well for himself and his manners were on point. My sister not only reject his proposal but absolutely embarrassed him. Never heard from him again.

Literally everyone i know got married that way. Maybe it depends on the person

 

[hamar_oo_iidil]

U doing too much u don't even know if these girls are good girls

Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty. A lot of your brothers are wrong for doubting a sister's purity. Really you're projecting your own insecurities and realise it not

 

[hamar_oo_iidil]

U really are too innocent, These same girls will literally break ur heart and not care about it.
U need to stop being so ncie

I'm sorry for whoever broke your heart bro. But you need to stop being so mean to your sisters. The mark of a real man is his purity and compassion for women, children and the elderly

 

[Taij4an]

I'm sorry for whoever broke your heart bro

My heart has never been broken in my life what are you on about

 

[Taij4an]

The mark of a real man is his purity and compassion for women, children and the elderly

Thats not the same as falling in love with and being a soyboy to some random woman you are lusting for

 

[Taij4an]

Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty

I never accused them. Being innocent does not mean u are a good person

 

[Taij4an]

A lot of your brothers are wrong for doubting a sister's purity

When did I doubt their purity? what r u even on about?
U can't assume a woman is a good women because she looks beautiful

 

[hamar_oo_iidil]

When did I doubt their purity? what r u even on about?
U can't assume a woman is a good women because she looks beautiful

No one is talking about her looks. Why do you keep on going on about looks and lust? We are not on the same page. You're assuming I like her because of her looks, or because of my lust. You're projecting how you view women on me.

 

[Hodan from HR]

I wish you well hodan, there are bad men out there but there are also plenty of good men, and put trust in Allah, always make dua, pray etc and In Sha Allah you will find the right man. Take care.

Alle kheyr haku siiyo for your kind words..

I'm

Taking this as a learning curve

A calamity that makes you turn to Allah(God) is better for you than a blessing which makes you forget the remembrance of Allah (God).
Ibn Taymiyyah

 

[hamar_oo_iidil]

Taking this as a learning curve

A calamity that makes you turn to Allah(God) is better for you than a blessing which makes you forget the remembrance of Allah (God).
Ibn Taymiyyah

Me too

 

[Taij4an]

No one is talking about her looks. Why do you keep on going on about looks and lust? We are not on the same page. You're assuming I like her because of her looks, or because of my lust. You're projecting how you view women on me.

Why do you love this woman who you have never talked to then?

 

[Laagite]

Sisters I'm a brother. And I am so in love with this one qalanjo that I'm physically sick most of the time and I cry very frequently. Its really sad. I get depressed thinking about the impossibility of our being together. I say m'Allah ofc but I still cannot rid myself of the bitter pain and sorrow I feel. I love her so dearly. To have her as my wife, the beautiful mother of my children would be all that I could ever ask for out of life.

My life has become one depressed heartbreak after another. When I was a young boy I went to primary school and there was this Somali girl I really liked. One day she never came to school and I ran home asking Hooyo what happened to heblaayo and Hooyo told me her parents broke up and she returned to Djibouti with her father. I was so sad and depressed, utterly heartbroken as a 7 year old I remember fasting an entire afternoon in protest to God. Now I find myself in a similar situation again. Except this time I cannot bare the heartbreak any longer.

Go touch some grass or camp out a local Starbucks/Tim Hortons, there's plenty of qalanjos out there.

 

[Hmohamed54]

Literally everyone i know got married that way. Maybe it depends on the person

I haven’t heard of one in soooo long

 

[Sophisticate]

You have fallen for a ‘projection.’ Essentially an idea of who you think she is, not who she is. This is more common among younger people. It can also happen in mature folks, especially those who tend to be more idealistic. Or if life is a little rougher than usual and you are in a more challenging place. It's more likely the case when you are off-center.

Look at your life waryaa. Maybe you are trying to escape from something like self-evaluation. Perhaps there is something that needs to be fixed, or you have a little too much free time on your hands. Put your energy into something more productive.

She is not the only one.

Do not close yourself off to other options merely because of her.

There is a multitude of different prospects. Many of which you could be content with.

It is far better to go for someone who is a flesh and blood individual rather than a phantom or abstraction of an earlier, more nostalgic time in your head.