Friends who don't answer the phone

[Aegon]

Seriously, there's nothing that annoys me more than that, does that happen to you? I call my mate to go out and the guy does not answer, knowing that he is not doing anything today besides, I do not know why while I wait for an answer.

Ever happen to you ?

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Yes it happens, I have called friends and see them online on socials and ignore me. Lol

what I think it means is they are not true friends, they either don't find you interesting, or connect. When you see them in reality they have no choice but to talk to you but when far away they could easily ignore you through text and call, this exposes who are fake friends.

 

[Aegon]

Yes it happens, I have called friends and see them online on socials and ignore me. Lol

what I think it means is they are not true friends, they either don't find you interesting, or connect. When you see them in reality they have no choice but to talk to you but when far away they could easily ignore you through text and call, this exposes who them as fake friends.

this guy in particular is one of my best friends, and he's the one who calls me all the time to go out, or check in like that.

But the problem is, when it's me who needs him and calls him, he never answers.

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

this guy in particular is one of my best friends, and he's the one who calls me all the time to go out, or check in like that.

But the problem is, when it's me who needs him and calls him, he never answers.

you are a choice, an ego booster, ill be honest.
he has no one else to do this with, and you should not make him be in control.
Say no, ignore his calls like he does to you & you be in control by making plans to go out, take the lead.

 

[Lebron James]

Thats how i cut off my friends when pandemic started bro, when everyone was forced to stay in i was always the one who initiated convo. Over time i took the hint that maybe i was confused on what our connection was. Find people that'll put the same energy that you give out.

 

[Febbie]

I have a guilty admission. I ignore one of my friends when he calls. And when I call him he answers. For years it's always been this way and tbh I did take it for granted until he cut me off and said I'm not a good friend and blocked me. Bastard!

My advice to you is two fold. Speaking as someone from his angle...

1. When he calls don't answer always, instead call back a day or two or maybe after a few hrs minimum. Not always but sometimes. Don't make this the norm.

2. TEXT TEXT and again TEXT. I've realised now my personality responds better to texts with friends than regular phone calls. Give them the gist of why you're calling.

Example "Hey sxb, haven't seen you in a while, want to catch up. Could benefit from a chat"

Example 2. "Yo G, sup. You free? Wana grab something to eat?"

Etc etc etc...

I respond to these type of texts. Not saying he or anyone else will. It's just my examples. See what works for you.

 

[TekNiKo]

Nothing feels worst than someone you care about ignoring you. I hate that feeling and feel like they are taking advantage of the relationship

 

[Boqorada]

That's why I ghosted all my needy friends. I hate talking on the phone everyday and clingy people in general. I am not a therapist. People need a break sometimes and can't be at your beck and call whenever. That's just reality. When your friend feels up to it he'll call you, you shouldn't take it personal.

 

[ninjabees]

Why don't you do what you want without friends. Learn to love your own company.

 

[Basra]

Seriously, there's nothing that annoys me more than that, does that happen to you? I call my mate to go out and the guy does not answer, knowing that he is not doing anything today besides, I do not know why while I wait for an answer.

Ever happen to you ?

Find another friend

 

[Shibbane]

Your so-called friend is potentially a narcissist and gets a kick out of playing mind games with you.

Either honestly level with the person and tell them that you are looking for an honest friendship or play the game.

2 can play dat game, innit?

Lesson #1: Next time he calls, serve him his just deserts and ignore him for 3 days or so and let's see his next move.