Family and money

[MuslimManMe]

I'll ask what she wants, and I will buy it for her. Same thing right? But $500 is very little, not what people are asking me. Most people are asking me for $5k-$10k. My parents have no problem with me buying what they want, but it's the friends that call me a "hater" for not giving them 10k cash.

Yeah people asking 5k is an eediat ting

If you're loaning friends, only loan what you're ok gifting. Tell them its a loan but intend it to be a gift.

But you not giving your mom 500 is hasid. Sometimes ppl make embarassed purchases

 

[jabsveg276]

You will definitely be afflicted with the evil eye and youre both Hasid and flashy.

I don't go around and "Boast". For example, I buy the newest "X" car. I don't show off or anything, I just drive normally. But I get more stares, calls and texts from old friends and females.

 

[Abu Hesi]

I'll ask what she wants, and I will buy it for her. Same thing right? But $500 is very little, not what people are asking me. Most people are asking me for $5k-$10k. My parents have no problem with me buying what they want, but it's the friends that call me a "hater" for not giving them 10k cash.

Forget you friends, they are not your friends trust me on this. I was talking about your parents.

 

[Fratello]

Thats if you show it and talk about it. Life is about keeping everything on the down low.

Imagine you own a successful company or your an engineer they know you’re getting bread. Then ofc you’ll get yourself a nice home, nice car, go on vacations etc. It’s not easy hiding it

 

[jabsveg276]

Forget you friends, they are not your friends trust me on this. I was talking about your parents.

Yeah my parents aren't really a problem, laakin the uncles and aunts who have hella money are asking for money annoy tf out of me

 

[Abu Hesi]

I'll ask what she wants, and I will buy it for her. Same thing right? But $500 is very little, not what people are asking me. Most people are asking me for $5k-$10k. My parents have no problem with me buying what they want, but it's the friends that call me a "hater" for not giving them 10k cash.

If your friends are asking that much, they don't respect you bro. I'm thinking you are a nice friendly guy but tell them to hop off seriously.

 

[Fratello]

I'll ask what she wants, and I will buy it for her. Same thing right? But $500 is very little, not what people are asking me. Most people are asking me for $5k-$10k. My parents have no problem with me buying what they want, but it's the friends that call me a "hater" for not giving them 10k cash.

And what are your ”friends” looking to do with that much money ?

 

[jabsveg276]

Imagine you own a successful company or your an engineer they know you’re getting bread. Then ofc you’ll get yourself a nice home, nice car, go on vacations etc. It’s not easy hiding it

It's a business, and yeah that's my point. I'm traveling to a nice count

If your friends are asking that much, they don't respect you bro. I'm thinking you are a nice friendly guy but tell them to hop off seriously.

Nice? I tell them to f*ck off and they keep coming back like a hungry animal. I read recently that you are the sum of your friends. My old friends were just a bunch of broke wanna-be gangsters and drug users so I elevated my friend circle and cut them off. I became friends with fellow business men and it brought me wonders. Laakin these niggas won't leave me alone. I might move somewhere nice and only give my location to family.

 

[jabsveg276]

And what are your ”friends” looking to do with that much money ?

Buy designer, drugs and cars.

 

[Abu Hesi]

Buy designer, drugs and cars.

 

[jabsveg276]

Exactly. The women are worse.

 

[Fratello]

Buy designer, drugs and cars.

I knew it lol. Have you tried telling them to f*ck off

 

[jabsveg276]

I knew it lol. Have you tried telling them to f*ck off

Yeah but they keep coming back

 

[Fratello]

Yeah but they keep coming back

Now that’s some weird people you got there. Just block/don’t answer and they’ll give up

 

[jabsveg276]

Now that’s some weird people you got there. Just block/don’t answer and they’ll give up

I've tried and they use different numbers. I'm gonna change my number and move to a nice apartment somewhere

 

[gurey]

Good friends will borrow and pay back. With family you give what you can and thats it. My advice is engage in charity thats continuous.Maybe a family that can no longer help themselves due to disability or mental health issues. They need you the most and not those that wanna ball with your money. Plus they wont ask you 1k let alone 5 10k.

Furthermore charity never decreases wealth

 

[Desert Flower]

Mom (yes).
Dad (wajib, but if he didn't to anything for you then...)
Grandparents (yes; they're old and are miskeen)
Siblings (depends on the relationship and mood)
Poor, needy people (yes).
Relatives that I'm close with and love and care about (yes: I'm talking about those that need the most help and assistance)

Everyone else: Nope. Its hard for me to forget those who have done me wrong.

 

[Capone]

If you’re rich/make a high income support the ones who were there for you when you were broke. The ones who weren’t there for you when you were at your lowest don’t deserve your financial support. It’s that simple in my book.

 

[jabsveg276]

Mom (yes).
Dad (wajib, but if he didn't to anything for you then...)
Grandparents (yes; they're old and are miskeen)
Siblings (depends on the relationship and mood)
Poor, needy people (yes).
Relatives that I'm close with and love and care about (yes: I'm talking about those that need the most help and assistance)

Everyone else: Nope.

Haye thank you,

If you’re rich, support the ones who were there for you when you were broke. The ones who weren’t there for you when you were at your lowest don’t deserve your financial support. It’s that simple in my book.

My nigga zubierrr, remember and honeybae from instagram? Back in the day

 

[MuslimManMe]

Mom (yes).
Dad (wajib, but if he didn't to anything for you then...)
Grandparents (yes; they're old and are miskeen)
Siblings (depends on the relationship and mood)
Poor, needy people (yes).
Relatives that I'm close with and love and care about (yes: I'm talking about those that need the most help and assistance)

Everyone else: Nope. Its hard for me to forget those who have done me wrong.

still wajib. no dots necessary

and siblings is higher than poor needy people.

They ask you what they should spend. Say, "Whatever you spend of good is [to be] for parents and relatives and orphans and the needy and the traveler. And whatever you do of good - indeed, Allah is Knowing of it."

Al Baqara, 215

For a man, his family's spending is wajib so Allah does not include it. For a woman, its her children. After that, the only wajib person to be spent on is one's parents. From there, relatives in order of closeness. Siblings, Grandparents, unces/aunts, cousins in that order with the only factor that could change them being one being poorer than the other.

And THEN you focus on the masakin near you and immediate in need and THEN distant masakin.
But to foresake your own siblings (not saying you do that) for random poor people is an eediat ting adn contrary to teh sunnah