Ever Wonder if your Soul is made of Greater stuff than YOU LIVING IT?

[Basra]

I do. I feel like My SOUL is more prominent, and powerful than how i feel or how i have lived my life?

Anyway-- thats one of my Sunday musings!



How is your Sunday? Am Sorry didn't mean to be totally absorbed

 

[Hodan from HR]

I went up and above to help a new coworker today. Didnt think much of it but when she clocked out without saying goodbye, I felt uneasy. I thought she might have found me insufferable. Then, she texted me after work thanking me for helping her out, says she hopes we get to hang out more.

My Sunday musing;
Why did her not acknowledging me bother me?

Am I a kind person or just a people pleaser?

 

[Jeghbamjdb]

I went up and above to help a new coworker today. Didnt think much of it but when she clocked out without saying goodbye, I felt uneasy. I thought she might have found me insufferable. Then, she texted me an hour ago thanking me for helping her out, says she hopes we get to hang out more.

My Sunday musing;

Why did her not thanking me bother?

Am I a kind person or just a people pleaser?

One concept that has changed my life walaal is that whoever you fear displeasing is your lord. If you fear the displeasure of people, then they act as your lord, your god in a sense.

The moment you realize that these are flawed human beings like yourself and that your interaction with them is like the collision of 2 ants in the grand scheme of things, is when you'll be able to liberate yourself from those chains of approval seeking.

Haven't succeeded yet though. Still striving.

 

[Basra]

I went up and above to help a new coworker today. Didnt think much of it but when she clocked out without saying goodbye, I felt uneasy. I thought she might have found me insufferable. Then, she texted me an hour ago thanking me for helping her out, says she hopes we get to hang out more.

My Sunday musing;

Why did her not thanking me bother?

Am I a kind person or just a people pleaser?

Huuuno you are a sensitive child. Also you are a people pleaser. To get rid of this normal behavior of a sensitive child is to be focused NOT on yourself but GOD. If u do something, do without ever expecting anything back. And NEVER assume others are mean or rude to u. Your perceptions are yours not theirs. And never value others liking you, because u will value when they dislike u more.

Just be nice, do right, dust off your hands, and start a NEW DAY. Repeat.

 

[Basra]

One concept that changed my life walaal.

Whoever you fear displeasing is your lord. If you fear the displeasure of people, then they act as your lord, your god in a sense.

The moment you realize that these are flawed human beings like yourself and that your interaction with them is like the collision of 2 ants in the grand scheme of things, is when you'll be able to liberate yourself from those chains of approval seeking.

Haven't succeeded yet though. Still striving.

Indeed. Have Allaah swt as your center and anchor. Peoples opinion value will disappear

 

[Hodan from HR]

@Basra @Shadow-san

Thanks for the advice guys

So my self doubts is caused by the fact that I understand I am human prone to err. My anxiety with dealing with strangers is that I dont know what ticks them off. What if they found my sense of humor offensive? What if I might come off cold coz I was trying to not cross boundaries? Which in a way is people pleasing, you guys are right lol

But the crazy part of my thinking is I am not seeking their approval in the sense that I want them to like me, it is more of I am highly self critical and wanting to be perfect at everything I do. Not knowing someone well throws me off

 

[Shimbiris]

@Basra @Shadow-san

Thanks for the advice guys

So my self doubts is caused by the fact that I understand I am human prone to err. My anxiety with dealing with strangers is that I dont know what ticks them off. What if they found my sense of humor offensive? What if I might come off cold coz I was trying to not cross boundaries? Which in a way is people pleasing, you guys are right lol

But the crazy part of my thinking is I am not seeking their approval in the sense that I want them to like me, it is more of I am highly self critical and wanting to be perfect at everything I do. Not knowing someone well throws me off

I learned a long time ago as well that a lot of what you project onto other people like "Oh, they think I'm dressed poorly" or "They think I'm out of shape" are really just your own self-critical thoughts. You really need to stop yourself sometimes and say in your head that you honestly have no idea what anyone around you is thinking. And it's true, you don't. That dude who looked at you funny could just be having a bad day or thinking about his mom who's dying in a hospital. Wishful thinking perhaps? Maybe he really does find you an eyesore? Maybe but you cannot know so it's best to train your mind to block out this urge to project thoughts onto people. Do what you wanna do and do whatever you are proud of or comfortable with and let people express themselves directly when they can and want to and be surprised either pleasantly or unpleasantly.

 

[Jeghbamjdb]

@Basra @Shadow-san

Thanks for the advice guys

So my self doubts is caused by the fact that I understand I am human prone to err. My anxiety with dealing with strangers is that I dont know what ticks them off. What if they found my sense of humor offensive? What if I might come off cold coz I was trying to not cross boundaries? Which in a way is people pleasing, you guys are right lol

But the crazy part of my thinking is I am not seeking their approval in the sense that I want them to like me, it is more of I am highly self critical and wanting to be perfect at everything I do. Not knowing someone well throws me off

All that's left now is for you to be rejected from art school and turn into this

 

[Jeghbamjdb]

Or just be like me and treat everyone like an NPC