Do you regret that you did not have children when you were younger?

[iskufilann]

I don't want to have children until i'm 30 or 31. I don't want to get married until i'm 29. if i were to be honest, if it weren't for this somali community f*cked up thinking of girls expiring past 25, I would want to get married until i was 35. I'm only 22 and when I tell my mother i don't want to even consider marriage until i'm at least 26, she gasps from shock

Literally I just want to explore the world, finish studying then get married. Told my mom "men are rubbish so there's no point in getting married", she nearly went into a cardiac arrest

 

[Bowda-dheer]

Guys from abroad are not an option. I will not be used as a stepping stone for an american passport

You remind me of this one girl. Who wanted a guy who has it all back home that’s not interested in qurbaha. She came back after a few trips back and forth. It’s all about the butterfly feeling if you not getting that it’s not worth it.

 

[Yaraye]

Literally I just want to explore the world, finish studying then get married. Told my mom "men are rubbish so there's no point in getting married", she nearly went into a cardiac arrest

I used to tell my mom that when i was in high school, but she would laugh thinking i was young. She was relived that i thought that way since it would keep me from being in trouble with a guy. However as I got older and kept that mentality, she's been side eyeing me

 

[DubatDiaries]

Not exactly regret, I am still quite young but part of me wishes I had a child by now. Just one to love and look after as I go through my 20’s.

it’s not the reasonable thing to do in my situation, so I l’ll have to put that on the back burner

 

[Yaraye]

Literally I just want to explore the world, finish studying then get married. Told my mom "men are rubbish so there's no point in getting married", she nearly went into a cardiac arrest

I wish I could travel. I'm a fatherless. I got no brothers. My mother only has 1 brother who's very busy. I need to get married to get a muxram

 

[iskufilann]

I used to tell my mom that when i was in high school, but she would laugh thinking i was young. She was relived that i thought that way since it would keep me from being in trouble with a guy. However as I got older and kept that mentality, she's been side eyeing me

LOOOOL that mentality is in use at times but not all the time.

 

[Yaraye]

Not exactly regret, I am still quite young but part of me wishes I had a child by now. Just one to love and look after as I go through my 20’s.

it’s not the reasonable thing to do in my situation, so I l’ll have to put that on the back burner

Why would you?! trust me you don't want a screaming, crying, blubbering, blabbing, messy creature

 

[iskufilann]

I wish I could travel. I'm a fatherless child with no brothers. My mother only has 1 uncle who's very busy. I need to get married to get a muxram

I think about this all the time tbh omg.. Might have to marry someone in order for that to happen sigh

 

[iskufilann]

Why would you?! trust me you don't want a screaming, crying, blubbering, blabbing, messy creature

Babies are cute when they're newborns tbh. At times, I have a baby fever then realise they're annoying

 

[Yaraye]

You remind me of this one girl. Who wanted a guy who has it all back home that’s not interested in qurbaha. She came back after a few trips back and forth. It’s all about the butterfly feeling if you not getting that it’s not worth it.

My mother was worried since there are some proposals already coming in. She let it slip while we were in the car. Many are from somalia. Told her "Hellllllllll nooooooo!" She laughed and said "Don't worry, they're aren't even an option"

 

[Yaraye]

Babies are cute when they're newborns tbh. At times, I have a baby fever then realise they're annoying

Never. NEVERRRRRR. Never have i had baby fever. For the life of me, I can't understand how people have that?
When I see children, i see a prison sentence

 

[iskufilann]

Never. NEVERRRRRR. Never have i had baby fever. For the life of me, I can't understand how people have that?
When I see children, i see a prison sentence

They're SOOO cute especially when they're newborns tbh
I always make duaa that I have twins

 

[Yaraye]

They're SOOO cute especially when they're newborns tbh
I always make duaa that I have twins

double the labor and burden. But may allah accept your dua

 

[iskufilann]

double the labor and burden. But may allah accept your dua

Yup, they're just adorable and ameen x

 

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[The Midlands]

Babies are cute when they're newborns tbh. At times, I have a baby fever then realise they're annoying

If i could go back and change anything i would do it. Life taught me it's better to have children in your 20s so that they can take care of you in your 40s.

 

[Garaad diinle]

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You'll grow old together. I remember a white family where two siblings and their parent were all retired. Time for this. Imagine seeing your third ancestor in front of your eyes.

 

[iskufilann]

If i could go back and change anything i would do it. Life taught me it's better to have children in your 20s so that they can take care of you in your 40s.

Yeah that is what is I heard. I'll make sure I have my children before age 25 inshallah.

 

[DubatDiaries]

Why would you?! trust me you don't want a screaming, crying, blubbering, blabbing, messy creature

Its silly.. I know. But I was obsessed with Matilda growing up ( still kinda am) and loveeddd Matilda, Miss Honey and their beautiful mother-daughter relationship.
I would love to have a daughter and live in a cute little cottage together
The worst part of this childish dream is a man is not included in the story line!! Im not about to have a child out of wedlock. I'm not putting my child through that. So it has to stay a dream for now, sadly.
Adoption is always an option.

 

[Yaraye]

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did you have it while married?