Do you believe "being in love" is bullshit?

[𝕃𝕠𝕣𝕕 𝕋𝕙𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕙]

Reason that I'm asking this is because a husband could have "loved" his wife then if they get divorced he disregards his past feelings and proceeds to "love" his new object of fascination. And so it goes on and on.

What's the point in chasing this euphoric feeling? I fail to understand the reason some choose to fill this bottom-less cup. Why waste time on this?

I want a genuine answer, please try to answer the best you can.

 

[Bari🐍]

What are you confused about? Do you go into marriage expecting divorce?

 

[Khaem]

You go into a marriage expecting a lifetime of partnership. If a divorce takes place what else is a man supposed to do? Ofc he will eventually have to discard his previous feeling otherwise he'd be a loser obsessed over a woman who's not even in his life anymore.

 

[Abdisamad]

Being in love =

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[Ragnimo]

Only people who have never been in love think love is bullshit

 

[Omar del Sur]

I think love and romance are a big deal for a lot of women. If you get married and your wife wants you to do things like buy flowers or whatever, why not?

But I don't think guys should themselves be overly into that sort of thing, I think it's more for women.

 

[Yaraye]

I believe that there could be fondess and affection but in today's age "love"..........

 

[Dualke]

Only people who have never been in love think love is bullshit

Or people who haven't grown up with parents in stable marriages

 

[onthecloud]

What are you confused about? Do you go into marriage expecting divorce?

Many Women do.

 

[Waa dhamatay]

Only people who have never been in love think love is bullshit

It’s a sour grapes cope from people who haven’t experienced mutual love (including me over)

 

[Sophisticate]

Humans are not static. They change. Being in love means different things to different people. You could be in love with an idea of someone and come to realize that was an idyllic version of them and untrue. That you liked their more amiable traits but couldn't stand their less palatable ones hence the eventual termination of the relationship. I recognize that no one is perfect and that people are not one-sided but a mix of good, neutral and bad. I suppose if you can reconcile with that then you'll be fine. Also, people can change and often do. They are like constantly moving targets. You may have loved who they were but not who they are now.

Romantic love is not the only requirement to have a lasting marriage. It is not the only factor to sustain it either. Marriage requires sustained effort and constant expectation management. Also, I get that longevity though one aspect of marital success does not denote the quality of the relationship, just that they both stayed. I should preface that people can be together for a number of reasons (based on choice, need, desire, obligation/duty).

I should preface that I believe in love and consider marriage a life long endeavour. I would only select someone who believes the same. I find those sort of men are like myself in that they come from stable two parent homes. For starters, they have more hope in the institution and belief in a more positive outcome.​

 

[DangerBadan]

Yes it is and you can be unlovable.

 

[Waa dhamatay]

Yes it is and you can be unlovable.

Over…

 

[DangerBadan]

Over…

Over what? People are afraid to fall in love too.

 

[Waa dhamatay]

Over what? People are afraid to fall in love too.

Only superior males are capable of being loved.

 

[Lostbox]

The science of love had been explained

Love, Actually: The science behind lust, attraction, and companionship - Science in the News

by Katherine Wu figures by Tito Adhikary In 1993, Haddaway asked the world, “What is Love?” I’m not sure if he ever got his answer – but today, you can have yours. Sort of. Scientists in fields ranging from anthropology to neuroscience have been asking this same question (albeit less eloquently)...

sitn.hms.harvard.edu

It's just brain chemistry at the end

 

[Omar del Sur]

The science of love had been explained

Love, Actually: The science behind lust, attraction, and companionship - Science in the News

by Katherine Wu figures by Tito Adhikary In 1993, Haddaway asked the world, “What is Love?” I’m not sure if he ever got his answer – but today, you can have yours. Sort of. Scientists in fields ranging from anthropology to neuroscience have been asking this same question (albeit less eloquently)...

sitn.hms.harvard.edu

It's just brain chemistry at the end

No it isn't. "the scientists"... the scientists can hush, "the scientists" also try to push nonsense gender ideology.

 

[Johnathan Smith]

How can you be a Muslim and believe love doesn’t exist.

“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.”

Don’t you know a righteous wife is the best blessing a man can receive in the dunya?
True love fluctuates and has ups and downs, but notice the ayah says ‘tranquility’. Tranquility is what you should look to achieve not the fast paced Hollywood movie style that people mistake for love but is actually lust.

 

[𝕃𝕠𝕣𝕕 𝕋𝕙𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕙]

I think love and romance are a big deal for a lot of women. If you get married and your wife wants you to do things like buy flowers or whatever, why not?

But I don't think guys should themselves be overly into that sort of thing, I think it's more for women.

This is my mindset rn. Wallahi I've always been the monogamous fella but now I am reconsidering. Some women will take their man for granted and think they could step all over him.

 

[𝕃𝕠𝕣𝕕 𝕋𝕙𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕙]

No it isn't. "the scientists"... the scientists can hush, "the scientists" also try to push nonsense gender ideology.

Why do people always act as if science is settled. There are many who disagree with the mainstream scientists