Do Somali men ever fight to receive custody of their kids?

[lulu2]

Apparently in Islamic law it’s preferred for the father to have custody of a child, especially a son, over 7/9 years old. And it’s common in other Muslim cultures for the father to fight to receive child custody after a divorce. Does this happen at all in Somalia/ with Somali men?

 

[Unicorn]

Apparently in Islamic law it’s preferred for the father to have custody of a child, especially a son, over 7/9 years old. And it’s common in other Muslim cultures for the father to fight to receive child custody after a divorce. Does this happen at all in Somalia/ with Somali men?

Hell yes. On youtube theres divorced girls who need help sometimes and they go to somali youtube shows. A lot of them are young moms and so many times they say they had to give their kid to the dad after divorce. This is because her family doesnt want.to.help her with that baby. Her parents tell her "take this kid to his family(dads side)" and of course it hurts for her. I saw one girl who got married twice and both divorces she had to give the kids to their dads. Also moms there might not have money. In America ive seen one somali guy get custody of his kids.its less common in america compared to somalia though since somali moms have money and govt support they can take care of their kids. They dont need to get help from their parents unlike Somalia.

 

[lulu2]

Hell yes. On youtube theres divorced girls who need help sometimes and they go to somali youtube shows. A lot of them are young moms and so many times they say they had to give their kid to the dad after divorce. This is because her family doesnt want.to.help her with that baby. Her parents tell her "take this kid to his family(dads side)" and of course it hurts for her. I saw one girl who got married twice and both divorces she had to give the kids to their dads. Also moms there might not have money. In America ive seen one somali guy get custody of his kids.its less common in america compared to somalia though since somali moms have money and govt support they can take care of their kids. They dont need to get help from their parents unlike Somalia.

I had no idea this was even a thing but I was curious. It makes sense that it happens more in Somalia but when you say they take the child to the dads side do you mean that the father becomes the primary caregiver or it goes to the aunt his sister/s?

Also what I meant was that the father fights to gain custody of the child not that the moms family doesn’t want to deal with the kid so they give it to the fathers family.

 

[Unicorn]

I had no idea this was even a thing but I was curious. It makes sense that it happens more in Somalia but when you say they take the child to the dads side do you mean that the father becomes the primary caregiver or it goes to the aunt his sister/s?

Also what I meant was that the father fights to gain custody of the child not that the moms family doesn’t want to deal with the kid so they give it to the fathers family.

When somalis say dads side(reerkis) they mean the father and his relatives/tribe. Remember tht the mom might be a separate tribe. So yes they mean give it to the father. Father will be the primary caregiver and IF he wants his sisters help they can help but he will be the one who has to financially provide and the kids are his.

Yes. In somalia the father fights to gain custody of the kids. After the divorce he goes to the elders from ex wife side and his side and tells them he wants his kids. Most times the moms will of course fight but usually if she doesnt have money to provide or her family doesnt fight for her to keep the kids than the dad wins and keeps the kids.