Do long-distance relationships work over the internet/phone? What are the Pros and Cons?

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Well, that depends on the people. Different people have different needs. Plus, there is a considerable amount of trust involved.

Of course, I suggest for most of you- try to meet the person. A friend of mine made two girlfriends over the internet, Now, the relationships both dwindled away. The one in UK was unfaithful and the chick from Germany was just depressing. He did, however, have a great time when he was able to go and visit them.

Now, there are some perks to having an internet/phone relationship.

1- You have a chance to actually get to know them by talking to them. Since you aren't spending 80% of your relationship slobbering all over her, it's more of a "pure" and a Halaal way to get to know someone. You get to know them on a personal level.

2- You don't really have to worry about a psychotic ex fucking it up for you.

3- They don't know your bad reputation in your city or state and it feels like a star over and helps boost your confidence and morals and less judgments.

Now, those are just three good things. Sadly, there are some negatives. SIGNIFICANTLY more negatives.

1- A lot of people that look for love on the internet have some serious skeletons in their closet. My mother always told me that people who look for relationships on the internet, mosques, and things of this nature have some serious problems- otherwise they wouldn't be looking there. Now, that doesn't mean everyone is "looking", sometimes you can stumble across them.

2- I especially should warn all of you- there are professional con artists out there, both male and female. Murderers, kidnappers, terrorists, gold diggers, bums, black market organ harvesters, serial killers, rapists, underage girls, pedophiles, and all-around nutjobs have acess to the internet just like anyone else. In a matter of ten minutes, I can have a Facebook/Instagram page and be a 14-year-old girl. I just need to get my hands on some photos and upload them. I know it sounds stupid, but you can't sit here and tell me that it doesn't happen. Chris Hansen can confirm this.

3- Talking to someone over the phone and with social media DMs is a LOT different than looking someone in the eye. The difference can be significant. A lot of people get "vibes" off of someone. Sometimes, I can just look at a person and observe them for a moment and decide that I am uncomfortable with them. I know a lot of people are the same. Some people can just smooth talk you.

4- Camera tricks. Not that it should matter, but some people who are very self-conscious do not like to show themselves. If looks are important to you (and they are to a lot of people), then be sure the person you are talking to shows you the 'real' them- I honestly suggest a webcam. However, you can meet someone and not give a shit what they look like if they've already won you over. Good looks can be ruined with a hot pan of grease and given with a few thousand dollars of surgery.

5- Infidelity. A lot of people tend not to take an internet fling seriously. Over long distances and in a place where there is no one who knows the person is no different than playing a blackjack at a Casino, it's easier to get away with being bad. Then you can come home and convince the other person that you are dating you were out helping old ladies cross the street and reading a Tafsiir to a youth, while you were really fondling with the your neighbor.

In closing, I say that you use good judgement. Meet them in a public area when the time comes and let someone know where you will be. Be patient, and it could pay off.

You guys add more and Pros and Cons as well, tell me what I missed and also if you came across anyone who was able to meet their soulmate online.
 

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I use to be open minded about online dating however My opinion has changed. Its a waste of time.

How is it waste of time Abaayo? Anyway Why it didn't work for you? I have seen plenty of people who found a soul mate online.:francis:
 

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I can't believe it but I'm actually bored of relationship related topics
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Yet you still here, hypocrite.

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How is it waste of time Abaayo? Anyway Why it didn't work for you? I have seen plenty of people who found a soul mate online.:francis:
No doubt it works for some. There too many married people on there. some are talking to you plus 5 others etc it is ridiculous 🙄
 

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getting into long distance relationship is dumb unless u both are forced to keep tap on each other and take to time see each other witch requires allot of trust patience most folk don't got that so it will fail . Phone relationship is kode for quick sex.
 
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Same here abayo. I think I answered atleast 10 questions about relationships on spot. Time to move on guys.

I can't believe it but I'm actually bored of relationship related topics
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If you have no trouble whatsoever in your relationships, then don't pay it any mind other than entertainment value. You have no place whatsoever to say that the advice is unnecessary.

If I go into a bookstore, I will see a lot of self-help books. If I see a book on how to lose weight, I am not going to sit and bellow and act offended because "I'm not fat", and "not everyone who walks through this section is fat". I won't do the same when I see a book on the proper handling of firearms, either. I know it doesn't apply to me. I feel no need whatsoever to make sure everyone knows I am not subject to the advice and suggestions being offered, especially when done out of humor. Why? Because I know it may help someone out there.

If you are fat and happy about it, by all means stay fat and happy and do what you do. Don't get pissy when someone tries to help out the fat and unhappy chicks who want to lose weight and in this case find a soulmate. Otherwise you make it quite obvious that misery needs company.:bell:
 
If you have no trouble whatsoever in your relationships, then don't pay it any mind other than entertainment value. You have no place whatsoever to say that the advice is unnecessary.

If I go into a bookstore, I will see a lot of self-help books. If I see a book on how to lose weight, I am not going to sit and bellow and act offended because "I'm not fat", and "not everyone who walks through this section is fat". I won't do the same when I see a book on the proper handling of firearms, either. I know it doesn't apply to me. I feel no need whatsoever to make sure everyone knows I am not subject to the advice and suggestions being offered, especially when done out of humor. Why? Because I know it may help someone out there.

If you are fat and happy about it, by all means stay fat and happy and do what you do. Don't get pissy when someone tries to help out the fat and unhappy chicks who want to lose weight and in this case find a soulmate. Otherwise you make it quite obvious that misery needs company.:bell:
First let me tell you...there is no such thing as a soulmate. Lol
 

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