Well, that depends on the people. Different people have different needs. Plus, there is a considerable amount of trust involved.
Of course, I suggest for most of you- try to meet the person. A friend of mine made two girlfriends over the internet, Now, the relationships both dwindled away. The one in UK was unfaithful and the chick from Germany was just depressing. He did, however, have a great time when he was able to go and visit them.
Now, there are some perks to having an internet/phone relationship.
1- You have a chance to actually get to know them by talking to them. Since you aren't spending 80% of your relationship slobbering all over her, it's more of a "pure" and a Halaal way to get to know someone. You get to know them on a personal level.
2- You don't really have to worry about a psychotic ex fucking it up for you.
3- They don't know your bad reputation in your city or state and it feels like a star over and helps boost your confidence and morals and less judgments.
Now, those are just three good things. Sadly, there are some negatives. SIGNIFICANTLY more negatives.
1- A lot of people that look for love on the internet have some serious skeletons in their closet. My mother always told me that people who look for relationships on the internet, mosques, and things of this nature have some serious problems- otherwise they wouldn't be looking there. Now, that doesn't mean everyone is "looking", sometimes you can stumble across them.
2- I especially should warn all of you- there are professional con artists out there, both male and female. Murderers, kidnappers, terrorists, gold diggers, bums, black market organ harvesters, serial killers, rapists, underage girls, pedophiles, and all-around nutjobs have acess to the internet just like anyone else. In a matter of ten minutes, I can have a Facebook/Instagram page and be a 14-year-old girl. I just need to get my hands on some photos and upload them. I know it sounds stupid, but you can't sit here and tell me that it doesn't happen. Chris Hansen can confirm this.
3- Talking to someone over the phone and with social media DMs is a LOT different than looking someone in the eye. The difference can be significant. A lot of people get "vibes" off of someone. Sometimes, I can just look at a person and observe them for a moment and decide that I am uncomfortable with them. I know a lot of people are the same. Some people can just smooth talk you.
4- Camera tricks. Not that it should matter, but some people who are very self-conscious do not like to show themselves. If looks are important to you (and they are to a lot of people), then be sure the person you are talking to shows you the 'real' them- I honestly suggest a webcam. However, you can meet someone and not give a shit what they look like if they've already won you over. Good looks can be ruined with a hot pan of grease and given with a few thousand dollars of surgery.
5- Infidelity. A lot of people tend not to take an internet fling seriously. Over long distances and in a place where there is no one who knows the person is no different than playing a blackjack at a Casino, it's easier to get away with being bad. Then you can come home and convince the other person that you are dating you were out helping old ladies cross the street and reading a Tafsiir to a youth, while you were really fondling with the your neighbor.
In closing, I say that you use good judgement. Meet them in a public area when the time comes and let someone know where you will be. Be patient, and it could pay off.
You guys add more and Pros and Cons as well, tell me what I missed and also if you came across anyone who was able to meet their soulmate online.
Of course, I suggest for most of you- try to meet the person. A friend of mine made two girlfriends over the internet, Now, the relationships both dwindled away. The one in UK was unfaithful and the chick from Germany was just depressing. He did, however, have a great time when he was able to go and visit them.
Now, there are some perks to having an internet/phone relationship.
1- You have a chance to actually get to know them by talking to them. Since you aren't spending 80% of your relationship slobbering all over her, it's more of a "pure" and a Halaal way to get to know someone. You get to know them on a personal level.
2- You don't really have to worry about a psychotic ex fucking it up for you.
3- They don't know your bad reputation in your city or state and it feels like a star over and helps boost your confidence and morals and less judgments.
Now, those are just three good things. Sadly, there are some negatives. SIGNIFICANTLY more negatives.
1- A lot of people that look for love on the internet have some serious skeletons in their closet. My mother always told me that people who look for relationships on the internet, mosques, and things of this nature have some serious problems- otherwise they wouldn't be looking there. Now, that doesn't mean everyone is "looking", sometimes you can stumble across them.
2- I especially should warn all of you- there are professional con artists out there, both male and female. Murderers, kidnappers, terrorists, gold diggers, bums, black market organ harvesters, serial killers, rapists, underage girls, pedophiles, and all-around nutjobs have acess to the internet just like anyone else. In a matter of ten minutes, I can have a Facebook/Instagram page and be a 14-year-old girl. I just need to get my hands on some photos and upload them. I know it sounds stupid, but you can't sit here and tell me that it doesn't happen. Chris Hansen can confirm this.
3- Talking to someone over the phone and with social media DMs is a LOT different than looking someone in the eye. The difference can be significant. A lot of people get "vibes" off of someone. Sometimes, I can just look at a person and observe them for a moment and decide that I am uncomfortable with them. I know a lot of people are the same. Some people can just smooth talk you.
4- Camera tricks. Not that it should matter, but some people who are very self-conscious do not like to show themselves. If looks are important to you (and they are to a lot of people), then be sure the person you are talking to shows you the 'real' them- I honestly suggest a webcam. However, you can meet someone and not give a shit what they look like if they've already won you over. Good looks can be ruined with a hot pan of grease and given with a few thousand dollars of surgery.
5- Infidelity. A lot of people tend not to take an internet fling seriously. Over long distances and in a place where there is no one who knows the person is no different than playing a blackjack at a Casino, it's easier to get away with being bad. Then you can come home and convince the other person that you are dating you were out helping old ladies cross the street and reading a Tafsiir to a youth, while you were really fondling with the your neighbor.
In closing, I say that you use good judgement. Meet them in a public area when the time comes and let someone know where you will be. Be patient, and it could pay off.
You guys add more and Pros and Cons as well, tell me what I missed and also if you came across anyone who was able to meet their soulmate online.