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I have been “dating” this ajanabi non Muslim girl for two years and recently I have been going through somewhat of an Islamic journey but I don’t even know how to remove myself from this haraam relationship.I can’t just end it because we knew each other for years plus over the past two years we built a deep connection and we truly have strong feelings for each other but then again it is haraam
 

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I have been “dating” this ajanabi non Muslim girl for two years and recently I have been going through somewhat of an Islamic journey but I don’t even know how to remove myself from this haraam relationship.I can’t just end it because we knew each other for years plus over the past two years we built a deep connection and we truly have strong feelings for each other but then again it is haraam
Is she a Christian or a Jew? You could technically still marry her if she is one of the two. Whether or not she is ready for marriage would be the next question.

If you don’t feel inclined to having a non-Muslim wife, as that may cause confusion for future chidren, take one of these two actions…

Either introduce her to Islam and ask if she’ll convert, or kaa hadh. Your deen should be first and foremost.
 
Is she a Christian or a Jew? You could technically still marry her if she is one of the two. Whether or not she is ready for marriage would be the next question.

If you don’t feel inclined to having a non-Muslim wife, as that may cause confusion for future chidren, take one of these two actions…

Either introduce her to Islam and ask if she’ll convert, or kaa hadh. Your deen should be first and foremost.
She says her family are Christian but she doesn’t adhere to a specific religion. From our conversations I’d say she’s an atheist/non religious who’s just living. That’s the problem. Even if she became Muslim my parents won’t ever approve of a non Somali wife
 

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She says her family are Christian but she doesn’t adhere to a specific religion. From our conversations I’d say she’s an atheist/non religious who’s just living. That’s the problem. Even if she became Muslim my parents won’t ever approve of a non Somali wife
Break up with her then bro what’s the point if your parents won’t let you marry a non Somali, you just wasting this girls time for nothing
 

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I have been “dating” this ajanabi non Muslim girl for two years and recently I have been going through somewhat of an Islamic journey but I don’t even know how to remove myself from this haraam relationship.I can’t just end it because we knew each other for years plus over the past two years we built a deep connection and we truly have strong feelings for each other but then again it is haraam
Are you going take throw 2 years of love outside of the window? Do you really love or? it doesn't matter, allah will understand. let her be whatever. Also Who cares if your parents approve it or not? you are an adult, this is your life not theirs so you make the choices and not them. Good luck.
 
Hey, since she isn't Christian or Jew you can't marry her. So your only options are she either converts to Islam or you let her go and end this relationship.

Obviously, its easier said than done as feelings are involved. However, this world is temporary and remember whatever you give up for the sake of Allah, you'll be given something or someone even better in return. Feelings are fleeting, but our love for Allah shouldn't be.
 
Are you going take throw 2 years of love outside of the window? Do you really love or? it doesn't matter, allah will understand. let her be whatever. Also Who cares if your parents approve it or not? you are an adult, this is your life not theirs so you make the choices and not them. Good luck.
Thanks bro but it’s easier said then done when it comes to the parents thing.but you are right with the will of Allah I am going to have to make a decision soo which will satisfy both the girl and Islam soon
 
It’s not that hard just break up with her, will be hard for a few months but after what you’ll be glad. Anyway even if you were not that religious, you couldn’t have been deluded enough to think you could have a real future with her did you?
 
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