Did your Parents avoid talking about Qabil?

[anon2]

My parents always avoided talking about Qabil like it was the plague. I didn't even know what their Qabils were (or mine was) until I was 20

I think it was due to them being educated people who experienced the best of whatever the old regime had to offer. This only the case for my parents though, my reer abtis and reer adeers back home won't outright say it, but they live, eat, and breathe Qabil.

 

[Username]

Yh, I only found out what my qabiil was when I was 17, and when I did ask, my mum asked me why I wanted to know

 

[Sol]

My ayeeyo lives with my mother and as she is someone born in the 40s she talks about qabiil 24/7 but my parents don't really bring it up at all I didn't even know was qabiil was till I went to Somalia. However the few kids I know that did know about qabiil and brought it up often where a certain band wearing group based in the North of the country

 

[Cajiib]

Yes, for the most part. It wasn’t given much importance in my home. I didn’t really understand it much (more of a visual learner) so couldn’t remember it well but managed to remember my father’s qabiil as I wanted to learn everything I could about him. Learned more about both sides of my family when I met more family members in Somalia. Had to use an actual notebook to write out all the info coming at me from them.

I don’t try to learn more about other qabiils as my only interest in qabiil is knowing who I am and who my family is. Sometimes knowledge of something makes people misuse that info. I remember the moment I saw girls my age at the masjid knew my qabiil and I didn’t know any of theirs. I could see how them knowing that affected how they behaved with different people.

 

[Lebron James]

Nah i used to hear my parents talk about it alot i knew my qabil at 7, older guys used to ask me at restaurants when i was there aswell

 

[Goodbye ✌]

Yeah I didn’t know my qabil until i was a teenager. My parents hung out and were friends with muslims from everywhere.

 

[Laagite]

I was 14 when I found out about my qabil from a shir video on youtube, an adeero was in that video. I asked for a bit and was told i was right.

 

[GemState]

My parents told me my abtirsi at 12, I got £1 for each name memorized. When I asked for more information my dad said maxaa ka galay you’re British

 

[Bebsi]

Nope, I was made to learn all about my qabil at an early age.

I knew abtiris since 5, was made a nursery rhyme. Knew about 50 names back in the day only know now about 14 now.

From age 10, I was going to the annual Qabil meeting. Also hosting when it was at our house.

I’m now expecting to be forced to join the qabil whatsapp group as soon as I get married.



But I do wonder, what will happen if I marry a Chinese girl that I piss off my dad with saying I will.

 

[Based]

Teaching your kids their abtirsi is completely fine but teaching them qabyaalad and hinting what qabiils you don’t like is child abuse in my books

 

[Khanderson]

It’s good that they don’t.

Kids or adolescence shouldn’t know these identity until they mature.

Qabil is a controversial and a political topic.

so it’s good to keep that way from kids.

 

[Dima&Damo]

Learnt my abtirsi at 17

 

[Arma]

They didn't talk about it. Because they're not Landers.

 

[Khanderson]

No they didn't. Because they're not Landers.

leave us alone. Why the hate?

 

[Cajiib]

Teaching your kids their abtirsi is completely fine but teaching them qabyaalad and hinting what qabiils you don’t like is child abuse in my books

The older generation indoctrinating the young with their cudur. And the cycle of hate continues.

 

[Dima&Damo]

leave us alone. Why the hate?

Most isaaq yute i grew up with already learnt it at a young age

 

[BenInHer]

My ayeeyo is well versed mashallah
.

My parents are miskiin tho, they favoured islam over qabil.

 

[Removed]

I don’t remember learning it. To any proper Somali its like saying when did you learn your name.

It was never something that occupied my mind past a name or hometown however until I became political and thus realized my ‘enemies’. Other folks end up finding their enemies in religious sectarianism or gender hatred

 

[Khanderson]

Most isaaq yute i grew up with already learnt it at a young age

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[Bebsi]

I once told my dad I’ll marry a midgaan girl for science.

Had to say it was a joke quickly.



Another time said I’d marry a cadcad or barwani girl cuz they hot asf



Aabo broke my dreams and had to bring me back down to reality

“Aabo don’t bother they marry themselves”