oh i mean it’s pretty common for parents to attend that
obviously if your kid sees all their friend’s with their fathers after the play and they don’t see their own father they will be upset and feel neglected.
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obviously if your kid sees all their friend’s with their fathers after the play and they don’t see their own father they will be upset and feel neglected.
That's right sis!
One parent can't raise children alone and no matter how great one parent is, when a child is missing one of them, it shows somehow; developmentally, mentally and even socially. Boys tend to act out and girls find it more difficult to trust men later on.
Walahi it's heartbreaking, because children always scan the crowd for their family. They really need that moral support and without it, it really hurts. You'd have to be a real loser not to show up for your baby during scary moments like that.
Even mothers sometimes miss some events. That isn’t the point. We’re talking about making sure you attend as much as possible.
Also, Nothing is more important than your kids. Also provision isn’t an excuse since women now also provide and they’re still able to make time for their kids. So we know that looking out for ones kids and providing is possible. Refusing to do is basically selfishness and xaasidnimo at this point. Rather puts you in the narcissism spectrum.
If you can see that the scientific literature surrounding being present and you’ve seen how not doing has negatively impacted your community and also the madows, then I can’t possibly see how you could argue that you care about your future children’s well-being.
You’re a man with a Western passport, who is probably educated with a cushy job. You don’t work 12hrs in a mine or a factory. The world has evolved to allow you to have 8hr timings and for you to be in an air conditioned environment, take advantage of that and evolve too in your personal life by using it to be there for your kids because Allah knows that you don’t have the excuses our ancestors did.
@Angelina
Maybe some of these males have been raised by brutish men, who only brought money home, that's all. Instead of learning from this and doing better, they told themselves that this is normal and they are continuing with the vicious cycle. A child needs more than food, children need love, support, friendship etc, etc.
What kind of parent doesn't want to see their kids doing activities, isn't this one of life's greatest joys?
Walahi a lot of people don't deserve to have children.
Maybe some of these males have been raised by brutish men, who only brought money home, that's all. Instead of learning from this and doing better, they told themselves that this is normal and they are continuing with the vicious cycle. A child needs more than food, children need love, support, friendship etc, etc.
What kind of parent doesn't want to see their kids doing activities, isn't this one of life's greatest joys?
Walahi a lot of people don't deserve to have children.
i mean even as adults if it’s our birthday for example and your friends always miss your birthday you’ll not think they’re your real friends or that they don’t care about you, if that’s how an adult feels imagine a child.
FACTS!
That's why you will see angry and insecure adults, they were never protected and supported during their formative years.
TekNiKo
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Who advocated for any sort of parental abandonment? You are really stuck in the polar extremes, a multi millionaire father is too busy to go to a “recital” and I commented on that, stop putting words in my mouth.
Yep
Even when it's an aunt or uncle, that one time you took them to the zoo or the park, is huge for them and they'll always love you for it.
LOL
If anyone has no excuse, it's a multi-mullionaire, who can hire people to attend meetings for him.
It's really scary to think about the fact that these pure beings come into earth, the closest thing to Angels and then they are broken by the hands of lazy, abusive, neglectful, callous "parents".
"Where is Aabbo/Hooyo? Scans crowd... "I guess I don't matter!".
"Where is Aabbo/Hooyo? Scans crowd... "I guess I don't matter!".
I find the mental gymnastics to justify this hilarious. The idea of fathers not being around was due to men working 12 hr shifts in a dangerous mine, going off to battle or a back-breaking round of factory work.
To think that young Western men who work 5-8 hours who can even get time off for personal reasons due to how work in the West has evolved, will try and still use traditional reasonings as to why fathers weren’t around their kids is disturbing.
Men like that will get left behind and it’s happening. The world has changed and their lives are nothing like the past but they will use the past’s parental dynamic to fuel their narcissism and lack of parenting.
You simply can’t have all the advantages of the modern world, but refuse to utilize it with regards to your kids.
watching all their happy friends run into their parents arms whilst they’re just standing on their ownIt's really scary to think about the fact that these pure beings come into earth, the closest thing to Angels and then they are broken by the hands of lazy, abusive, neglectful, callous "parents".
"Where is Aabbo/Hooyo? Scans crowd... "I guess I don't matter!".
i remember a lot of the kids used to go to their friends parents even
We’re not talking about abandonment. We’re talking about active vs non active fathers.
Please think before writing. Multi-millionaires have more time than the average working man. They have people working for them. It’s the minors, factory workers and other low paid men who I will always make excuses for.
What is your level of parenting expected of a father? Showing up is the bare minimum here, even more so for a millionaire who can delegate tasks to employees. I’m interested in seeing your answer.
Is your son seeing all of this friend’s dads being there, but not you a good look or good for their emotional development?
Furthermore, defending Akon and especially Cannon is an error. They’re engaged in the Godless ‘baby mama’ lifestyle. They’re not married to most of their baby mothers if not any. Hence, you’re advocating for a lifestyle that goes against the health of society. The very lifestyle you accuse feminism of promoting.
That is why I believe you stand for nothing.
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watching all their happy friends run into their parents arms whilst they’re just standing on their own
i remember a lot of the kids used to go to their friends parents even
When a father is inactive in his kids life they either become a criminal or a harlot. African americans are a good example of this. Whole generation growing up with no daddy, all the men know is thuggery and hood culture while their women are degenerative with 10 baby daddies.
cadaan parents are very good imma be real we immigrants need to take note from them
i was at the car park the other day and there was a homeless man sitting on the floor, i saw this cadaan lady and her 5 year old child walk past them. then she gave some money to her child and told him to give the poor man some money and then talked to the child about charity and helping the poor. i never see a somali parent that involved with their child.
White privilege is real, but putting that to the side for a bit, educated middle class cadaans tend to have articulate, confident and better behaved kids and all of that is in line with the data and studies that show that active fathers increase that.
My boss at work is always texting his kids while ignoring his coworkers and his own bosses. He won't let a second go by without texting back. He will walk out, cancel or will end Teams meetings immediately when his kids call him from school for just small talk. Complete devotion and attention. My parents were very involved but that is next level involvement. He's my role model.
Parents who don't attend parent teacher interviews or their after school activities are losers. They need to be called out for their behaviour.
Parents who don't attend parent teacher interviews or their after school activities are losers. They need to be called out for their behaviour.
