Coping with challenging times.

[Suqaar iyo suugo]

Asa,

I have been going through a very challenging time of my life over the last couple of months. These challenges have broken me down and I have spent countless hours sobbing. I am just trying to make sense of it all and learning how to cope with these new difficulties in my life. My question for you all is how do you cope with suffering in your lives? How do you stop this shaking pain in your heart?

 

[astorecalledkmart]

Asa,

I have been going through a very challenging time of my life over the last couple of months. These challenges have broken me down and I have spent countless hours sobbing. I am just trying to make sense of it all and learning how to cope with these new difficulties in my life. My question for you all is how do you cope with suffering in your lives? How do you stop this shaking pain in your heart?

Wsc wr wb

May Allah make your challenges easy for you ameen

Put your trust completely in Allah SWT and rely on only Him to help you overcome your struggles - remember that you are stronger than you believe and as Allah SWT says in verses 5 and 6 of Surah Ash-Sharh "Verily, with hardship will be ease. Indeed with hardship will be ease". Twofold does Allah SWT promise ease for your hardship and InshaAllah it will be so

Trust your affairs to the Almighty Lord of all of Existence who split the sea for Nabi Musa alaihis salam and saved Nabi Ibrahim alaihis salam from the fire, and InshaAllah, your problems will be made easy for you

If there is anything in particular that is troubling you, InshaAllah the brothers and sisters here have much wisdom they can share with you

 

[Muji]

Can I add to kmarts post if you have access to counselling it could be useful to talk to a trained professional who can help you with what’s going.

I’m sorry for what you are going through. From the way you describe it, it sounds harrowing.

 

[Saredo]

Asa,

I have been going through a very challenging time of my life over the last couple of months. These challenges have broken me down and I have spent countless hours sobbing. I am just trying to make sense of it all and learning how to cope with these new difficulties in my life. My question for you all is how do you cope with suffering in your lives? How do you stop this shaking pain in your heart?

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[kickz]

Put your trust completely in Allah SWT and rely on only Him to help you overcome your struggles - remember that you are stronger than you believe and as Allah SWT says in verses 5 and 6 of Surah Ash-Sharh "Verily, with hardship will be ease. Indeed with hardship will be ease". Twofold does Allah SWT promise ease for your hardship and InshaAllah it will be so

Trust your affairs to the Almighty Lord of all of Existence who split the sea for Nabi Musa alaihis salam and saved Nabi Ibrahim alaihis salam from the fire, and InshaAllah, your problems will be made easy for you

If there is anything in particular that is troubling you, InshaAllah the brothers and sisters here have much wisdom they can share with you

Well said brother

 

[riyaale]

Rest assured that suffering is an integral part of life. No matter who u r or what u choose to believe u are the hero that stops ur misery. No one will save u except urself. Maybe u r new to the a illnes, welcome to the a club and take ur seat and chill. Sit at peace within ur darkness to see ur light. Couple of months of misery ain't a thing ,bro. Slap urself and get ur shyt together.

 

[Mahacagalla]

@astorecalledkmart looks like you tamed her

She's now more calm and collected.

Life is full of ups and downs. Try and remember all the good things going on in your life. That's what I do when faced with difficulties. It's great to have someone to take to as well.

 

[repo]

Perhaps it's time for you to discover philosophy.

 

[VixR]

Can you talk to someone?

Perhaps it's time for you to discover philosophy.

First I’ve heard someone find philosophy uplifting. I enjoy it, but it’s not? At least for me, unanswerable questions are not that uplifting? Interesting, yes.

 

[Shmurda]

When the going gets tough I get tougher if life is working against me I'll work harder to stop that

Make some money. Its hard to cry when you got 100$ bills to wipe your tears

 

[Hodan from HR]

Wa aleykum salaam,

May your heart find tranquility during this trying time.

This life is temporary and so are your problems. They will either end or you'll adapt to the changes.

I cope by finding the humor in it. Especially if the problem is something I can not change or do anything about. I dissociate from the reality and numb myself till it passes.

It is easier to find humor in your hardship when looking at it from a third person pov.

Not a healthy way perhaps, though it does comes in handy as a temporary fix when I'm overwhelmed to the same extent like you are.

 

[The alchemist]

Take action to fix your problems. People underestimate their tolerance level for shit.

 

[yas/London]

Asa,

I have been going through a very challenging time of my life over the last couple of months. These challenges have broken me down and I have spent countless hours sobbing. I am just trying to make sense of it all and learning how to cope with these new difficulties in my life. My question for you all is how do you cope with suffering in your lives? How do you stop this shaking pain in your heart?

Stop crying it isn't going to help you sister! Babe get out your bed asap.. Like Now! Trust me I've been there. Put on some music and dance look in the mirror and tell yourself you are the most beautiful person in the world.

 

[yas/London]

This helped me so maybe it can help you

 

[Louis Vuitton Don]

When the going gets tough I get tougher if life is working against me I'll work harder to stop that

Make some money. Its hard to cry when you got 100$ bills to wipe your tears

Money doesn’t stop depression or problems you face. You eventually get used to having money. Very quickly I might add.

 

[NotMyL]

May Allah ease your pain, surround yourself with people that love you and get closer to Allah, I have had my share of heartbreaks when I lost loved ones and the only thing that helped was that

 

[Shmurda]

Money doesn’t stop depression or problems you face. You eventually get used to having money. Very quickly I might add.

Set a new goal for yourself then. Something you would be willing to spend the rest of your life trying to achieve.

Truly ambitious people don't get depressed because they won't let anything get in the way of them achieving their goals

 

[Calaf]

Your Trust in Allah is the only way you can cope, knowing there is something better ahead if you cope in the islamic way!

 

[Abdalla]

Can you give a bit more detail? Not every pain is the same.

May Allah cease your suffering and fill that void with Iman, happiness and satisfaction. And replace with whatever you've missed with something better.

Sometimes it's good to zoom out and reflect on our lives. Use your pain for a good purpose. It would be a pity to go through so much and not learn anything about it. My favourite quote is 'there are two kinds of pain, a pain that hurts and pain that alters'.

 

[Happy_]

May Allah ease your pain and grant you peace and happiness. I know how you feel, this year has been very tough for me aswell. I hope you find strength. Know that with hardship comes ease. Focus on the ease in your hardship and surround yourself with ppl who love you and remind you of Allah.