Contemplating leaving a job without another one.

[Waa-Aniga]

@Waa-Aniga
One toxic team member is all it takes to destroy a high-performing team.

Toxic team members are destructive because they

Create unnecessary drama and distraction. They suck the positive energy and creative brainpower out of the room. Team members waste precious time watching their back, instead of openly innovating, taking risks, and speaking up candidly about what’s on their minds.

I don't know exactly what you are going through but these are the advice I can give you.

take care of yourself. Don’t let this toxic behavior damage your emotional and physical health. Own what you can, let go of what you can’t influence, and make a change if you have to. If you have worked your tail off to develop better relationships with your saboteur coworker(s), and it’s going nowhere, or getting worse, consider seeking the advice of an HR professional or trusted mentor on what else you might try. But if you’ve done everything you can, you should consider leaving. Life is too short for work to suck the life out of you.
Talk with your boss. Proactively suggest to your boss that the team hold a meeting to set up team norms and begin to address some of the challenging behaviors and conflicts on the team. This session should not be a ruse for taking the toxic team member to task. It should be a real and authentic interaction, in which team members can gain insight into one another’s perspectives, set clear standards of expected behavior, and increase peer-to-peer accountability.
I hope I helped.

I have seeked advice with hr to which she said you must file complaint in order to deal with it. I was hesitant and left feeling as though I should at least tell the boss whom I knew wouldn't discipline this weirdo. His response was she is just like that. Like it's her personality I pushed back and said am at the verge of quitting and I know you don't like complaints but it's important you speak to her, he agreed, but I don't think he actually spoke to her to make it clear that this was the second complaint he received from two employees and she must stop speaking rudely to them. He is friends with her.

 

[486th President]

@Waa-Aniga
One toxic team member is all it takes to destroy a high-performing team.

Toxic team members are destructive because they

Create unnecessary drama and distraction. They suck the positive energy and creative brainpower out of the room. Team members waste precious time watching their back, instead of openly innovating, taking risks, and speaking up candidly about what’s on their minds.

I don't know exactly what you are going through but these are the advice I can give you.

take care of yourself. Don’t let this toxic behavior damage your emotional and physical health. Own what you can, let go of what you can’t influence, and make a change if you have to. If you have worked your tail off to develop better relationships with your saboteur coworker(s), and it’s going nowhere, or getting worse, consider seeking the advice of an HR professional or trusted mentor on what else you might try. But if you’ve done everything you can, you should consider leaving. Life is too short for work to suck the life out of you.
Talk with your boss. Proactively suggest to your boss that the team hold a meeting to set up team norms and begin to address some of the challenging behaviors and conflicts on the team. This session should not be a ruse for taking the toxic team member to task. It should be a real and authentic interaction, in which team members can gain insight into one another’s perspectives, set clear standards of expected behavior, and increase peer-to-peer accountability.
I hope I helped.

Where did you copy this from?

 

[Waa-Aniga]

Where did you copy this from?

He wrote it

 

[Waa-Aniga]

Where did you copy this from?

The problem is no one else is telling her straight up stop. They all somehow learnt to work with this menace weather be engaging in her behaviour or Befriending her.

 

[Official_HOBO]

He wrote it

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I wanted to write my own advice but It wasn't good enough.

source : https://hbr.org/2018/04/4-ways-to-deal-with-a-toxic-coworker

 

[Royalflush]

Such workplace dilemmas require big brain solutions
She’s a whale but shukaansi isn’t out of the question yet.
So you have to set her up: come back to work bring food and tell her we got off on the wrong foot

shukaansi the hell out of her till she thinks you want to hit it and she taking you home

beware you may feel nauseous several times from looking at her, firm it sxb you’ll be telling tales of victory soon

the final blow is you gotta reject her in public, should smash her ego and leave her a crying mess

no need to thank me sxb

 

[Waa-Aniga]

Such workplace dilemmas require big brain solutions
She’s a whale but shukaansi isn’t out of the question yet.
So you have to set her up: come back to work bring food and tell her we got off on the wrong foot

shukaansi the hell out of her till she thinks you want to hit it and she taking you home

beware you may feel nauseous several times from looking at her, firm it sxb you’ll be telling tales of victory soon

the final blow is you gotta reject her in public, should smash her ego and leave her a crying mess

no need to thank me sxb

She is married. Shukansi her kulaha I've tried being nice amidst the rudeness.

 

[AishaBarri]

I did force myself to confront her, and kinda told her how her behaviour is unacceptable and did already spoke to hr advisor. She was not apologetic one bit kinda deflected it and made it seem like am over reacting. The whole 5mins we were going back and forth. She is a strange bully in the sense that I avoid her like parasite but still brings drama to me. Most bullies will move onto next person. This one never leaves lmaooooooo

Before making any rash decisions, consider this. Would you be ok walking away from this job? Can you easily get a new job? If yes, and if you feel there’s no support from management then go for it. You just need to find a way to teach that witch a lesson. Your a man, can’t you assert your dominance or something This is very upsetting for some reason. Make sure you leave (or stay) with your head held high. Wishing you the best

 

[Official_HOBO]

@Waa-Aniga maybe that is her way of hitting on you, you never know

 

[Royalflush]

She is married. Shukansi her kulaha I've tried being nice amidst the rudeness.

Married woman are often single, usually happens cuz she ain’t getting it at home so she takes her frustration out on you

 

[AishaBarri]

Such workplace dilemmas require big brain solutions
She’s a whale but shukaansi isn’t out of the question yet.
So you have to set her up: come back to work bring food and tell her we got off on the wrong foot

shukaansi the hell out of her till she thinks you want to hit it and she taking you home

beware you may feel nauseous several times from looking at her, firm it sxb you’ll be telling tales of victory soon

the final blow is you gotta reject her in public, should smash her ego and leave her a crying mess

no need to thank me sxb

For once I agree with you. Nice plan

 

[Waa-Aniga]

Before making any rash decisions, consider this. Would you be ok walking away from this job? Can you easily get a new job? If yes, and if you feel there’s no support from management then go for it. You just need to find a way to teach that witch a lesson. Your a man, can’t you assert your dominance or something This is very upsetting for some reason. Make sure you leave (or stay) with your head held high. Wishing you the best

I don't like stooping to her level and generally speaking I hate confronting someone. Especially when I know this individual won't change. And if I assert dominance well you know how that will go. She will use that to paint an image where she is the target not me of her tyranny to hr to absolve her trouble image. Apparently 8 years ago someone went to hr to complain about her vile behaviour.

 

[486th President]

false
I wanted to write my own advice but It wasn't good enough.

source : https://hbr.org/2018/04/4-ways-to-deal-with-a-toxic-coworker

I used to do that In my early days

 

[Official_HOBO]

I used to do that In my early days

you stopped ?

 

[486th President]

you stopped ?

I don’t copy informative shit I now do my own

 

[Halimo-2018]

You're doing exactly what she wants.dont let anyone mess with your money don't leave unless there are other issues than her if so find another job silently and quit on them until then find an outlet to rant so that by the time you get to work nothing she does can bring your energy down thats the ultimate power.

 

[Official_HOBO]

I don’t copy informative shit I now do my own

writing down informative shit isn't my strong point

 

[المهندس]

Self employment is the way forward, gain skills and knowledge which help you work for yourself rather than working for someone.

 

[Sol]

May I ask what your job is? Depending on what you do for a living there could be a more finesse way to handle this

 

[J-Rasta]

I can understand the toxic environment it is best to secure something along the way , make sure you have a job lined in for you.

Indians are the worst people to work with, from my experience not so pleasant .

I thank God I'm self employed now , no more a smelly dickhead pajeet telling you what to do lol