can someone teach me the art of shukaansi

iley

iley

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Just came back from Somalia again, and it was a nice trip. Wanted to go back for a bit after turning 18 and it was nice, but one thing people found odd about me is that I don't talk to women. in my previous visit I stayed there for 2 years, and I was told to never look at a woman's eyes when speaking to them. In the states I grew up in an environment where I stayed away from other Somali girls and almost never interacted with them. complete 180 now that I am 18, parents are telling me to talk to girls now. I understand that I am young, but they also told me if I can't start now, it gets harder and harder as time goes by. I also live in a big city but with a low Somali population. But to get back on track how does one begin talking with the opposite gender?
 
Sa_Male

Sa_Male

runta ayaan kugu qarxin
iley said:
Just came back from Somalia again, and it was a nice trip. Wanted to go back for a bit after turning 18 and it was nice, but one thing people found odd about me is that I don't talk to women. in my previous visit I stayed there for 2 years, and I was told to never look at a woman's eyes when speaking to them. In the states I grew up in an environment where I stayed away from other Somali girls and almost never interacted with them. complete 180 now that I am 18, parents are telling me to talk to girls now. I understand that I am young, but they also told me if I can't start now, it gets harder and harder as time goes by. I also live in a big city but with a low Somali population. But to get back on track how does one begin talking with the opposite gender?
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I'll teach you shukaansi
 
abdi_

abdi_

I share your sentiment very much brother, me and my friends went from:
  • Boys only Duxi
  • Followed by boys only boarding school
  • Followed by boys only secondary school

When it was finally our choice, we of course, chose a mixed college, but by then we were the 4 mystic monks, who thought girls were unicorns that did not fart.

Of course Hooyos and Abos were suddenly: Well? Go swim!

Many of us learned to swim by just throwing ourselves into the deep end.


Complete 180 now that I am 18, parents are telling me to talk to girls now. I understand that I am young, but they also told me if I can't start now, it gets harder and harder as time goes by
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Its not as complicated as we often think it is. I remember us turning flirting into this complicated math equation, there were many popular flirting books about this back then, and we had them. I cant say they helped.

Believe it or not its not as bad as you think it is. You are 18 and are still in the tail end of things. if you have not, pick a suitable college, get involved in societies and in extracurricular activities. The after school events are what really helped me and my mates. If you are good at something lean into it, everybody wants someone who is useful in their team project or club.

All of this should give you ample opportunity to practice talking to girls, never mind flirting as it is hard to go from not being able to hold eye contact to flirting. It could be as inane as asking about yesterdays class or wanting to see their notes.

If you feel this is too big a gap for you, then on the early weekend days go to the shopping centres (malls) and just play dumb and talk to the girls (staff or not) there about some jeans, its quite and you dont know them.

The point is just focus on getting to a stage where you can hold a conversation with girls.

Also, dont neglect your appearances, first impressions are important and you will set yourself miles ahead of those that neglect it.

Two of those friends are married now and we occasionally laugh about it all. Good luck.
 
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iley

iley

reer magaal
abdi_ said:
I share your sentiment very much brother, me and my friends went from:
  • Boys only Duxi
  • Followed by boys only boarding school
  • Followed by boys only secondary school

When it was finally our choice, we of course, chose a mixed college, but by then we were the 4 mystic monks, who thought girls were unicorns that did not fart.

Of course Hooyo and Abo were suddenly: Well? Go swim!

Many of us learned to swim by just throwing ourselves into the deep end.



Its not as complicated as we often think it is. I remember us turning flirting into this complicated math equation, there were many popular flirting books about this back then, and we had them. I cant say they helped.

Believe it or not its not as bad as you think it is. You are 18 and are still in the tail end of things. if you have not, pick a suitable college, get involved in societies and in extracurricular activities. The after school events are what really helped me and my mates. If you are good at something lean into it, everybody wants someone who is useful in their team project or club.

All of this should give you ample opportunity to practice talking to girls, never mind flirting as it is hard to go from not being able to hold eye contact to flirting. It could be as inane as asking about yesterdays class or wanting to see their notes.

If you feel this is too big a gap for you, then on the early weekend days go to the shopping centres (malls) and just play dumb and talk to the girls (staff or not) there about some jeans, its quite and you dont know them.

The point is just focus on getting to a stage where you can hold a conversation with girls.

Also, dont neglect your appearances, first impressions are important and you will set yourself miles ahead of those that neglect it.

Two of those friends are married now and we occasionally laugh about it all. Good luck.
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this is very good advice i appreciate it a lot bro
 
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@iley
Shukaansi is an art form, and comes naturally to the few whereas most could be trained to mimic with some triumph. To practise, it begins with charming ladies in whom one has little, if no interest, being chivalrous to all females, even strangers, and to pull it off, one must be a gentleman with certain social standing, in other words well off. Maturity is requisite, and at 18, 1 in 9 are out of luck. Which of the said traits do you bring to the fore?
 
S

Sup

Anti Qabilist - Somali Patriot
iley said:
Just came back from Somalia again, and it was a nice trip. Wanted to go back for a bit after turning 18 and it was nice, but one thing people found odd about me is that I don't talk to women. in my previous visit I stayed there for 2 years, and I was told to never look at a woman's eyes when speaking to them. In the states I grew up in an environment where I stayed away from other Somali girls and almost never interacted with them. complete 180 now that I am 18, parents are telling me to talk to girls now. I understand that I am young, but they also told me if I can't start now, it gets harder and harder as time goes by. I also live in a big city but with a low Somali population. But to get back on track how does one begin talking with the opposite gender?
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Women are people too bro, approach them in a respectful manner and be yourself. Don’t over do it, be straight forward with your intentions. He’s a few pointer.

- Don’t talk too much, let her do the talking
- Be kind and respectful but never let them walk all over you. They will loose respect for you within a heart beat.
- Don’t over think, just be yourself.
- Make sure you look after yourself, be well groomed, they appreciate that and it’ll give you more confidence. Buy some cologne.
- I’m sure you have a sense of humour, make them laugh, they love it.
- Never be a push over, that’s a deal breaker for most women.
- Be a good conversationalist, and learn to listen when they talk.
- Be consistent,
- If a woman constantly lies to you, she ain’t worth it bruv.
- Don’t be too immature, they will look to you for guidance.

Good luck sxb
 
K

Kane

Shukaansi is really not what people think it is, like what black call a β€œmouth piece” alone.

The pick up artist community has wasted a lot of young men time, with routines and rehearsed lines.

There are so many different styles, you have to choose one that compliments your personality.

so here is the question do you know who you’re? If the answer is no! There is no helping you.
 
The truth seeker

The truth seeker

When life gives you lemons you make lemonade
VIP
Before you even think about women make sure you are in good shape and focus on looking nice and more presentable

Also it would be wise for you have to pick up a recreational hobby like basketball so you increase your testosterone and confidence

Start eating foods whith high protein and start drinking premier protein
 
The truth seeker

The truth seeker

When life gives you lemons you make lemonade
VIP
Attractive Women are a luxury they should never be your first priority

Women are bandwagon fans that roll with winners not losers start showing off your masculine traits and success/jet set lifestyle and the will flock to you like moths
 
The truth seeker

The truth seeker

When life gives you lemons you make lemonade
VIP
By luxury I meant a commodity only avalible to masculine and financially well off men I never meant that they were scarce quite the opposite actually
 
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