Black abaya forced 😴

[zesocialanimal]

Just because something is instructed by God doesn’t mean it’s easy. Things like lying and music are haram, but they are all very normalised everywhere in the ummah. Some of us live in the West and wearing the correct hijab, which is a jilbaab and no makeup, will make you stick out and feel alienated from everyone else. When I go to the store I can choose a different drink every day depending on my mood, but when you are a Muslim woman there’s not really any choice on what to wear, it’s just a jilbaab to be on the safe side. Also, it’s really hot wearing one.


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Ok so the difficulty lies in alienation and being a black sheep, that makes sense

 

[balanbalis]

IDK man, she said she was wearing pants and stuff without him around on campus.

"When I reach to college I take out my black abaya and chill in my maxi elegant dresses last time I went with trousers omg that was scary it was the first time then ofc when I finish college and am near the house I put back on my open black abaya"

That is inviting trouble, I don't wear tight shirts showing my muscles when I go to campus, I wear non-form fitting stuff as a guy, women have it worse.

Women are naturally beautiful, she will find guys lining up trying to convince her of haram if she keeps it up not even trying to beautify herself.

While to colors are not something he should say is bad, for the most part he is correct about abayas and the society is ruining her views!

I would not send my daughter to a western uni because of this, not because they are incapable, but because people there want to slowly drag them to haram.

Today its pants and a maxi dress, tomorrow its short shorts, the stuff she admitted to wearing was already form fitting and haram.

Too many people on here either ignore islamic rules or toss it out completely, and that is the best way to destroy your life and your afterlife.

No hedonists are happy, and if this sister lets society convince her step by step to abandon Islam and do haram, she will join the ranks of depressed people in the west.

Look at tiktok, how many women and men are posting about their depressing lives sad about their state, they are all losers, and I have nothing but hope in my heart the original poster doesn't end up like them.

Do you use AI to post

 

[Farah717]

Some parents are stupid. I guarentee next 100 years Diaspora Somalis will mix out/become irreligious.

 

[kloyd]

Some parents are stupid. I guarentee next 100 years Diaspora Somalis will mix out/become irreligious.

note to somali women stop marrying yemeni men

 

[Sigmundd]

nothing wrong with wearing different colours as long as your modestly dressed. There are different coloured jilbaabs available e.g blue, white green. You dot have to wear a black abaya.

 

[kloyd]

nothing wrong with wearing different colours as long as your modestly dressed. There are different coloured jilbaabs available e.g blue, white green. You dot have to wear a black abaya.

I always knew that black abaya being enforced on me never made sense because I can wear modest dress colorful abayas while still maintaining modesty. Unfortunately my dad does not want to understand and he is using this as control I bet once am married he would want me to wear niqab or am not good enough

 

[Sigmundd]

I always knew that black abaya being enforced on me never made sense because I can wear modest dress colorful abayas while still maintaining modesty. Unfortunately my dad does not want to understand and he is using this as control I bet once am married he would want me to wear niqab or am not good enough

I'm so sorry to hear this abaayo. Your father needs to be gentle. Islam promotes kindness and understanding and your father is failing to do that. In no way does the Quran or Sunnah make it compulsory for women to wear "black abaya" you need to tell him this . You also need to tell him Allah is merciful and woud never place hardship for His servants. Your father should also show mercy towards others more so his own daughter and understand your perspectives in things.

 

[kloyd]

I'm so sorry to hear this abaayo. Your father needs to be gentle. Islam promotes kindness and understanding and your father is failing to do that. In no way does the Quran or Sunnah make it compulsory for women to wear "black abaya" you need to tell him this . You also need to tell him Allah is merciful and woud never place hardship for His servants. Your father should also show mercy towards others more so his own daughter and understand your perspectives in things.

Ikr also I already answered this so copying it again

If I tell him that then it will just result in a shouting match he's salafi he loves hadiths strictly like my somali cousin that is from uae she loves to travel she is a grown woman so she travels alone my dad judged her to my mum saying why does she travel alone? where is her mahram?

He is so unfair and then he gets surprised when I don't want to talk to him and I have a sad face because he is restricting me

 

[Sigmundd]

Ikr also I already answered this so copying it again

He is so unfair and then he gets surprised when I don't want to talk to him and I have a sad face because he is restricting me

continue to show your sadness while still being respectful to him. He needs to get the hint that you won't tolerate his behaviour om you any longer. Especially because there's no evidence it's compulsory. Give me updates sis. And if you need any help im here.

 

[kloyd]

continue to show your sadness while still being respectful to him. He needs to get the hint that you won't tolerate his behaviour om you any longer. Especially because there's no evidence it's compulsory. Give me updates sis. And if you need any help im here.

Yea sis I don't disrespect him I just don't talk much to him anymore he has noticed this and is surprised. One time he saw me and hooyo I was talking loudly and comfortably he said why are you not like this to me? Am not like this to him because he's scary he has anger issues and always shouts one time he hit me so hard and my mum because I told him to stop touching me (he is too touchy for a father this is wrong act like my dad) and how strict he is etc it's not surprising at all that I don't like to talk to him anymore. My mother is not like this I love her so much she makes me feel safe and at ease even if she is harsh on me

 

[Sigmundd]

Yea sis I don't disrespect him I just don't talk much to him anymore he has noticed this and is surprised. One time he saw me and hooyo I was talking loudly and comfortably he said why are you not like this to me? Am not like this to him because he's scary he has anger issues and always shouts one time he hit me so hard and my mum because I told him to stop touching me (he is too touchy for a father this is wrong act like my dad) and how strict he is etc it's not surprising at all that I don't like to talk to him anymore. My mother is not like this I love her so much she makes me feel safe and at ease even if she is harsh on me

Keep going and continue with this till he finally understands he's in the wrong. See how he's already feeling some type of way.
Also tell your mum about this again bd again till your mum convices him enough he's in the wrong