Being relied upon

[Mckenzie]

Growing up I always prayed to God to never make me reliant on another human being. Alxamdulilah since the age of 19 I had that wish. But I forgot to ask God to also never make others dependant on me

Being in Ramadan and not receiving any phone calls and texts has actually been extremely comforting. Made me realise everyone comes at me like a pack of vultures when i'm available. Friends wanting a ride or splashing on a motive, gyal wanting time and attention, family wanting £££, work colleagues using my time and help in some form too etc.

I get that in this World, dadku way isu baahan yihiin, but when you are an iskufilan person, makes you wonder why others aren't the same.

I thought Ramadan and being away from people would have made me missed everyone, but my soul has rested from constantly trying to manage the expectations of others. I guess I've learnt something about myself this month. How about you?

 

[IstarZ]

It’s better to give than receive. Don’t give your time or resources to those that feel entitled ama ku marsanaayo. Can’t stand those folk.

This ramadan I’ve learnt what it feels like to have khushoo’ in prayer. I’ve actually never experienced it before. Alhamdulillah.

 

[VixR]

Friends wanting a ride or splashing on a motive, gyal wanting time and attention, family wanting £££, work colleagues using my time and help in some form too etc.

This sounds like everyday life, nothing that extraordinary. However, it should be a give and take, otherwise you’ll resent it like you are now. Maybe the problem here is that you’re too self-sufficient. Not that you shouldn’t be able to be, it’s a superb trait, but you don’t always have to be. If you can’t benefit from the people around you and they’re getting all the benefit out of you, it’s an uneven relationship.

But even more likely, you’re probably discounting what they do for you. Most of us are self-centered.

 

[Gambar]

People rely on you? Haye

 

[Basra]

If u r Self Sufficient, say Alhamdhulilaah. If u were in their position, whether by their choice or not their choice, u wont like it! Thanks to Allaah swt is the right way to go!