Beauty digging.

[Angelina]

If marrying a woman because you think she is beautiful is acceptable or beauty being high up on your list in what you want in a spouse normal, why is it demonised by men for woman to want a wealthy man?


Men usually say 'I want a beautiful practising Muslima'. Why is it a problem if a woman says 'I want a wealthy practising Muslim man?'

All types of men, broke, average, unattractive talk about wanting to be with beautiful women, yet no one asks them what they bring to the table.

Men, why does it bother you? Even some women are bothered by it? If so why?

 

[Quruxley]

"I want a beautiful virgin xalimo"

 

[Karim]

It doesn't bother me that some women prefer wealthy partners. It's their own choice.

 

[Bronco]

Social programming. It just comes across as extremely shallow.

Beauty is very subjective, wealth isn't really. It's the same reason why people from both sides claim they want to marry a 'nice' person when in reality it isn't all that much of a priority. It's all optics.

Further more men care a lot less about a woman's wealth, therefore it is harder to relate to. If my friend told me he would marry a girl because she's a high earner or a wealthy self-made women I'd give him a stink face.

At the end of the day, we both know a lot people gravitate towards beautiful women and wealthy men. That's why having wealth is more important to men than it is women.

I swear half your posts have to do with this exact topic. Iska waran? What diaspora are you from Angelina?

 

[Angelina]

Social programming. It just comes across as extremely shallow.

Beauty is very subjective, wealth isn't really. It's the same reason why people from both sides claim they want to marry a 'nice' person when in reality it isn't all that much of a priority. It's all optics.

Further more men care a lot less about a woman's wealth, therefore it is harder to relate to. If my friend told me he would marry a girl because she's a high earner or a wealthy self-made women I'd give him a stink face.

At the end of the day, we both know a lot people gravitate towards beautiful women and wealthy men. That's why having wealth is more important to men than it is women.

I swear half your posts have to do with this exact topic. Iska waran? What diaspora are you from Angelina?

Because these are the topic people reply to. I'm interested in history, sociology ect. No one would reply to these threads.

Plus, i was inspired by other threads and found it fascinating how one particular user was called a gold digger and all sorts of insults just for asking were wealthy men are at.

Also, wealth is rather subjective as well. What one person thinks is wealthy might not be what another thinks is wealthy. A girl back home might have a looser definition of wealth than someone in the West.

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

I want a wealthy handsome practising moslem

 

[Sumaaya]

Call me a simpleton if you wish but what will his wealth do for you if he doesn’t have good character/your personalities don’t vibe/no chemistry? So isn’t him being a kind, caring, man of good religion and character more important than his wealth? If he has a decent income and can provide you with with a comfortable life and is a genuine, good person, isn’t that better than say a man who earns 6 figures but is a shitty person? Also what are the chances of a man who’s earns 6 figures, meeting all your other needs?

As women I think we should just be a little more realistic with our expectations and be will willing to compromise with our preferences and expectations

 

[Juliet]

"I want a beautiful virgin xalimo"
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99% of these incels on this forum

 

[Angelina]

Call me a simpleton if you wish but what will his wealth do for you if he doesn’t have good character/your personalities don’t vibe/no chemistry? So isn’t him being a kind, caring, man of good religion and character more important than his wealth? If he has a decent income and can provide you with with a comfortable life and is a genuine, good person, isn’t that better than say a man who earns 6 figures but is a shitty person? Also what are the chances of a man who’s earns 6 figures, meeting all your other needs?

This is my issue. If a man says he wants a beautiful woman, no one would assume he doesn't want other qualities such as deen, kindness and athab. Its never one or the other with men.

Yet, when a woman says she wants a wealthy man, all common sense goes out the window and all of a sudden people assume that is the only quality she cares about.

 

[Mozart]

Broke men shame women that want rich men. Women who aren’t pretty shame men who want beautiful women. There’s nothing more to it.

 

[Bronco]

Because these are the topic people reply to. I'm interested in history, sociology ect. No one would reply to these threads.

Plus, i was inspired by other threads and found it fascinating how one particular user was called a gold digger and all sorts of insults just for asking were wealthy men are at.

Also, wealth is rather subjective as well. What one person thinks is wealthy might not be what another thinks is wealthy. A girl back home might have a looser definition of wealth than someone in the West.

True, but again, nowhere near as subjective. I literally think it just comes down to semantics. Most women living in a society have a similar floor in terms of what 'wealthy' means. I'd argue that far more than 1 in 10 women in my age range are beautiful. 1 in 10 men probably wouldn't even be classified as wealthy.

That's why nobody bats an eye if you suggest you want an established man. Likewise, a lot of men are using 'healthy' as coded language for attractive.

Your average man asking for a model/very attractive woman does get clowned, or asked what they bring to the table in their mediocrity.

At the end of the day, people will pursue what they want and should say it with their chest

 

[Sumaaya]

This is my issue. If a man says he wants a beautiful woman, no one would assume he doesn't want other qualities such as deen, kindness and athab. Its never one or the other with men.

Yet, when a woman says she wants a wealthy man, all common sense goes out the window and all of a sudden people assume that is the only quality she cares about.

It depends on what you priorities, what comes first for you, his good character and religion or his wealth? The problem I think occurs when you put an emphasis on his wealth

 

[Sumaaya]

Broke men shame women that want rich men. Women who aren’t pretty shame men who want beautiful women. There’s nothing more to it.

lol cheeky git

 

[Angelina]

True, but again, nowhere near as subjective. I literally think it just comes down to semantics. I think most women living in a society have a similar floor in terms of what 'wealthy' means. I'd argue that far more than 1 in 10 women in my age range are beautiful. 1 in 10 men probably wouldn't even be classified as wealthy.

That's why nobody bats an eye if you suggest you want an established man. Likewise, a lot of men are using 'healthy' as coded language for attractive.

Your average man asking for a model/very attractive woman does get clowned, or asked what they bring to the table in their mediocrity.

At the end of the day, people will pursue what they want and should say it with their chest

I would say beauty used to be a lot more subjective back in the day than now. Most young men it seems in the West tend to prize particular types of women than others and those prized women have a certain look. Blame instagram and social media.

Remember that black woman everyone was calling 'average'? If beauty is as subjective as we assume it is, that woman would not have been called average by thousends of people.

 

[Sumaaya]

I would say beauty used to be a lot more subjective back in the day than now. Most young men it seems in the West tend to prize particular types of women than others and those prized women have a certain look. Blame instagram and social media.

Remember that black woman everyone was calling 'average'? If beauty is as subjective as we assume it is, that woman would not have been called average by thousends of people.

Beauty alone won’t maintain a good marriage, men want more than that lol

 

[Bronco]

I would say beauty used to be a lot more subjective back in the day than now. Most young men it seems in the West tend to prize particular types of women than others and those prized women have a certain look. Blame instagram and social media.

Remember that black woman everyone was calling 'average'? If beauty is as subjective as we assume it is, that woman would not have been called average by thousends of people.

But she was average looking. That old guy waa shaqo la'aan and got off on her humiliation, but he wasn't wrong for calling her average looking at best.

Beauty standards still allow room for subjectivity. The average woman is average. That's how average works. Still, plenty of men would argue they married beautiful women and sincerely mean it. Even if the black beauty standard is light skin and 'thick' there is a scale to it.

Do you only find 10/10's attractive? I've seen plenty of mildly above 'average' looking girls I thought were beautiful.

This whole debate hinges on language.

 

[Desert Flower]

A woman who wants a financially stable man is required to list all the reasons why she thinks she’s deserving (I.e her beauty, finances, social class etc) as means of justifying her stance. A man is not when it comes to saying he wants a beautiful wife. His looks or what he “brings to the table” isn’t questioned.

It’s double standards and an inferiority complex. A lot of men aren’t thriving and are angry. Instead of figuring out how to navigate this system (built by men, for men) they’d rather spend time chastising woman who say with their chest that they require a financially stable guy (or “wealthy”) in my case. This is easier.

 

[gbrlax3]

If marrying a woman because you think she is beautiful is acceptable or beauty being high up on your list in what you want in a spouse normal, why is it demonised by men for woman to want a wealthy man?


Men usually say 'I want a beautiful practising Muslima'. Why is it a problem if a woman says 'I want a wealthy practising Muslim man?'

All types of men, broke, average, unattractive talk about wanting to be with beautiful women, yet no one asks them what they bring to the table.

Men, why does it bother you? Even some women are bothered by it? If so why?

dont marry a woman for her beauty only. a real man would be still attracted even by non good-looking women

 

[Sumaaya]

A woman who wants a financially stable man is required to list all the reasons why she thinks she’s deserving (I.e her beauty, finances, social class etc) as means of justifying her stance. A man is not when it comes to saying he wants a beautiful wife. His looks or what he “brings to the table” isn’t questioned.

It’s double standards and an inferiority complex. A lot of men aren’t thriving and are angry. Instead of figuring out how to navigate this system (built by men, for men) they’d rather spend time chastising woman who say with their chest that they require a financially stable guy (or “wealthy”) in my case. This is easier.

lol okay but let’s be real because there is a big difference between a man who can hold down a stable job and have a decent income where you live comfortably in comparison to a nigga who earns 6 figures

 

[gbrlax3]

It doesn't bother me that some women prefer wealthy partners. It's their own choice.

i dont belive this i heard stories about women basically marrying men without jobs