By trauma, i meant trauma surrounding FGM. Men do not go through it.
FGM is orginally a patriarchal concept that is a fact. So, in your words, how do you think it started? You think that women woke up and decided to inflict pain on themselves?
Its laughable that you completely ignore/dismiss the historical origins of FGM. In a patriarchal society, women's virginity and pureness is linked to the families honor. Women, were not telling themselves it, society that is run by men conditioned them. In a patriarchal society like Somalia, men historically believed that the only way a woman's virginity will be intact is by sewing her up.
Women, gain nothing but pain from FGM, whilst historically men got a woman they believe to be 100% pure.