Arranged Marriages

[Thatsomaligirl]

I don't think it's common in our culture, but to me the idea seems weird.
The fact that you can't choose who you want to marry and live with for the rest of your life is sad tbh.

 

[Bohol]

It is not called arranged marriage in Somali culture but introducing you to someone else. Basically you talk and if you get
along you can proceed with step 2 if not abort it.This is different to real arrange marriages (Indian ones) where you can't
talk to the bride and you simply marry her without getting to know her.

 

[Sixth]

I don't think that's how arranged marriages work for us, we're not Indian. u still get to know the person, the only thing arranged about it is that it was at ur parents' suggestion

This guy explained it to a T, with Somalis it's a suggestion that's all.

 

[DiricLover]

arranged and forced marriages are completely different. Arranged marriages is where the parents introduce you to an ideal spouse which I see no problem with as long as there is no pressure to marry the person. However, the down side to that is the parents would want to be informed in every move you make.


I find it weird when ppl say that's just awkward but I think of it as this: you wouldn't mind if your friend introduces/hooks you up to a guy/girl so how is that any different? If anything I'd trust my parents more because I know they wouldn't hook me up with a dusty doqon farax due to the extensive research they'd make beforehand

 

[Vanguard]

I don't think that's how arranged marriages work for us, we're not Indian. u still get to know the person, the only thing arranged about it is that it was at ur parents' suggestion

This.

I was questioning my Somalinimo for a second. I've never heard of anybody being forced to accept somebody they barely know.

 

[Assata]

arranged and forced marriages are completely different. Arranged marriages is where the parents introduce you to an ideal spouse which I see no problem with as long as there is no pressure to marry the person. However, the down side to that is the parents would want to be informed in every move you make.


I find it weird when ppl say that's just awkward but I think of it as this: you wouldn't mind if your friend introduces/hooks you up to a guy/girl so how is that any different? If anything I'd trust my parents more because I know they wouldn't hook me up with a dusty doqon farax due to the extensive research they'd make beforehand

I agree they're completely different.
Somalis for the most part do not practice that disgusting Arab culture.

From my friends experiences they definitely weren't forced but from what they told me. They had an extreme pressure to hit it off right away with their significant other.

And than 1 year later they have some regrets about how long they waited to get married and things like that.
And they don't seem happy with their husband/wife.

 

[Cyberborg]

it has good and bad. good because most of the time you'll get a good religious girl but also it can be bad because mothers will try to marry off their loose and unchaste daughter no one wants

 

[agnes]

I don't see anything wrong with it. A family member had one and it worked out for them. They were introduced through family but gotten to know each other before they got married. I wouldn't mind if I felt compatible with the person.

 

[Ubax45_]

The way Somali's do it seems fine and is probably going to be one of the fews ways of making sure people marry from within the community.

 

[Shanshiyo1234]

my yemeni friend told me she almost got married when she was 10

@Shanshiyo1234 what do you think about this

What the hell has that got to do with me?Somalis practice FGM!

 

[Shanshiyo1234]

Don't invite trash to my thread please.

Why am I trash?

 

[cantspeak]

No my that's not the case for all arranged marriages in the west.
I can tell you my friends were not unwanted or undesirable.

One of my friends her family was extremely wealthy so her family decided to keep the wealth in the family by marrying my friend off to her cousin.

And my other two friends had their moms arrange their marriage to each other (one of my childhood friends was a girl and the other was a guy) because their families were also very close.

It's a lot more common than you might think.
A lot of the girls I grew up with ended up in arranged marriages.

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I wouldn't marry my cousin. With that mindset wouldn't her parents and grandparents also be cousins?


She's jst asking for retarded kids.


My thought to arranged marriage is that I would be fine with it. My mother would want the best for me and because of that would pick a suitable spouse for me to see.


If she asks for meher, then I have to check the mouth for diseases. I can't be buying defective xoolo

 

[Jujuman]

War what kind of a person are you Inquisitive???

He's a flat earther above all else

:siilaanyolaugh:

 

[Jujuman]

If you're asking about inbred arranged marriage in the subcontinent then no it's absolute shit.

The ones in the horn however I don't have a strong opinion on and from what I've heard they've actually produced happy marriages.

 

[Arman]

One of my cousins was pressured into 2 arranged marriages. She fled them both.

 

[Ubax45_]

One of my cousins was pressured into 2 arranged marriages. She fled them both.

Back home?

 

[cantspeak]

One of my cousins was pressured into 2 arranged marriages. She fled them both.

Lmao

Her parents didn't get the message the first time, she actually had to flee for her life.

 

[Arman]

Back home?

No. They were in America.

 

[Jeesto]

No. They were in America.

Somali?

 

[Arman]

Somali?

Unfortunately, yes...