Are you willing to send money to your father, his 2nd wife, and her kids in Somalia?

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Yaraye said:
I was shocked for min :damn: see! Now tolerating his previous kids is the normal human reaction:wtfdis: but personally i wouldn’t marry a man that got kids:sass2: unless it was my remarriage and I got kids
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Apparently, my mom saw him and she liked what she saw.

:damn:

But also, he pretty much does what my mom says.
 
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Angelina said:
A lot of them do once they reach retirement age. I’m pushing 30 and my fathers gen are 60-70. Yes, many do indeed go back home. I don’t know what you’re talking about and refuting such a common phenomenon makes you look clueless. I even know many people whose fathers left when they were teen to marry a second wife and never bothered to come back.
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What’s the point of lying? The Somali kids brought up in qurbaha who are 30+ are a very tiny minority first and foremost. Secondly majority of the returnes are the ones who abandon their families in the west to restart in Somali ( and as u can see in here, most of their kids already said they wont send back jack). i literally cant think of more than a handful Somali parents with grown kids in europe who moved back. Even the odeeyals from SL and PL might go for a couple months vacation but not move back.
Angelina said:
I’m talking about the generation of women. They do indeed and are expected to provide for their parents. That’s a fact. Young women all work and parents expect them to contribute and sometimes do more so than brothers.

My parents and had a traditional set up. My dad has always been responsible, but unfortunately, I knew and know far too many Somali mothers that work in care and the cleaning industry. Now in London more than 60% of Somali habayars work In care with some even owning it MashaAllah.
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Might be different family dynamics then? im the oldest boy and so is my father and never have our families depended on our sisters.

Once again ur speaking about somali women who aint got a husband im speakin about a normal two parents household not the dysfunctional ones where the women wear pants.
 
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Yaraye said:
Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?
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No. If he plans to go back home and get another family, he better start saving now. If he expects me to do so, he's being quite selfish.
 
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R1ALIST said:
What’s the point of lying? The Somali kids brought up in qurbaha who are 30+ are a very tiny minority first and foremost. Secondly majority of the returnes are the ones who abandon their families in the west to restart in Somali ( and as u can see in here, most of their kids already said they wont send back jack). i literally cant think of more than a handful Somali parents with grown kids in europe who moved back. Even the odeeyals from SL and PL might go for a couple months vacation but not move back.
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Why would I lie about such an innocent point? Also, how old are you? Also, I’m talking about odayal who used to live in the West but went back when their kids were teens or adults. It’s common and I see it all the time, so why argue with me over something I see all the time. Literally TWO of my uncles have moved back. Btw, I’m in my late 20s about to turn 30. We are not a minority. Somalis first started flooding to the West by 1989 which is when the war first started, so what are you talking about. Majority of my friends were either born in the UK like myself or at least came before 8. I just know you’re like a 21-25 yr old kid or a fob. Because you’d know that a 30 yr old in the Qurbaha is someone that was born after 1990. By that point, a lot of Somalis already fled. You had a big community in London my 2000.

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Might be different family dynamics then? im the oldest boy and so is my father and never have our families depended on our sisters.
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How old are you?
R1ALIST said:
Once again ur speaking about somali women who aint got a husband im speakin about a normal two parents household not the dysfunctional ones where the women wear pants.
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This isn’t about dysfunction. Some of my friends families you could argue are dysfunctional but some are not. There fathers are in their late 60s, early 70s so why wouldn’t they give their father money??? He’s an old man. Also, kids routinely pool together so that their parents can get even more.
 
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Yaraye said:
Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?
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i'd tell him to go f*ck himself :pachah1:

how is this even a question?

I'd be taking care of my poor hooyo
 
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Not every woman is the same some wanna be the head of the house I'm sure you have seen people who have grown old together where the woman is the head of the house with the man at her every beck and call and they last so it depends on the woman you meet really and how insecure in himself the guy is :mjdontkno:

Many guys don't know there worth and don't mind being in relationships like that
 
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Javelin said:
Not every woman is the same some wanna be the head of the house I'm sure you have seen people who have grown old together where the woman is the head of the house with the man at her every beck and call and they last so it depends on the woman you meet really and how much of a gimp the guy is :mjdontkno:
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Angelina said:
Why would I lie about such an innocent point? Also, how old are you? Also, I’m talking about odayal who used to live in the West but went back when their kids were teens or adults. It’s common and I see it all the time, so why argue with me over something I see all the time. Literally TWO of my uncles have moved back. Btw, I’m in my late 20s about to turn 30. We are not a minority. Somalis first started flooding to the West by 1989 which is when the war first started, so what are you talking about. Majority of my friends were either born in the UK like myself or at least came before 8. I just know you’re like a 21-25 yr old kid or a fob. Because you’d know that a 30 yr old in the Qurbaha is someone that was born after 1990. By that point, a lot of Somalis already fled. You had a big community in London my 2000.
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Lying for you come natural since you want to be right in every argument ur cure is to humble yourself and take a step back. The war happend 1990 most came long after and most were single young men who had to wait for citizenship , study learn the language and get a job which took many years. Majority Somali kids are 12-26 in the west.

Anyway we can disprove it rn how many of the people on Somalispot parents moved back home?
Angelina said:
How old are you?
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Old enough to be a provider.
Angelina said:
This isn’t about dysfunction. Some of my friends families you could argue are dysfunctional but some are not. There fathers are in their late 60s, early 70s so why wouldn’t they give their father money??? He’s an old man. Also, kids routinely pool together so that their parents can get even more.
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For f*ck sake a hooyo mataalo kid giving money to their parents who raised them aint a issue esp if they are single and educated. What i said was its the husbands job to provide for his wifes family who are back home which is what most Somali men do notice the ”men”. If a women without any husband sends money back home its because of circumstances (no provider in the household).
 
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R1ALIST said:
Lying for you come natural since you want to be right in every argument ur cure is to humble yourself and take a step back. The war happend 1990 most came long after and most were single young men who had to wait for citizenship , study learn the language and get a job which took many years. Majority Somali kids are 12-26 in the west.
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Show me a time that I lied? Why would I lie over something so basic? You need to humble you self kid and it says a lot you’re not telling me your age. Also, by late 80s the country was unstable and many were leaving. From 1988 to 1990, the Somali Armed Forces began engaging in combat against various armed rebel groups.

I was born and raised in the West and I grew with a lot of Somalis who grew up in the West as well. Why would you talk about something you don’t know about? Clearly you’re a kid under 25 or you’re not from the UK. So maybe you need to stop talking about what you don’t know. Also, what studying are you talking about? A lot out fathers started of as taxi drivers and dead end up jobs and no, many came with their wives! Or their wives came and had to rip their passports before landing! You have no clue, yet you’re arguing which makes it hella frustrating. You don’t even know that there was a big Isaaq community in places like East London, Sheffield and Wales even in the mid 80s who were able to bring their families by late 80s and early 90s.


R1ALIST said:
Anyway we can disprove it rn how many of the people on Somalispot parents moved back home?

Old enough to be a provider.

For f*ck sake a hooyo mataalo kid giving money to their parents who raised them aint a issue esp if they are single and educated.
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That was my whole argument. What are talking about?
R1ALIST said:
What i said was its the husbands job to provide for his wifes family who are back home which is what most Somali men do notice the ”men”. If a women without any husband sends money back home its because of circumstances (no provider in the household).
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Okay, are you saying anything new here? Who is even talking about that?

Also, you’re flipping disrespectful little kid. If you’re going to call people a liar come with facts Warya. Imagine calling someone a liar for saying that there are a lot of people between 28-32 raised in the West? Do think all my age group are fobs? Where do you think the stories come from with Jamaicans bulling and coming for Somalis come from? My generation in high school.

I’ve had enough of these silly Gen Zs who think they know it all. Or you either that or a fob.

So let’s settle this, how old are you warya.
 
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