Are you willing to send money to your father, his 2nd wife, and her kids in Somalia?

[Yaraye]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

 

[Odious Delirium]

Islamically speaking you and your assets belong to your father.
But I don't have to worry about this scenario

 

[Yaraye]

Islamically speaking you and your assets belong to your father.
But I don't have to worry about this scenario

I know that. The question is: enough money for your father only? or enough money for all?

 

[niggaibnh]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

The problem about me is that I’m very kind person
Let’s say my father had second wife and childrens
I would be giving the money because I care for that women and her children not because of my father

 

[Odious Delirium]

I know that. The question is: enough money for your father only? or enough money for all?

Well whatever he asks since its all his

 

[Yaraye]

The problem about me is that I’m very kind person
Let’s say my father had second wife and childrens
I would be giving the money because I care for that women and her children not because of my father

you care for the other wife?

 

[niggaibnh]

Islamically speaking you and your assets belong to your father.
But I don't have to worry about this scenario

Depends
I got my teacher who said it depends on situations for example
If I was making money and it was for my mother and my siblings but my father asked for the money for his second wife and her children then I’m allowed to say no because that money will cause me harm

 

[Richard Pearson]

I had a friend in this scenario his dad was a former banker, his dad contacted him and he told his dad he was a banker for so many years how are you this financially illiterate and couldn't plan for a retirement in a third-world country and hung up the phone on him.

 

[niggaibnh]

you care for the other wife?

Yes she is miskeen who ended up in this situation. Who is going to help her if I don’t ? Especially children which I hate seeing them struggle

 

[Yaraye]

I had a friend in this scenario his dad was a former banker, his dad contacted him and he told his dad he was a banker for so many years how are you this financially illiterate and couldn't plan for a retirement in a third-world country and hung up the phone on him.

was the money only for the father? or did your friend's father want your friend to bill his father's 2nd fam too?

 

[niggaibnh]

Yes she is miskeen who ended up in this situation. Who is going to help her if I don’t ? Especially children which I hate seeing them struggle

Even let’s say if she becomes single mother after my father divorce her. I would still help her and give her money in order to survive

 

[Yaraye]

Yes she is miskeen who ended up in this situation. Who is going to help her if I don’t ? Especially children which I hate seeing them struggle

So you're willing to send money every month for years until those kids grow up and get to work?

 

[Yaraye]

Even let’s say if she becomes single mother after my father divorce her. I would still help her and give her money in order to survive

So you'd make it your obligation? if it gets in the way of your own fam, what u gonna do?

 

[niggaibnh]

So you're willing to send money every month for years until those kids grow up and get to work?

Of course
Sure it was my father fault but I will help them financially and teach them anything I can.

 

[Richard Pearson]

was the money only for the father? or did your friend's father want your friend to bill his father's 2nd fam too?

I didn't ask too many questions my friend was kinda just venting to me. I was just listening and nodding my head. Anytime he would ask me what I would do if I were him I kinda just gave a very vague inconclusive answer

 

[Wild daisy 💐🌻💮]

No, it's his fault if he can't provide for his second wife and children. If he's not financially stable, he shouldn't marry. I'm not going to cut my wage in this shitty US economy to support him.

 

[niggaibnh]

So you'd make it your obligation? if it gets in the way of your own fam, what u gonna do?

To be honest that’s something I wouldn’t have answer for. Surly my family and the 2 wife family would try to understand each other and help out but again that’s fairytales

I’ve got uncle who did this and left both families but his son provided for both the families so I looked up to him.

 

[Dualke]

Yeah but I'd guilt trip him into giving me property or something. I'd need to make a profit from him

 

[Yaraye]

Of course
Sure it was my father fault but I will help them financially and teach them anything I can.

Ok got that. Let's say, you footed the bills for years now the kids are at a collage age and need to go to college. Somalia is still not established, so they need to go abroad for college. Your father and his wife ask you to bring them to the west and take care of them for the entire collage years. what you gonna do?

 

[Barni]

Lol hell no. Having one family is enough, why have two if u can’t provide.