Are Somalis who never marry target of gossip?

[Wervelwind]

Do you think they're talked about behind the back by the community?

 

[Sumaaya]

If a nosey aunt was to ask why am I not married, I would chuckle and say "Habo, ma nin ba ii haysa?"


I wouldn't even feel offended

 

[Sumaaya]

Do you think they're talked about behind the back by the community?

It's the Qadar of Allah SWT besides what is the worst they can say?

"Inanti weli lama guursan, way soo taagan tahay un"

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

Yes they be seen as loosers if men and undesirable if Woman

 

[Sumaaya]

Yes they be seen as loosers if men and undesirable if Woman

undesirable?

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

undesirable?

Yes like our culture sees a Woman who never married and is 40 as a lost case

 

[Sumaaya]

Yes like our culture sees a Woman who never married and is 40 as a lost case

Yeah but the original poster didn't mention age

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

Yeah but the original poster didn't mention age

I understand "never marry" as in they never marry till they die

 

[QueenofKings]

Do you think they're talked about behind the back by the community?

People talk but usually it’s in a sympathetic way not a mean tone.

It’s calaf, and any adult Muslim should be understanding of that.

That said in my experience some people are single for a reason, because they don’t give anyone a chance.

 

[Mercury]

People talk but usually it’s in a sympathetic way not a mean tone.

It’s calaf, and any adult Muslim should be understanding of that.

That said in my experience some people are single for a reason, because they don’t give anyone a chance.

I think with all the stories on social media of somali divorces people are more cautious when it comes to marriage

 

[Hali]

Somalis like to talk about everything so it doesn’t matter what you’re doing someone’s gossiping.

 

[Wervelwind]

Somalis like to talk about everything so it doesn’t matter what you’re doing someone’s gossiping.

That's the realest shit

 

[Sloane Ranger]

And how many Somalis never get married at all ? This is a non-issue. Some people may get married later but not all is extremely unlikely.

 

[so_wavey]

And how many Somalis never get married at all ? This is a non-issue. Some people may get married later but not all is extremely unlikely.

it happens i know few who are in the 60s and never married

 

[J-Rasta]

Who gives a flying f*ck to what they have to say .

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[gabar_wa_hooyadeed]

I know a handful of ppl, both men and women, who are 50+ and never married, most have great careers/run their own business. I've seen people try to hold up the women as cautionary tales but other then that not much.

 

[Basra]

Do you think they're talked about behind the back by the community?

nobody should care about what other talk behind your back. I guarantee you the talking is massive, thats why u should not care.

I have a single uncle in his 50s , he always slap us by the face when we demand why he is not married.


He says : Its not my Calaaf yet. ( its not Gods will yet)

 

[Ghengis Kaarhis]

If a nosey aunt was to ask why am I not married, I would chuckle and say "Habo, ma nin ba ii haysa?"


I wouldn't even feel offended

what if she hits you an i actually do

 

[Sloane Ranger]

what if she hits you an i actually do

That is one of my worst fears. I told my mum that I'd say this to her noisy friend next time she questions me and she said " her son is single don't tempt her".

 

[Sumaaya]

what if she hits you an i actually do

I'm gona say haye maxaa meesha ku haysa?