Are my standards too high?

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I’m a guy who’s in his mid 20s and I’m at a point where I really need to start thinking seriously about marriage and I’m curious if my standards are higher, lower or Average for a typical Somali guy.

1. I want a somali wife. The idea of marrying a ajanabi is alien to me and I’d feel like I’d just be so disconnected from them, not to mention marriage is more than a connection between two people but a connection between different families, I seriously don’t know how intercultural/interracial marriages work out but I’d suspect it’s really challenging. Somali women are also just beautiful on another level to me, there’s a unique love I have for them that I don’t think I could have with non-Somalis.

2. She has to be Muslim. As long as she believes in god I’m okay, she doesn’t have to be a great Muslim just one whose faith is there. I can’t imagine marrying a gaal.

3. She has to be chaste. As someone who’s been chaste and avoided attention from women their whole lives I’d expect the same of my partner. Basically someone who’s stayed away from anything sexual towards another person physically, I don’t care if they masturbate or have watched “corn”.

4. She needs to be at least kinda cute/pretty, I need to find something about her that I like, whether that’s her eyes or something else, she can be a 3/10 to other people as long as she’s at least a 7/10 in my eyes.

5. she’s can’t be morbidly obese, I don’t mind her being overweight to a degree but when she start to look physically disfigured then I can’t say yes to that, in other words I’d expect no higher than a BMI of around 28, I don’t mind some chub chub.

6. I need a sweet and kind women, one who’s very caring and is quick to offer love and help towards those in need and I mean for anyone not just myself. Something about loving and caring women is so attractive to me that if she was physically a 5/10 she’d jump to a 10/10 if she was a kind and caring human being. Behaviour overrides looks to me in that regard.

7. she can’t be too much younger or older than me, I’d say around 22-28 is the sweet spot for me as they’d at least be around my age, marrying women who’re too much younger feels like I’d be taking care of a daughter and marrying women who too much older would feel like I’m being looked after by a mother lol. I prefer a partner who’s closer in mental maturity/experience to me.

All in all that’s my standards, I know however that peoples standards are flexible when they meet someone they genuinely like so I’d probably be flexible too.

Your standards are average, not too high. There are plenty of beautiful chaste good-mannered Muslim Somali woman out there. You’ll find plenty back home. Just speak to your dad, uncles and close relatives to hook you up with one.

 

[King Khufu]

birds of a feather flock together. If those are the only type of women you run into, then you also are most likely a iyal sooq

Am not being as extreme as the fingers you point.

Feel free to be as who you are, just be moral or otherwise trouble is on you there.

 

[jemappelle]

Your list is much smaller than mine, you will find a girl like that easily