Anyone know how to get married?

[Mz277]

I’ve used muzwatch, ladies there are so picky and have so much entitlement, it’s a garbage app.

I graduated from uni, and I’m working now, and I feel I'm ready.

Unfortunately nowadays, with technology apps such as muzwatch are one of the most sought after finding a spouse. It isn’t working, is there another way?

 

[Lowkey]

I’ve used muzwatch, ladies there are so picky and have so much entitlement, it’s a garbage app.

I graduated from uni, and I’m working now, and I feel I'm ready.

Unfortunately nowadays, with technology apps such as muzwatch are one of the most sought after finding a spouse. It isn’t working, is there another way?

Go to ur local makhaayad and ask one of the adeers for their daughter hand. Make sure u show them the lacag tho

 

[Rocktheboat]

How are they entitled?

 

[Barni]

Most ppl dont meet their partners on muslim dating apps, just ask ur hooyo to find u someone.

 

[Yaraye]

ask around your friends, family friends, get the word out that your looking

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

You should have looked for someone in school where people are more open and nicer. It'll be tough for you until you hit your late 20s and 30s. That's when most peoples' picky standards start to go considerably down unless you're a 10% high value man/woman. But even then, it's not guaranteed you'll find anyone, especially if you don't regularly attend Somali events and groups to find them. You're going to have to do that.

 

[Kane]

I’ve used muzwatch, ladies there are so picky and have so much entitlement, it’s a garbage app.

I graduated from uni, and I’m working now, and I feel I'm ready.

Unfortunately nowadays, with technology apps such as muzwatch are one of the most sought after finding a spouse. It isn’t working, is there another way?

What traits do you have to intrigue women, since that’s the first stage of attraction?

 

[Mz277]

You should have looked for someone in school where people are more open and nicer. It'll be tough for you until you hit your late 20s and 30s. That's when most peoples' picky standards start to go considerably down unless you're a 10% high value man/woman. But even then, it's not guaranteed you'll find anyone, especially if you don't regularly attend Somali events and groups to find them. You're going to have to do that.

I’m 23 rn I don’t want to wait until my late 20s or into 30s. Like others said, it’s time to ask my mum or friends to find me a potential spouse.

 

[Juliet]

put yourself out there in community gatherings - don't stare at girls like a creep, go and talk to them


Imma start looking too

 

[Lostbox]

I don't really know how some guys can be struggling. With local mothers trying to set up their daughters with any decent guy or women taking an active approach in social events. Plus the rare few who send DM on social media attempting to chat you up.

You probably have a few childhood friends that are currently single. Why not start asking them if they are looking to settle down?

You don't really need to try much compared to other communities

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

I’ve used muzwatch, ladies there are so picky and have so much entitlement, it’s a garbage app.

I graduated from uni, and I’m working now, and I feel I'm ready.

Unfortunately nowadays, with technology apps such as muzwatch are one of the most sought after finding a spouse. It isn’t working, is there another way?

The perfect time, and only time for a man, to do so having got your life in good order.

You have got many options: If location is not a prohibitive factor, then how about tagging along with one, if not both of your parents on a trip back home, and find yourself a fine lass.

If no, then there are plenty of fine lasses in Minnesota, and London; as others said, send dear mother on a hunt, and in no time, you will be spoilt for choice.

Best of luck, mate.

 

[Mz277]

The perfect time, and only time for a man, to do so having got your life in good order.

You have got many options: If location is not a prohibitive factor, then how about tagging along with one, if not both of your parents on a trip back home, and find yourself a fine lass.

If no, then there are plenty of fine lasses in Minnesota, and London; as others said, send dear mother on a hunt, and in no time, you will be spoilt for choice.

Best of luck, mate.

Like others said here, talking to your mum and or friends to find you a spouse, however I’m really an independent person who relies on myself finding a solution.

I feel like it’s best for me to find a potential spouse rather than relying on someone because they don’t know in my heart who i really prefer in terms of looks etc. Sometimes in life you have to act upon yourself.

Yes making others find you a spouse can help, but sometimes I feel it won’t work out, you got to meet with a girl by yourself (halal way) to truly get know them.

I live in London, and I’m open to many options elsewhere for a potential spouse.

But thanks for your output, I appreciate it.

 

[Mz277]

I also realised here in the U.K. there’s really bad social awkwardness between Somali men and women who was raised in the U.K.

What I mean is, there’s barely any communication between both genders. You see fobs doing much better in terms of flirting, talking to each other etc.

British born Somali women and men, only stare at each other, you go places such as events, even in shisha cafes, you see grown somali girls and somali boys sitting on the opposite sides not speaking to each other but have a weird stare.

This makes it harder to establish network and communication, making it difficult to get married and you see somali guys confident talking to other girls rather than their own somali girls.

This is my option, I’m not sure if other reer U.K. see this pattern as well, and I’m not sure about the communication between both somali genders elsewhere in USA canada etc.

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

I also realised here in the U.K. there’s really bad social awkwardness between Somali men and women who was raised in the U.K.

What I mean is, there’s barely any communication between both genders. You see fobs doing much better in terms of flirting, talking to each other etc.

British born Somali women and men, only stare at each other, you go places such as events, even in shisha cafes, you see grown somali girls and somali boys sitting on the opposite sides not speaking to each other but have a weird stare.

This makes it harder to establish network and communication, making it difficult to get married and you see somali guys confident talking to other girls rather than their own somali girls.

This is my option, I’m not sure if other reer U.K. see this pattern as well, and I’m not sure about the communication between both somali genders elsewhere in USA canada etc.

If in London, then there are aplenty to catch round the Thames.

If you do not mind my asking: a) What would you say are the 'must have' attributes of a potential wife?

 

[Mz277]

If in London, then there are aplenty to catch round the Thames.

If you do not mind my asking: a) What would you say are the 'must have' attributes of a potential wife?

The usual having Deen and knowing how to cook is key for me. Not brainwashed by feminism etc.

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

The usual having Deen and knowing how to cook is key for me. Not brainwashed by feminism etc.

Not a tall order then. So, not fussy about aestheticism? Good man.

How good is your deen? Can you cook yourself?

 

[Mz277]

Not a tall order then. So, not fussy about aestheticism? Good man.

How good is your deen? Can you cook yourself?

I’m trying my best to pray 5 times a day, read Quran etc, and to be honest I can’t cook.

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

I don't really know how some guys can be struggling.

Hypergamy on steroids thanks to social media. Younger women after uni/college are very picky and will reject or ignore average men because they don't think they are average until they are no longer in a position to do so and realize they are just average. It's why if you're interested in getting married sooner rather than later and an average guy to prioritize it while in school.

If you're a top 20% Somali, it's in your interest to wait until you reach 30. You can get any woman you want then.

If you are at the bottom 10%, you'll remain single forever involuntarily.

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

I’m trying my best to pray 5 times a day, read Quran etc, and to be honest I can’t cook.

See, if I were a fine lady out looking for a potential husband, I would not be attracted to you, thinking I could do better.

However, you do realise, if you were to increase your knowledege of Islam past praying 5 times viz. seeking wisdom, volunteering, pursuing Islamic studies, attending conferences etc., and learn how to cook, you will be the finest catch in town. There is nothing more attractive than a young man, who knows his way round the kitchen.

 

[killerxsmoke]

I’m 23 rn I don’t want to wait until my late 20s or into 30s. Like others said, it’s time to ask my mum or friends to find me a potential spouse.

Bro am already 24 and I have already dodge 2 potential wives my dad wanted me to marry to, happened around when I was 22