All posted in the last month on r/Somalia

[onthecloud]

is gonna hit the fan and guys like @onthecloud will get to live out their revenge fantasy. They’ll ignore the fact that they probably have sisters in that position due to no fault of their own.

*Woman rejects 5 men equivalent to her that expressed interest in her because she thought she could do way better*

5 years later

*Where did all the good guys go? This is Somali wide crisis!*

Shit won't fit the fan. Nothing will happen except more single people thanks to Somali women who are picky. These women will be picky over being 6 months older than you or being 5 feet 10. They will find any reason to reject you even including if you don't have the same hobbies as them. Women have strong negative emotions and with Somali women, it's even greater.

 

[Chaseyourdreamzz]

is gonna hit the fan and guys like @onthecloud will get to live out their revenge fantasy. They’ll ignore the fact that they probably have sisters in that position due to no fault of their own.

Damn What do you think the solution is for both sides

 

[onthecloud]

They expect women to just roll out the red carpet for any man that comes to their door regardless of what he is. I blame the rhetoric over the last 10 years about there not being enough good Somali guys. It’s why some Millennial Somali guys have such a weird ego that you rarely see in gen z Somali guys or even older Somali men. They think because they aren’t a total degenerate than every girl should want them.

If Somali women are going to reject guys who went to university or community college with them, then the problem is them. Isn't that they wanted, a man with a degree which makes him a "good man"? Dont cry when you let them slip away 5 to 10 years later.

Damn it’s that bad out here huh What do you think the solution is for both sides

Don't let them lie to you. Dont you know like 10 Somali men who would make good husbands and fathers and make decent income? What they're saying is bullshit. They're just denying men they think they can do better than until its too late and start to cry.

 

[Ikranay]

Damn What do you think the solution is for both sides

It’s mainly due to how awkward both genders are around each other from when they are younger. No one is going to help you out so just be more social and pleasant to be around. For the younger ones on here I’d say advantage of college and go to your events. Or get involved in the masjid so your name is known by others.

it really boils down to how disconnected people are. More often than not what I hear from Somali women is how can I “meet” Somali men as opposed to how come there is no “good” ones. The later just gets more attention from some guys.

 

[Ikranay]

If Somali women are going to reject guys who went to university or community college with them, then the problem is them. Isn't that they wanted, a man with a degree which makes him a "good man"? Dont cry when you let them slip away 5 to 10 years later.



Don't let them lie to you. Dont you know like 10 Somali men who would make good husbands and fathers and make decent income? What they're saying is bullshit. They're just denying men they think they can do better than until its too late and start to cry.

Lol the good Somali guys chasing after the same 5-10 girls in university and ignoring the dozens that would’ve married them then and there for who they were are not going to get my sympathy. These are the only women they see in their minds. In a place where the ratio of guys to girls was 1:3 and not at least one of them liking you is hard to believe. I can understand a girl finding a hard time because of the numbers but not a man unless he was very short (under 5ft 7).

 

[Ikranay]

*Woman rejects 5 men equivalent to her that expressed interest in her because she thought she could do way better*

5 years later

*Where did all the good guys go? This is Somali wide crisis!*

Shit won't fit the fan. Nothing will happen except more single people thanks to Somali women who are picky. These women will be picky over being 6 months older than you or being 5 feet 10. They will find any reason to reject you even including if you don't have the same hobbies as them. Women have strong negative emotions and with Somali women, it's even greater.

The ratio back then for guys to girls was like 1:3 or 1:4. You’re telling me in that environment not one girl was interested? Or did you only approach certain types of Somali girls and ignore the rest?

 

[Ikranay]

*Woman rejects 5 men equivalent to her that expressed interest in her because she thought she could do way better*

5 years later

*Where did all the good guys go? This is Somali wide crisis!*

Shit won't fit the fan. Nothing will happen except more single people thanks to Somali women who are picky. These women will be picky over being 6 months older than you or being 5 feet 10. They will find any reason to reject you even including if you don't have the same hobbies as them. Women have strong negative emotions and with Somali women, it's even greater.

You have very personal gripes with Somali women. You’re using very specific examples (which honestly sound personal) and think this is the experience for all Somali guys/women. Majority of Somali men will tell you how easy it is to get married in the west. They usually approach women that are equal to them in appearance, deen, and profession. They even brag about it to ajanabi men. I’ve had Arab and brown Muslim men tell me how they wish their community was like ours and how easy we make it for the men. But yes Somali women are uniquely picky and that’s why they don’t get married. It’s not like Somali men doing security and warehouse jobs aren’t getting married but Muslim men in other communities are getting rejected because they are not engineers.

 

[onthecloud]

Lol the good Somali guys chasing after the same 5-10 girls in university and ignoring the dozens that would’ve married them then and there for who they were are not going to get my sympathy. In a place where the ratio of guys to girls was 1:3 and not at least one of them liking you is hard to believe. I can understand a girl go finding a hard time because of the numbers but not a man unless he was very short (under 5ft 7).

You made a thread saying you rejected multiple men. Somehow they are not good enough for you.

The ratio back then for guys to girls was like 1:3 or 1:4. You’re telling me in that environment not one girl was interested? Or did you only approach certain types of Somali girls and ignore the rest?

I approached 5/10 to 7/10 women, not beautiful ones. I don't care anymore. I'm just annoyed by the lies and fake crocodile tears. I'm talking to someone 6 years younger that's serious and better looking than all of them. I would never look at someone over 25 after what I went through and most Somali men won't either. Once you hit 25, you're usually only being regretful.

Majority of Somali men will tell you how easy it is to get married in the west

It's extremely easy for Somali men to get married.... after 25.

 

[Ikranay]

You made a thread saying you rejected multiple men. Somehow they are not good enough for you.



I approached 5/10 to 7/10 women, not beautiful ones. I don't care anymore. I'm just annoyed by the lies and fake crocodile tears. I'm talking to someone 6 years younger that's serious and better looking than all of them. I would never look at someone over 25 after what I went through. Once you hit 25, you're usually only being regretful.



It's extremely easy for Somali men to get married.... after 25.

The guys I rejected were bat shit crazy and had very serious issues. Or they were obese which is perfectly reasonable. And I’ve been rejected before by Somali guys i don’t have a big complex and internalize it. I was also ugly back then and was self aware enough to know that was my biggest hurdle. I get more attention now then I did at 20-23 and oddly enough by the same guys that used to give me the stank eye.

I’m from Toronto lol you have no idea what the options were like back then. It was extremely lopsided and most young men who were interested in getting married could not afford to do so and delayed it themselves. Then you have the number of guys that were killed, had severe substance abuse problems, or locked up.

yes it’s easier for men to get married after they have established themselves. This is true since the beginning of time but you’re the only group of men that have issue with this. Literally never have I seen any group of Muslim men be upset by this standard even though their financial expectations are generally much higher than yours.

 

[onthecloud]

The guys I rejected were bat shit crazy and had very serious issues. Or they were obese which is perfectly reasonable. And I’ve been rejected before by Somali guys i don’t have a big complex and internalize it. I was also ugly back then and was self aware enough to know that was my biggest hurdle. I get more attention now then I did at 20-23 and oddly enough by the same guys that used to give me the stank eye.

I’m from Toronto lol you have no idea what the options were like back then. It was extremely lopsided and most young men who were interested in getting married could not afford to do so and delayed it themselves. Then you have the number of guys that were killed, had severe substance abuse problems, or locked up.

yes it’s easier for men to get married after they have established themselves. This is true since the beginning of time but you’re the only group of men that have issue with this. Literally never have I seen any group of Muslim men be upset by this standard even though their financial expectations are generally much higher than yours.

What a lie. Muslims get married in their early 20s. Whites start their zina relationships and live with each other at that age too if they don't get married. Only Somali women want men to be established and not build up with them. They want to wait at the finish line. That's fine but we won the gold woman, not the bronze woman. Deny us in your prime, we will reject you in your decline. You just said you get interest now. Make it make sense.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Wallahi I think it’s best we address the marriage issue now with the youth before it gets out of hand years Down the line imo

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[Ikranay]

What a lie. Muslims get married in their early 20s. Whites start their zina relationships and live with each other at that age too if they don't get married. Only Somali women want men to be established and not build up with them. They want to wait at the finish line. That's fine but we won the gold woman, not the bronze woman. Deny us in your prime, we will reject you in your decline. You just said you get interest now. Make it make sense.

I get more attention now from the same guys who used to ignore me and were rude to me in university. These were the same quiet Somali guys that love to complain about getting over looked. You guys act like you were victimized because a handful of girls rejected your awkward advances. Idc if you get what you want later in life I’m not an ill hearted hater like some of you guys.

These girl get married young because their culture encourages financially supporting young couples by allowing them to live with their in laws. Somalis don’t do this because most of our parents cannot afford to do that (big families and small housing). There is also a greater emphasis in their cultures for young men to get married. Somalis guys are not hounded as much as say a Pakistani guy to get married. Somali women marry guys that aren’t financially all the way there all the time you keep ignoring that. Many marry guys doing security and Uber but you seem to overlook them.

You refuse to keep an open mind about why people have a hard time because of your own anger. Your posts have no nuance it’s just your own personal experiences and some red pill nonsense.

 

[Abu Hesi]

Qooq season

May Allah make it easy for the brothers and sisters seeking marriage.