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Khaem

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We have a crisis. This will result in more mixed children
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Two more new marriage posts in less than 24 hours. It's official, r/Somalia has been infiltrated and taken over by unmarried folks.


I actually like these two posts. The first person explained some things for those who might not know. The other one begins a dialogue on why people can’t get help from their parents. The ones making these two could be married folk.
 
Another new post with 100+ comments hahaha that subreddit is the gift that keeps on giving. This one sounds like it was written by @DangerBadan lol

This sounds like a man wrote it.
I don't care. I was rejected by over 10 Somali women when I was in university. Everyone I approached rejected me. All of them single still. Now I am 28 and not as youthful and more boring and somehow a dozen women approach me or my parents for marriage since I became 27. Somali men are not fools. You all reject Somali men when they're young and cry after. We will never have sympathy to the crisis they created.
We don’t get everything we want in life. We all get rejected sometimes. Let it go walaal.

Also, it’s very hard to believe a dozen women doing the approaching. Especially if they are Muslim and Somali.
 
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I don't care. I was rejected by over 10 Somali women when I was in university. Everyone I approached rejected me. All of them single still. Now I am 28 and not as youthful and more boring and somehow a dozen women approach me or my parents for marriage since I became 27. Somali men are not fools. You all reject Somali men when they're young and cry after. We will never have sympathy to the crisis they created.
oh....so you're bitter :tacky:
 
This sounds like a man wrote it.

We don’t get everything we want in life. We all get rejected sometimes. Let it go walaal.

Also, it’s very hard to believe a dozen women doing the approaching. Especially if they are Muslim and Somali.

I was pointing out the type of people who are complaining now.... late 20s women who rejected men years ago. No one should feel sorry for them if they complain. Yes, they did approach. At weddings, in my dm, their parents to my parents, through mutual friends. It happens alot now. It's been around a dozen in less than two years wallahi.
 
Wallahi I think it’s best we address the marriage issue now with the youth before it gets out of hand years Down the line imo

Most have had someone approach them or their parents bring them someone. I don't think that's the community's issue to handle. It's for the individual to handle. It's an individual crisis, not a community one. Even those who are always home, mothers know best and will suggest her someone best suited for them. They won't bring someone out of her league but also won't bring a loser. But they refuse. They need to stop complaining.
 
I was pointing out the type of people who are complaining now.... late 20s women who rejected men years ago. No one should feel sorry for them if they complain. Yes, they did approach. At weddings, in my dm, their parents to my parents, through mutual friends. It happens alot now. It's been around a dozen in less than two years wallahi.
How do you know for sure they were rejecting people back then? And even if they were, don’t they have a right to say no if they were not genuinely interested? It would be a lot of worse for them to say yes and to try to fake it in an actual marriage.
 
What makes you say that? I don't think anything weird was said, some women on this forum have expressed the same thing.
It sounds like a man trying to start something. I seen people on here that I think are male say stuff like this about women. It’s belittling in a way.
 
How do you know for sure they were rejecting people back then? And even if they were, don’t they have a right to say no if they were not genuinely interested? It would be a lot of worse for them to say yes and to try to fake it in an actual marriage.

They are. The same people who write those sob stories on Reddit usually mention they didn't like the options they spoke to. There's few women who legitimately have zero options.... their parents will come to them with a prospect they reject. They can reject whoever they like for whatever reason but please don't come crying to the community later. Being unable to secure the idea of your future husband in your head doesn't make it the community's pressing issue. It's just your issue. Its possible a lot of them got the evil eye or are being punished by Allah swt for rejecting reasonable enough men that came their way because they rejected the deens guidance of marrying young.
 

Leila

Wanaag iyo Dhiig kar
Looks like we need Somali marriage bureau, the Indians and Pakistanis have the same thing .
 
That's a lie. The community knows what the issue is. The masjids know. Your parents know. The men know. The women themselves know the men they rejected. Somali men are not the reason for the bad choices some women decide to make. Stop Somali men blaming.
loool haye believe what you want.
 
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I was pointing out the type of people who are complaining now.... late 20s women who rejected men years ago. No one should feel sorry for them if they complain. Yes, they did approach. At weddings, in my dm, they’re parents to my parents, through mutual friends. It happens alot now. It's been around a dozen in less than two years wallahi.
your experiences are not the experiences for all women. There are women who didn’t get approached like that or they were approached by weird, mentally unstable, or criminals, or guys that were trying to get to the west. There’s also young women in their early 20s that couldn’t find someone how do you explain that? Not every Somali family looks for their daughters and not every women is well connected to the community. Women also get rejected while they are young and have broken talking stages or engagements. Just because women get approached more does not mean it leads to marriage.
The women that complain are those that are more religious, kept to themselves and aren’t on social media like that. They are also deemed boring by “good” Somali guys.
 
They deserve it for rejecting Somali men in their early 20s because they thought they could do better. You said you rejected good men in a comment of yours I saw. Nothing xaasid about what I said. Anyone who rejected men while younger should not be crying now.
You expect women to take anything that comes their way but you yourselves would never do they same. You also refuse to consider individual circumstances but think yours should define other people’s outcomes. It’s not uncommon with Somali guys.
 
How do you know for sure they were rejecting people back then? And even if they were, don’t they have a right to say no if they were not genuinely interested? It would be a lot of worse for them to say yes and to try to fake it in an actual marriage.
They don’t lol they just use their own experiences and generalize for the whole community. Most of the Reddit complaints are girls who aren’t getting any type of support so his points don’t even apply.
 
How do you know for sure they were rejecting people back then? And even if they were, don’t they have a right to say no if they were not genuinely interested? It would be a lot of worse for them to say yes and to try to fake it in an actual marriage.
They expect women to just roll out the red carpet for any man that comes to their door regardless of what he is. I blame the rhetoric over the last 10 years about there not being enough good Somali guys. It’s why some Millennial Somali guys have such a weird ego that you rarely see in gen z Somali guys or even older Somali men. They think because they aren’t a total degenerate that every girl should want them.
 
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